How to survive a party, if you are an introvert

Introverts do not need noisy companies, they relax alone or in a circle of close friends. But social events, with crowds of people partying and holidays do not disappear, and how to introvert tried, some still have to visit. Here are a few tips on how to go through a noisy party with a bunch of people and the small talk and get away from this experience only negative emotions.

Know when comes the horrifying

Socialization is inevitable and quite normal, even for introverts. Be that as it may, there is a situation that will be useful for introverts and others can be avoided, without losing anything.

What can you avoid

1. Weekly gatherings in the bar or cafe. There is a total misconception that often relax in the bar with a large gathering of people a lot of fun and cool, but you may well avoid these gatherings and to better use their energy.
2. Weddings, parties and other activities of the people you do not know very well. For some to go to the wedding of a cousin's best friend's very cool and fun, but if you're an introvert, it is possible to avoid such fun, and no one would be offended (of course, if you do not need to accompany the other an introvert, who without you would be very bad).
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3. Hiking somewhere to meet new people. If you are single, and it no longer suits you, you need to go somewhere to become acquainted with potential friends. If you have decided on it - perfect, in fact meet in person it's better than all the time in touch on the Internet. But if you are not ready to meet and make new acquaintances, no one is forcing you. Delay time as long as necessary.

What will not work to avoid

1. Events at work, corporate parties and meetings It is not included in your personal life, and you have to communicate with employees, even if they do not like you very much. Of course, you can find a profession that does not involve dealing with people, but if you are still working in a team, to move up the career ladder alone will be almost impossible.
2. Special Events of close friends and family members a must to visit. Whether it's my sister's wedding, birthday or best friend celebrating some significant dates with relatives - you are bound to come. We all have social obligations, even if sometimes they resemble the test.
3. Your personal significant events. Of course, you can do nothing at all, not to gather friends and throw a noisy party. But not the fact that your friends do not want to arrange for you. If you organize a holiday for yourself, although you may have to monitor the size and format as a plus.

So, despite your dislike of noisy companies still have events that did not turn out to avoid. And here are some ways to not only get annoyed about it, but also get some fun.

Think of a goal

It seems that the goal is not strongly combined with the pleasure of parties, but if you do, and so do not get enjoy the noisy gatherings, then think of yourself a few quests, and you will have at least some sense communicate.

For example, if you go to corporate to advance their careers, try to communicate with people who can help. If you're going to a friend's birthday, give him a lot of attention, and if you want to diversify your social circle (or start it), select the most attractive strangers and try to communicate with them.

The specific objective will help you clearly understand why you are in this "horrible place". And, more importantly, it will help you stay focused.

When a noisy gathering of people, introverts attacks are too big for them, the flow of external stimuli, which is confusing and makes you feel miserable. If you come up with for yourself a specific goal, your brain will focus on its execution, and loud music, the lights and the noise of talk will not be so noticeable and annoying.

Stay at rest before and after the party

Why extroverts are so fond of noisy gatherings and parties? Because they are recharged by communicating with other people and a continuous flow of external stimuli. Introverts, on the contrary, reduced energy alone, and spend it in the community.

Before you spend your energy on communication and new acquaintances, you have to buy it first. Before the event to try for some time to be alone and to do some favorite things: read a book, listen to music or to revise a series favorite series.

After the party and try to free up time for favorite activities, to restore the power supply, and is not planning any public events for the next day. If you fail to avoid this, try to leave the party early, so you have a few quiet hours before bedtime.

This not only helps you to relax and recover, but will change its attitude towards the noisy gatherings and parties. After all, if you come to the event without the usual depression and fatigue, then you'll be more likely to wait until the next such event, and not be afraid of him.

Find a place where you can relax

Let's say you full of energy to the party, but that does not mean that your forces accurately enough for the whole event. So as soon as you arrive to the venue, to find themselves "safe haven" where you can be at the event to hide and rest. This may be a kitchen, bathroom, balcony or even your car.

A few minutes alone will help you relax from external stimuli, which are so strongly affect the introverts.

Even easier, if you are on his party. Here you can not find a place to rest, and to arrange it yourself. For example, make the bedroom a balcony or a special place for introverts, where you and the people with similar behavioral type will be able to take a break.

Master the new social space with the help of friends

Not all introverts are shy, but still, this personality type is often associated with some problems in communication, especially with new people. If you can not just get to know someone, this will help friends.

For example, let-extrovert one will start a dialogue with the new person, and then you join the conversation. Or in another way: you can start a conversation with a friend, and then engage in their discussion of strangers.

Ask a stranger who will come to you, or the one who listens to your conversation, what he thinks about it. So you can talk on a topic interesting to you, it is much more comfortable for the introvert than small talk about anything.

Not bad if you have a few friends, sociable extroverts. They usually do not sit long in one place, constantly communicating with one group of people, and move from one company to another, make new acquaintances.

You can always use it to communicate with new people, or to get away from those you do not like. For example, you understand that stuck with someone who is unpleasant to you. Just say that you need to communicate with another X. Go away, looking for him, communicate with him and in the process with all those who at this time with him.

Take small talk as part of life

You can hardly get to meet new people without ordinary conversations. It is clear that you can talk for hours on topics that interest you, but most people would say that it is boring.

Small talk unite people, quite distant from each other: What are you, where you live, who you know, what you think about some event, and so on. All this is necessary to discuss before you are moving on to more interesting topics for you.

There is no universal tool that will help you behave such talk, but to agree with the need to have them. Remember two things that will help you find it easier to treat such conversations:

1. People interested in you. It may seem that the interlocutors do not care who you are and what you're doing, and they ask out of politeness. Sometimes it is true, but not always. Most often people really interesting when they are interested in your work or hobbies, especially if you have something in common.
2. You get what you are giving. You will receive from the party that put into it. You may have to try to make yourself acquainted with new people, but in the end you will be surprised how many new acquaintances and pleasant experiences you get from it. And if someone does not want to talk to you, it's not your fault. You did everything you could.

Unless you think that has met all the interesting people in the world and society will be enough until the end of life, it's worth to get acquainted with someone else.

Surely you will fall at least one interesting person. Most importantly, this person also wants you to find him, and small talk - it's just a way to meet and understand that you are nice to each other.

Come up with a plan of retreat

If your energy reserves are rapidly coming to an end, and you feel that it is necessary to urgently dump, force yourself to communicate more - it's not the most pleasant experience.

Nevertheless, it may well happen if you, for example, arrived on the same machine with your friends. If this is your car, you can not leave without taking them. Will not as a friend, you spoil them fun and, most of all, their relationship.

If this machine friends, too little pleasant. So it is better to think of how you will get to the house, to be able to do this at any time, when you want.

While not the fact that you leave a party before everyone else, but having the opportunity, you will feel more confident.

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That's all that we can advise about introverts parties. And you have your own way to feel more comfortable in noisy events?