Why is it necessary to talk about their success and how to do it right
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Elena Volodina
Head of the project "Ladies @ Mail. Ru ». Profile in Instagram - @joecooker.
We were brought up with the installation of that before you express an opinion, it is necessary to raise a hand. Before you enter - a polite knock. That "dry out" indecent modesty adorns the man, and "upstart" - this is not a compliment. This is one of the reasons why we are so bad know how to "sell" themselves, and yet there is nothing to be ashamed of in self-praise. It should learn how to talk about their success.
Recently I had an interesting dialogue with one girl.
- I want recognition!
- From whom?
- From friends. So they know what I'm doing interesting and important work.
- And how do they know about it? You have a narrow specialization. They know in your work, to evaluate it? Read trade magazines?
- Not.
- Then how do they even know about it?
— ….
- From you! Then the question to you, that you tell your friends about your work. It deals exclusively positioning. We can say "I do organizational garbage" (as you think), but you can - "I am an expert on document management and communication with partners, helping the largest oil and gas company to conduct important customers. "
About impostor syndrome
Low self-esteem and feeling of insignificance is women are often prevented from moving forward. Sheryl Sandberg, the former chief operating officer at Facebook, in his book, "Do not be afraid to act" has led an interesting statistic: Women apply for re-opening job only if you are certain that they are 100% meet the requirements. Men believe that the 60 per cent compliance is sufficient.
Today it is everyone has heard about impostor syndrome - a phenomenon causing even capable people to doubt themselves, and the fear of being "unmasked".
Signs of the impostor syndrome:
- do you think that you are "lucky" in the career and life;
- you think that unjustly occupy its place and you are about to "expose";
- do you think that nothing much can and, in general, have not achieved anything;
- you find it difficult to answer the question, what are you proud of;
- You obsess over small mistakes and not be aware of the major achievements;
- you do not consider yourself to be the indispensable man.
In the series Good Wife is an interesting and instructive episode. A lawyer (a man) told a lawyer (a woman), the story of two people accidentally collided in the street, and nobody is to blame. In this case one says «I'm sorry» ( «I'm sorry") and the other - «Watch it!» ( «Watch where you walk!"). Here you are, say, Aliciya, a man who kept apologizing.
Put yourself in this situation. Who are you: a man who apologizes, or someone who is sure he is right?
Write your story
Storytelling - a key skill in any person's life, even if you do not have writer's ambitions. Learn how to begin to tell their story. Specify it in three different formats:
- story about himself in the same sentence;
- story about himself in a single paragraph (for the situation, "a conversation with an investor in an elevator for 30 seconds);
- a fun story about himself in the same paragraph (as in a movie about Bridget Jones, when you need to, for example, to introduce a guest at the party).
As a rule, in spite of the apparent simplicity, this task turns out to be difficult for so many people, and it takes much longer than it seems. But this versatile in their utility skill. It is important at any time, be able to articulate who you are, what you do, what your mission that you carry to the world.
What else can you tell
The achievements in
Incidentally, even the important line in the summary, which many ignore vain. Even if you believe that nothing useful not do (which is unlikely), think about how your work helped others. Perhaps not the final consumer, and colleagues. What is your contribution to the common cause?
On receipt of awards and prizes
Surely in your field eating contests, ratings and more. Look at the market, find out the conditions of the nomination, check deadline. And start preparing. If, in order to get into the rating, it is necessary to give a lecture - look, where it can be read. If you need a publication in a special edition - prepare the publication. In most cases, rewards are rarely so simple. Samonominirovanie - the usual story. Strange wait million gain, without buying a lottery ticket.
On participation in conferences
Think about what your area of expertise? Whatever knowledge you can share with the world, and for the beginning - with peers? Find the appropriate conference and submit an application. This is an opportunity to express themselves in front of a lot of people to demonstrate their professionalism and make New acquaintances.
About personal success
Sometimes interest to you may cause not only your work achievements, but also personal. For example, if you are an experienced marathon runner or passed Iron Man. It says about you as a person more than another over-fulfillment of the financial plan (which, of course, deserves special attention). The bill goes any hobbies, whether it be cooking or floristry. For example, when I was engaged in studio éclairs, then I started to increasingly turn for the interview and called on the radio ( "How are you all time?").
On charity (if you do it)
Many stars are often criticized for the fact that they are PR on good deeds. But the truth is that it does not matter. The main thing is that these things are done. And do not forget that your experience can be an example for others and will launch the "chain of good." Think of this way: you are not PR on charityYou just do not hide that sometimes help others.
How do I know you
To express themselves, you can use the following methods.
Social networks
The first rule of self-praise: information about you must be available. Learn to leave the right digital-trail. First, make sure that you have accounts in all major social networks, they are open and you have them regularly leads. By the way, in the Instagram account is considered too. In fact, many Instagram-bloggers - a small media. Get your media and broadcasted, what you want.
Word of mouth
Returning to the history of the beginning of the article: what you know about the surrounding solely your responsibility. Pay attention to what you're talking about. You're tired, exhausted man who only does what awaits holiday? Or a creative person, extraordinary, broad-minded, who never sits still and loves develop?
Lie and do not need to write. The truth can be told differently. A few years ago I started to say (God knows why) to friends and colleagues that I eat a lot and not getting fat. It's no one in doubt, despite the fact that during the joint dinner on my tray was always a half times less food than others. Nevertheless surrounding is still convinced that I have a good metabolism. If I knew that the installation is so easy to apply, I would choose the word of mouth to another topic.
Pressfeed
The site where the journalists leave the application for expert commentary. Determine your area of expertise and respond to interesting proposals.
conference
They may be the subject of presentations and distribution channel of information about you. If you are experiencing that the presentation is not your forte, take a few lessons public speaking. In any case, it is a useful skill.
Internal meeting at work
If the boss does not know about your accomplishments, it's because you did not tell them. Success is often taken for granted (including us), and failure - as a tragedy. Change the attitude to succeed. Share your small and large work victories in reporting the meeting. Or within a week, if there was an unexpected reason to boast. Do not treat this as a boast. Consider that you share the joy.
Fame and success do not come to the lazy. A self-praise - a lot of work. Anyone who says that does not do anything to become famous, a well mastered storytelling skills. By the way, you also can just tell. Who is stopping you?
see also
- 5 true techniques of female self-esteem →
- 15 ways to become a more confident and achieve success →
- How can I change the speech to sound more confident →