3 of acting techniques that help to cope with a stressful situation

Try to remember the last time you were an actor. Maybe, in the school setting or in a karaoke colleagues. Or, at a meeting with the boss, when you discuss a raise.

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At first glance, the third situation gets out of the total number, but not for Amy and Michael Port, professional actors who have become experts in public speaking. In their wordsMost of us constantly have to play, even if we ourselves do not notice. "We need to talk to toast, to say farewell speech to present themselves in job interviews, negotiating, - says Michael. - And all this is a situation in which the stakes are very high. "

To succeed in them, try to think like a professional actor. They use special techniques to create on stage a believable version of reality. And ordinary people, these tricks will help to create the version they need.

This does not mean you have to manipulate others or pretend. Just so communicates to surrounding imbued with your point of view.

Think Theater: Juliet can make viewers feel, why it must necessarily marry Romeo. You can be, We need to convince landlord to replace a broken plate or agree with the parents of friends your child to arrange a joint event.

"We spend days trying to influence other people and gives them some sense - Amy says. - Even if you do not set a conscious goal, we will still try to get what we want, and call in others some reaction. " In some cases, this depends very much, and Michael and Amy are advised to apply in these situations, the following techniques.

1. Understand their ultimate goal

The actor always acts, clearly presenting what he wants to achieve from the audience. Take it on board. Responsible before the next situation, ask yourself the question, asked by the actors, working through character, "What is my ultimate goal?"

That is, think not only about the short-term consequences, but also about the long-term.

For example, Michael said that when meeting with Amy's parents, he did not break his head, as if to make a good impression. He thought that in the long term wants harmonious cohesive family. Therefore, I make decisions corresponding to that big goal.

2. Think what feelings you want to call another person

The way in which the actor speaks and moves during a performance, too, is to achieve a goal and helps to produce the right impression on the audience. This is called "play the scene." In ordinary life, technique is useful, for example, in the interview.

Let's say you want the employer to understand that you are an open person and know how to cooperate with others. Then you "play the scene" - is to tell you how you're excited to interact with new colleagues and to learn something from them, perhaps even mentioning anyone by name.

If you want to show that you know how to work independently and you do not have to baby-sit, report useful courses that you were (of course, do not lie, if it does not). Or the methods that were used in the last place, in order to optimize the work.

Of course, this does not guarantee absolute success. "People do not always respond exactly as you would like, - says Michael. - But if you learn how to smoothly play one scene after another, in keeping with its purpose, you will be able to improvise and be flexible. "

3. Take your own

Relaxed attitude to the discomfort - the main feature for those who act. And perhaps the most inconvenience is the fear of negative evaluation of others. We are afraid that we will not accept, will ridicule or criticize.

So many of us try to avoid risk, but as Michael says, it kills any good performance. It is difficult to arrange for someone to himself, when all the time trying to silence the alarms in my head.

Learn how to manage fear. Remind yourself that this is a natural feeling. If before an important conversation you have sweaty palms and reduces the stomach, it just means that you're a human being.

Directly in front of a stressful situation, determine your most important fear associated with it.

Try to be as specific as possible. Do not limit the phrase "I'm scared" - Find the cause of their fears. May be you afraid not to please, Worried that someone will hear as you trembling voice, or do not want someone to draw. Psychologists call such a specific meaning to the emotional state of his detail. Those who manage to make it better, are usually easier to manage emotions and properly respond to them.

And finally, just do what you want. Negotiate with the seller to reduce the price of the car, start to communicate with potential customers, to make a presentation. "In order to hold well on stage and excel in difficult situations, you need to take risks and do not worry about criticism," - recalls Amy.

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Of course, these actor's tricks do not make you a Meryl Streep. But they will help to speak and act more deliberately. As a result, you will better control the interaction with others, and do not allow you to manage stress.