11 facts about the relationship that couples need to remember forever

1. No need to rush

The first moments of love are so bright that people dare to be spontaneous, not realizing the consequences of their behavior. a whirlwind of emotions inspires, boils in the veins happiness chemistryAnd it seems that soon the engagement or a wedding - it's the best way to keep a holiday in itself. As practice shows, the opposite is true.

A study conducted at Emory University, proved that the longer meet modern couples before marriage, the more chances they have to stay together. If we talk numbers, the couple, who met for three or more years, divorced 39% less likely than those who tested the relationship less than a year.

2. It is not necessary to spend money on wedding

Lavish wedding preparation and lordly wedding party have their own long-standing traditions. Setting the young, and sometimes themselves the bride and groom are trying to throw a holiday is not worse than the neighbor, because they somehow just once in a lifetime painted! But the snag is that the festivities in grand style can backfire in the future.

As part of the same study at Emory University researchers interviewed thousands of heterosexual couples and found that "the duration of the marriage of the spend on engagement rings and wedding ceremony. " In particular, those who take his considerable sums on the rings apart by 30% more.

And there's a simple explanation: issyakshy gold reserves, debt and credits undermine the financial basis of the new unit of society. Money can become a cause of disagreements, economic arguments do not cease, leading to a split in the family.

3. Cuddle in his sleep

Couples who sleep together, happier than those who sleep apart. Scientists at the University of Hertfordshire have studied the position of the sleeping couple and found that 94% of couples who had spent the night in contact, acknowledged their relationship happy. At the same time, only 68% of those who did not touch each other in a dream, were satisfied with their relationships.

Hugs are good for health halves. They warm the body in the cooled bed The cold winter.

4. Do not forget to thank

A simple "thank you" to strengthen ties. This is borne out by scientists from the University of California at Berkeley. Researchers have created the conditions in which the two halves thank and received appreciation from your partner. After the experiment was completed, all 77 couples feel more relaxed and satisfied. They understand each other better, keener sense of care and responsiveness of a loved one. And that was no scientific justification. The positive effect of "thank you" was due to increased production of oxytocin - the hormone of trust and affection.

5. Treat each other

Health of even the strongest relationships need to correct. Seasoned advised more often recognized each other in love, and scientists - to move from words to deeds. And you do not need a Herculean effort or major investments. Enough to provide a small, but very significant attentions.

Difficult for you to prepare for your second half a cup of tea? Nonsense! But it was the little things harden your union. This conclusion was made by sociologists at the Open University of Great Britain. Within two years, they have studied the life of 5000 people and found that unexpected surprises and little courtesy does not cease to have value even after many years of continuous communication. This is a powerful link in the relationship.

6. A sober assessment of their alliance

How many times told the world that honesty - the best way to solve the problem? But people on the thumb turn a blind eye to reality, replacing truth flimsy excuses. And do so, of course, in vain. Psychologists are advised to speak directly about their preferences and desires.

Researchers at the University of Illinois have traced the development of relations in 232 tandems and noted that successful couples well remembered all the turns of the novel, while couples experiencing difficulty lied to myself, looking back and thinking that it was perfectly.

7. Not necessarily have a stamp in the passport to be happy

It has long been observed that people who are in married, Are making the best career success than singles. They have stronger health and social connections, stable psyche. Though run and painted for his new position and longevity!

But do not rush, because the ordinary civil union is no worse than the official marriage. All the same advantages, but without a documented commitment. Scientists say that the beginning of marriage between spouses and cohabitants is not much different. Moreover, all of the differences, and does dissolve at the end of the honeymoon.

8. No need to look for the "soul mate"

In each of us lives a romantic who wants to find in his life's journey that same soul mate. Someone struggling with it, realizing that there is no complete coincidence, well, someone idealizes his mate, thinking that it was destined. The last permit a substantial mistake.

This is indicated by sociological studies Spike Lee (Spike W. S. Lee) and Norbert Schwarz (Norbert Schwarz). According to scientists, people who view their relationship as fate would thus perpetuate a foundation for the future of frustration, because the reality is always contrary to the imagination. Properly compare their relationship with a long journey, full of obstacles and difficulties. In this case, those years will not leave you the bitterness of disappointed hopes.

9. Long-distance relationship - it is not a death sentence

The farther apart the magnets, the weaker the link between them. That kind of logic often undermine people's faith in the long-distance relationship, and they parted, never experiencing the feelings of strength. "So far, it was cool, we will charge at Facebook».

Wait-wait, do not rush to flee. Experts at Cornell University have found many examples of geographically distant relations in which men and women feel more satisfaction in comparison with the life side by side.

Psychologists say that in a relationship at a distance people are turning to light moments of his life, savor the pleasant details, and it stirs feelings.

10. Becoming a parent you need to want to

Children - flowers of life. This is what we assert on national television and visiting his grandmother. Naturally, the state needs new citizens and the older generation wants to shake things up a bit. Blindly go on about?

Sociological studies do not give a clear answer. Some of them assures that families with children are happier. Others are not unreasonably suggest an increased level of stress associated with the completion of the family, through which not everyone can pass. The conclusion is simple: the child's need or want to grow up to the proud title of "parent."

11. The thing is kindness

Long-term alliances are built on the principles of mutual respect, love, care, and, most importantly, the kindness and generosity. So says the famous American couple John and Julie Gottmen (John and Julie Gottman). Their opinion, they reinforce the forty years of experience as a family psychologists. Based on his extensive experience, spouses Gottmen recommend to pay attention to their behavior during fights. During home passions it is very easy to hurt your partner and make him the contempt - the main factor of the impending separation. Understanding that his "phi" can be expressed with good notes, you do not harm your union.