11 revelations about the life of a man standing on the verge of death
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Sometimes you have to die in order to become famous. It happened with 27-year-old Australian Holly Butcher. It did not become 4 January 2018 - an aggressive form of cancer Woman burned in just a year. The day before his death, Holly has published on his Facebook page farewell letter. In it she shared with "those who remain" my thoughts, telling her what to say goodbye to the hardest, and that really is the most valuable in life.
Just a couple of days the message has collected more than 200 thousand likes. That's what was in it.
"A little life advice from Hall"
It's a bit strange - to understand and accept the fact that you are mortal, in 26 years. Just 26. Death is one of those things that we try not to think. Day after day passed, and we think it will last forever. But once that happens, what you're not ready. It is not ready.
About old age, which can be so desirable
I was always confident that someday grow old. That one day, my skin becomes flabby, gray hair appears on the waist - extra inches. And all these changes are related to my family - Caring for a loved one, our children. I imagined that I would be born many kids. What am I going to sing them lullabies, enough sleep, tired... Now I understand: I wanted it so much and I want that very idea of the family (the family, which I never will!) causes me incredible pain.
That's life. So fragile, precious, unpredictable... Every day - a priceless gift and not a given.
I'm 27 now. I do not want to die. I love life. I am immensely happy in it, and every moment is ready to give thanks for the happiness of their loved ones. But alas - more from me nothing depends.
About the fear of death
This letter I write not because I'm scared. As long as we are alive, we are not aware of what death is and how close it is. And I like it. Except for those cases where we for any reason, I want to talk about it, we pretend that death does not exist. That it does not happen to anyone of us. It is a taboo. About him not to talk. I, too, is difficult given. Too hard. Too... unclear.
The problems that really do not mean anything
I would like people to stop so much worry about their problems. Against the backdrop of the death of these problems, stressful situations seem to bring into being a trifle. Just trust me. All of us - and I very soon, and you (possibly through many, many years) - waiting for one event. We all disappear.
In recent months, I have had plenty of time to think about it. Most often, these thoughts came to me at night, and I could properly analyze them in silence. So.
Every time you want to be nervous on trifles, to complain about his life, just think about those who are faced with this problem. One that is not overcome. The one from which no escape. One that negates everything. Remember me. And thank life that your problem - it is a mere trifle. They, in contrast to the death, can be overcome. Keep this in mind.
Yes, life's difficulties can be annoying. But at least try not to pour out his negative other people. You are alive - and this is happiness. You can go out and breathe fresh air. Can you see how blue the sky is and how green - trees. Can, and I will soon have can not. What a score. Really lucky.
About how much we appreciate
Perhaps now you are in a traffic jam or do not get enough sleep because your lovely kids waking you up all night. Or maybe your hairdresser wrong and sostrig hair shorter than you asked for. Or artificial nail broke. Or breasts are too small, the pope cellulite and flabby belly like a jelly.
My God, stop thinking about it!
I swear, you completely forget about these things when it's your turn! All this is nonsense, if you look at life as a whole.
I'm looking at my body as it is melting before our eyes, and nothing I can do about it... It's what I wanted to - it's not the ideal form, and another birthday or Christmas spent with family. Or another day (just one day!) Alone with loved ones and our dog.
Sometimes I hear people complain about too much hard work or too heavy exercise, which gives them the coach in the gym. Ha! Be grateful that you all can do them! Work or training seem so mundane, boring things. As long as your body allows you to do to comply with them.
About a healthy lifestyle, which is not what it seems
I tried to lead a healthy lifestyle. Perhaps it could even be called a passion of mine. But all this has now become irrelevant. Appreciate your own health and serviceable body, even if it has non-ideal size. Take care of him, love him - simply because they have no leads and it is wonderful. Pamper his movement and healthy food. But do not dwell on it.
Good health - is not just about the physical form. Try to find a mental, emotional and spiritual happiness.
Then you realize how unimportant the "perfect body" that is imposed on us the media and social networks. Remove any tape from the account, which will cause you to doubt the beauty of your body. It does not matter whose it is an account - someone stranger or a friend. Be ruthless in the fight for their own happiness.
And still be thankful for every day that you have no pain. Say thank you, even for those days when you do not feel very well because of the flu, back or diseased, for example, podvornutoy ankle. Yes, it is unpleasant, but does not threaten your life and will soon pass.
Less complain folks! And more than support each other.
About how important the support
Give, give, give. It's God's truth: you will feel happier if helping someone. It is a pity that I did not do it so often ...
Ever since I got sick, I met a lot of incredibly sympathetic, generous and kind people. I heard from them a lot of good words. Sea received support from family, friends and even strangers. It is much more than I can give in return. I will never forget it and will stay until the end grateful to these people.
About how love is more important things
You know, it would be very strange: having money, start spending it at the end, before he died. At that time, I did not want to go to the store and buy, for example, a new dress (even though I was very fond of shopping before). Dresses lost their meaning. At the end you realize you are absolutely clear: foolish to spend money on new clothes or other things.
Instead, dress, makeup, jewelry buy something nice for your friend. Something that would give him joy. Treat friends dinner. Prepare for them something on their own. Buy them lovely houseplant subscription for a massage, give a beautiful candle. No matter what it is. What is important is that this gift to your friend reported: "I love and appreciate you."
About how significantly time
Learn to appreciate other people's time. Even if you tend to be late - well, just rewound the habit of preparing to leave the house in advance. Appreciate what the other person is willing to give you an hour or half an hour, just to talk to you. Do not make him wait, staring at the phone. This will earn the respect.
The fact that sometimes even the gifts are not needed
This year, my family decided not to make the traditional gifts for Christmas and not even decorate the Christmas tree. You would know how it upset me! I almost ruined the whole holiday! But everything was very unusual and nice. Since no one had to run through the crowded stores, my family spent time out to write to each other greeting cards.
Perhaps it was right: imagine if the family still decided to make me a gift, I would take advantage of them still could not and he would have stayed with them - strange, is not it? A postcard... You know, they mean more to me spontaneously purchased gifts. Moral of the story: do not need to spend the holiday has gained significance.
About that, on what do you need to spend money and effort
If you want to spend the money - spend it on experiences. Or at least do not force yourself to give up experience, having spent everything on the material, in fact you do not need nonsense.
Take a day to go, finally, to the beach - out on a trip that you've been putting off. Soak in water, fingers bury the sand. Feel salt water on his face.
Feel like you're part of nature.
Feel this moment, enjoy it and do not try to catch your smartphone camera. It is foolish to live life through your phone's screen, it's silly to waste time searching for the perfect shot! Just enjoy the moment. Yourself! And do not try to catch it for someone else.
Yes, that's a rhetorical question. The time that you spend daily on the makeup and styling - it's really worth it? I never understood this in women.
Wake up early, listen to the birds singing, enjoy the first sunrise colors.
Listen to the music. That's listen! Music - this medicine. The old is better.
Hug your pet. I will desperately miss my dog.
Talk to friends. Not on the phone. How they are doing really?
Travel, if so desire. Do not travel if you do not want.
Work to live, not live to work.
Seriously: do only what makes your heart beat faster, and you - to feel happy.
Would you like cake? Eat - and no guilt!
Say "no" to what you do not want.
Stop thinking about what you think about your life and others. Yes, they may have different ideas about how it is necessary and right. But you may wish to live a very mediocre, but life is full of happiness - and you will be absolutely right!
Talk to someone you know that you love them as often as possible. And I love them sincerely, with all my heart.
If something makes you feel unhappy, whether it is work or personal life... Just tighten and change it! None of us knows how much time is devoted to it. It is impossible to spend this valuable time to suffer. Yes, I know, it is often repeated. But it's true!
In any case, it's just advice from a young girl. You can follow it or not - I do not insist.
The fact that anyone can do right now to make the world a better place
And the last. If possible, do a good deed for humanity (and me) - become a blood donor. By doing this you will save the life of somebody else, and at the same time and themselves feel better. Each blood donation can save three lives! This is a huge contribution, which is available to everyone.
Donated blood (and I've lost transfusions account) gave me the opportunity to live another year. Year for which I will always be grateful, because it led him here on Earth, with his family, friends and a dog. It was the most wonderful year of my life. Thanks.
And before the meeting.
Cold.
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