6 simple truths that will help to get better

In order to understand whether or not to read this post, tell me honestly: you all are happy in your life? If not, write on a sheet or just say out loud five of their achievements (only real), for example, "I won the chess tournament" or "built a career of their dreams." If you could not do it, or at least it was difficult, this post is for you, read on.

The world wondering just what he can get from you

Let's imagine that a person who is very dear to you, shot. Here he lay on the pavement, bleeding and slowly dying, and you toss around, not knowing what to do until the ambulance arrives.

Then you fit an intelligent man, he takes out his pocket knife and, it seems, is about to operate on the dying man on the street. You ask him a sense of relief, "Are you a doctor?"

"Not".

"But you know you are going to do, right? You're probably a former army medic, or... "

Then the passer starts telling you that he's a good son, he lived a busy life, he is very punctual and never swearing.

You listen to him, dumbfounded, and then yelling: "As though one of these fucking merit can stop the bleeding? What is the fuck does it matter if my friend is dying? You can do surgery or not? "

And this fool gets angry: "What you are selfish and narrow-minded people! You little merit that I have listed, not only that I never forgot the birthday of his girlfriend? In the light of all my merit, what does it matter, I know how to operate or not? "

"Yes, damn it, it makes a difference! I need someone who will be able to stop the bleeding and save my friend, not you, fucking crazy bastard. " Curtain.

The moral of the mad scene that is the stark reality of the adult world, and you find yourself in similar situations every day. You - a man with a pocket knife, and the society - bleeding semi-corpses on the pavement.

If you feel that the society does not recognize and does not respect you, it's only because it consists of people who have needs. They need to build a house, prepare meals, entertain and have sex.

The only way to recognition and respect from society as cynical as it may sound - to see their needs and perform tasks that will meet the needs of. Whatever you may be beautiful, polite and well-read, without this you will always remain poor and lonely.

And how about goodness and love? Of course, they also exist as give people things that they can not get anywhere else.

For every situation and every person in this life requires a certain set of skills and things to do.

"Good guy? Yes I do not care! "

That's a great question of "Glengarry Glen Ross" (or "Americans"), where the harsh and cruel sociopath dismisses all employees and encourages them to earn the sales return.

"Good guy? Yes I do not care. A great father? Fuck you! Go home and perhaps his wife. If you want to work here, all that matters, - the sale. "

In principle, this is exactly what the world is telling you, the only people tend to be too correct to say it in person, so they just let you go downhill.

And the most brilliant in the scene, half of the people who are watching it, thinking, "How is it interesting to have such a Weird chief?" And the second half - "Yes! Now let's go and sell everything you need. "

If you were in this room, someone would take such a speech just for workflow, and sent all their forces to ensure that remain in place, and someone took it personally, I thought that this person is just a moron and has no right to speak to you. Later, these people would be looking for confirmation of his hypocrisy to feel better.

That is the difference between people: the offended against motivated, and it affects your success in this life. Someone thinks he is - it's not his job. But in fact it turns out that your job - the amount of useful skills that you use in society, this is what he sees and accepts society.

For example, be a good mother - it's not just words, it is the amount of useful skills, which applies this woman to be treated as such.

That is why the one who makes the society more useful things, more respected than those who do not. At the same time, useful work can be in any field of medicine, education, business or entertainment. Anything, as long as it helps other people to meet some of his needs.

And it's not that good or bad, it just is. And if someone had just thought of freshwater materialism and the amount of money, it's not about that. About the money at all no one spoke (though they are a natural extension of what you decide someone's problem).

What you produce does not have to make money, but it should be useful

To explain to the non-profit example, let's talk about the relationship. Many single people are distressed, why they are so cute, clever, interesting and beautiful, and they have not built up with the opposite sex.

It's all about the same benefits that you bring to people, but this time we are talking about the beneficial qualities that should be shown.

If you say that you are interesting, it is necessary to be interested in someone that is manifest that their quality, and to be useful in this regard. If you have a great sense of humor, you have to laugh someone, if you can play on some instrument, play it.

That's because most of the "good people" who know all their strengths, feel disgusting. If you do not show its advantages to society, they like and are not for him.

Self-hatred is by omission

Instead of asking yourself "How can I get this to work?" You should ask "How can I become a man, which is waiting for the employers?". Instead of asking "How can I meet this girl / guy?", Ask "How can I become a person who need these people, and what should be changed?"

You may have to change very much, and then there will be a question whether you need it at all? If you decide that you need, then go ahead, do what it takes to be "the man».

If you can not do what you need now, the only solution - exercise. You can learn to do anything, if enough exercise.

There is good and bad news. The good news is that, no matter how long your workouts are not taken, a few months, years or a lifetime, the process itself is already the result of. When you train for something, you are no longer at the same place (not in the same ass) as before.

The bad news is that this is the only way to get what you want: fit, perform and exercise produce.

Think how long it took to create all that you use every day, how much work it took. What you bring to society in return? That's how you can measure your value to society.

Your inner world is only relevant insofar as it forces you to do this or that

There are so many people who consider themselves to be true artists. They say that they - the artists are represented, as artists, and in the soul, perhaps, also an artist, and no one else.

But, in fact, his whole life they have drawn, perhaps, two or three paintings, which have never shown to anyone except relatives.
And unless someone will take them as artists? If yes, then not for long.

This is to ensure that, whoever you were in the shower, until it come out, consider that it does not exist. At least for society.

Your inner world, experiences and emotions, thoughts and intentions - this is very important, because of this grows your actions, in fact, your whole life. But as long as your mind does not grow into actions, they do not care about anyone.

If you are watching a program where talk about the number of sick and homeless children, and just feel sorry for them, do you think that this is enough. Thoughts - is the same as action. But until you have done nothing but compassion in mind, you will not be regarded as a kind, sympathetic person.

And here is great saying of Jesus:

Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.

Well said.

Everything inside (and outside), you will interfere with the improvement

The man has a lot of mental defense mechanisms that keep it from the changes, as any changes require effort, possibly related to stress and break the familiar, comfortable Existence.

As a smoking person reacts aggressively to any attempts to get him to quit, or at least to persuade this, and people stuck in their comfort zone, aggressively tuned to any criticism of its life.

"Who are you to criticize me? I, too, found a guru homegrown "and stuff like that.

Suffer easiest, and for happiness takes effort and courage. Easier to consume, not create anything, because then nobody can destroy what you have created. This fear leaves many people on the margins of life.

If you create something, people will be able to denounce it, to make fun of you and your efforts, and if you do not create anything, you clean yourself can scoff at other people's misfortunes.

People from familiar surroundings, too often hampered achieve something. If you decide to quit drinking, you will be persuaded to drink, if you decide to engage in fitness, fat friends will talk about the harm to health and the senselessness of losing weight.

So, in order to become a tree, which brings some benefits, rather than digging in humus under the roots, you need the courage to start, and the responsibility for what happens in the end.

So start now. Select what you want to produce, whatever it was, to learn to dance, draw a picture or write a story, cook a delicious dinner, lose weight 10 kg, it does not matter.

Just start doing, train and produce. Remember the good news about the achievements and training? You become better already in the process, when only the train to produce something, something to give to the world and society.

Maybe soon you'll be able to without hesitation to call 5-10-100 his real achievements.