No excuses: resistant Sakinat Magomedov

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- Sakinat, I am pleased to welcome you to the special project Layfhakera "There are no excuses."

- Hi, Nastya! Thanks for the invitation.

- The first question we have traditionally childhood. I read that when in 1978 you came into the world met you is not very friendly. Why?

- I was born in a small village of Kobi Caucasian (Chechen Republic, Shelkovskaya district). There was no ultrasound, and the birth of the girl without hands plunged all in shock.

Doctors advised her mother to abandon me. Probably confused: such cases were few in the country, not to mention Chechnya.

The relatives also tried to persuade to leave the child in the hospital. Why take on such burdens? The father left the family.

My mother at that time was 22 years old. I was her first child. And I think that it has made a real feat. Despite the pressure of society and the betrayal of her husband, was not afraid of difficulties, I do not leave me. Although she was well aware that it is necessary all the time to be with me and support await nowhere.

- In his interview, you told me that in childhood the boys bullied, teased you. Sometimes they pushed so that you fell and smashed his face. Why such cruelty?

- I, like any child, I wanted to play. But the children in the yard were not prepared for the appearance of unusual peers. It's now the parents educate children in tolerance, try to explain that people are different. And then do the adults do not know how to behave with armless girl.

At first I was a vulnerable child. I touched the questions and ridicule guys. I resorted to my mother in tears and complained. After becoming a mother myself, I understand how painful it was in those moments. But my mother never showed it. She said, "Well, that called them! Do not you have language? Just think, pushed! Have you no legs? ".

My mother taught me to defend myself. Soon I realized that I can not just fight back bullies, but also to take revenge.

- What is it like?

- I felt the power and self-confidence. She became involved in the conflict. I just try to say something any boy - I immediately climb into the fray.

- Feet? :)

- Yeah. Legs can beat up worse than hands. :) But of course, when I did not think that the ability to fight ever bring me a favor.

As a child of this were some problems. So much so, that to my mother's parents began to come and complain that I had beaten their son. For me arrogant character even expelled from the kindergarten.

- You only conflicted with the boys?

- Yes, the girls somehow more or less turned to find a common language. With some deal so far.

- When did you go to school, peer relationships changed?

- I do not go to a regular school - mother arranged for me to a boarding school for children with disabilities. Guys out there, of course, different. I remember that was the first time there. I was six years old, I was taken, I was seated on the sofa and all the children gathered to look at the newcomer.

At that moment I forgot that I do not have hands. I'm thinking that the only one in the whole world. But it turned out that we are many and someone is worse than I position. Complain: I have legs. Some do not have them as well.

- In a boarding school you did not have conflicts with their children?

- Of course, there is every child had their own character, its own destiny, but we lived in harmony. All helped each other: one could not dress himself, someone - to hold a spoon... Each rescued everyone, and thanks to this we were quite independent.

- How long you have been studying in the boarding school?

- Boarding was far from home, in the city of Bolkhov Oryol region. I was taken back in the fall and picked up in May. By the time I graduated from the third class in the country in general and in our family, in particular fallen on hard times.

Mom got married and gave birth to a second child. Money is desperately short. During the next summer holidays my mother asked me: "Sakinat, you want to continue to learn?". I really wanted to, study was given to me easily. But if I said "yes", then the mother would have to sacrifice in order to autumn again to send me to boarding school. I knew the situation in the family and said she learned to read, write and count. What else is needed?

Adulthood

- You stayed home. What became involved?

- Help mom around the house. More at the boarding I learned how to sew and knit feet. It was all interesting, and I easily grasped everything: looked up, I realized the essence and adapted.

Not to sit around while mom at work, I'm washed and cleaned the house. She could only make dinner. But then I start to deal with cooking.

I remember one day decided to make soup. Village peeling potatoes. First time in life. Oh, and I was worn out with it! Potatoes round, slips, legs a little more were. With us in the same yard, our relative lived. She comes and sees me as I am at war with the potatoes. He says: "Sakinat, let me help you?". I refused, refused, but eventually she brushed me potatoes. Then it all made herself. However, while it was cooking, so hungry that she ate two plates at once.

Then my mother came home from work. I ask her: "There is going to?". She was stupefied: who came, who prepared? I say: "The very prepared." "Like yourself?" - even more surprised mother. I told her: "You first sit down and eat, say, delicious or not, and then you'll ask."

It gradually became a potato fry, fried eggs do and generally learn everything that a woman should be able to.

- Sakinat, your skills, some women may even envy! I've seen videos where you wash, strizhosh, paint - all legs. Honestly, I admire and do not fully understand how you manage it.

- In fact, it does not matter how you do it: with your hands or feet, even teeth. I was always afraid to become a burden and wanted to do everything herself.

I learned everything from a great desire.

And I can cook and clean and wash. The only difficult to dress themselves. But the children help.

- Can you say that if scientists have devised a way to give you back your hands, would you refuse?

- Honestly, do not truthfully, I can say that my hands are not needed. I was born without them and live without them. At the same time I feel happy.

Even if just to imagine how much time I will take getting used to life with hands, the need to re-learn everything... I do not want to waste time on it. I have much more important things - my children and sports.

Because I was offered prostheses, including imported ones. I refused. I see no reason to wear a extra weight, from which develops low back pain and head ache starts. I used to be a light and cheerful. :)

- And you're left-handed or right-handed? :)

- Right-hander!

(At this point Sakinat taken right-footed handkerchief and waved it.)

Everything basically doing right. Left is for the support.

Sakinat - Mom

- You're a beautiful woman. As a child you have with the boys, to put it mildly, not kleilos and how relations then?

- I grew up a tomboy, and for a long time the boys I was not interested. Except as sparring partners. :)

Of course, as a teenager began to appear some sympathy. But I never did not show anyone. Firstly, the complexes were: who am I need someone who will marry me? And secondly, the guys treated me like a friend. I was a sociable, cheerful, can be a lot to talk with me, joke, laugh, and most importantly - to entrust a secret.

It turned out so that people poured into my emotions, and I throw them had nowhere to go. Of course, I really wanted to meet someone.

- Met?

- Yes. We did nikah and began living together. But six months later, I learned that waiting for the baby. He probably was not ready for that, or maybe just scared. He suggested that I get rid of the child.

I was 21 years - formed by people with their ideas of good and bad. I refused an abortion and left her husband.

- It does not matter it?

- Of course, it is terrible. I'm aware that I even go with a child ever. At that time I did not have their own housing, and pensions was so tiny that it was impossible to rent an apartment. I had to live through the familiar. From relatives wait for assistance was useless - I had not even told them that she was pregnant.

But my mother taught the two most important things in life: to be able to stand up for yourself and never give up. Any problem, no matter how insurmountable it may seem to be solved.

So I did not wait for some sort of better times and decided to give birth. I just know that there will still output.

- And he found?

- I began to find out whether I can somewhere in the time to leave a child, not yet decide housing problem. I suggested that it is possible to arrange it in the child's home. When the son was three months, I did just that.

Of course, I always went to him, visited him to know that I was his mother. In parallel, I stood in a queue for an apartment and looking for the possibility of earnings. When confidence rose to her feet, she took her son. He is now 16 years. :)

- But you still have and my daughter?

- Yes, it was five in January. Patimat from his second marriage.

- Are you strict mother?

- Rather yes than no. I grove children alone, and otherwise just can not. But I rarely cry or something like that.

With my daughter, for example, always talk like an adult. What sense to swear? The child cries from just upset and did not understand. So I try to explain to children just everything.

- And you had to explain to them why their mom is different in appearance from other women?

- Moreover, it was necessary to explain why some other aunt without a hand or some uncle without a leg. :) Children sometimes ask awkward questions for adults. But this is not evil, it's curiosity. If satisfy their interest, clearly naming the reason, for example, "man was born that way" or "crashed", they will no longer ask. And most importantly, will treat the person with a disability is absolutely normal.

Golden legs

- Sakinat, I know that you are a silver medalist at the European Championship parathekvondo. It is still up to date information?

- outdated. In November last year at competitions in Turkey, I became the world champion.

- Congratulations! Tell me how the sport came into your life?

- I always wanted to engage in some sports. But it was difficult to find the direction in which the athlete could be without both hands.

In 2011, I was called by a young man and tried something very quickly to explain. From his story, I realized just what he was coach, I saw in the newspaper my photo, where I keep my foot phone, and found me. I invited him to visit, and in private conversation learned that there is a set of the national team for parathekvondo. The coach said that it is for the sport, what sort of conditions.

I thought, "Finally, I will not just swing your legs!".

That's so sudden my childhood backyard brawl useful. :) started going to training and three months already went to the European Championship.

- Won?

- Entered the winners. But those events for me the most memorable of all. It seemed to me that I still do not know anything, I can not do anything.

- In Rio are you going?

- Parathekvondo only recently introduced in the list of Olympic. Our Olympics will be in 2020. In Rio, two of our guys go to a demonstration performance.

- Not afraid of getting hurt? After the legs mean a lot to you.

- Just in time for the championship in Turkey, I was injured. And not in battle, but just in training. Unsuccessfully rose and earned a partial rupture of the anterior cruciate ligament.

Leg ached, and I was afraid that it will break even. But do not go into battle it was impossible. After the operation was championship. Almost the whole winter I was rehabilitated. Now slowly I start again to go to training.

- Who are Russia's main rival for parathekvondo?

- None. We command occupy first place in almost all competitions. :)

- Sakinat, what do you dream about?

- A lot of what. But the most important desires, perhaps three.

Firstly, I would like to have the strength and the health to get to the 2020 Paralympics. I want children to be proud of me.

Secondly, I want them to find their place in life and be happy.

And thirdly, I dream to get right. Enrolled in a driving school, I go to class, but I am afraid that there may be bureaucratic problems. Although, even if there will be some difficulties, I will seek his: to fold against my rules.

- Our conversation comes to an end. Finally covet anything Layfhakera readers.

- When I was shown by first channelI wrote and thanked many. They said that I inspired them to change in life. I understand that not all people are persistent by nature, someone really needs extra motivation in life.

But I do know that there are no such problems, which can not be overcome. You can not just get discouraged and give up. Something does not work? Try again and again, but he wants.

In life, so many wonderful, so many possibilities! We just need to stop complaining and see them.

- Beautiful words! Thank you for your steadfastness and your wisdom, Sakinat!

- Thank you for inviting!