4 reasons why we do what we want, and how to handle them

The question "Why does a person does not?" Tricky. Usually, the answer lies in the ignorance of what to do and how to do. But today, for the majority of "want" searchers give out hundreds of ideas and tips about what whatever was discussed, from weight loss to the calling search. If so simple, then why not go and do?

Because in fact, the problem is desired. And here is how to awaken it - is quite another matter.

There are many reasons that people even with a strong motivation to manage to mark time. Below I present my options and I am sure that familiarity with them will help you move forward.

1. We do not know where to start

This is the first question that must arise, when we have any desire. But I'm not talking about "well, it would be nice", but about what you really want to do.

In this regard, people are divided on the principle of "if" and "when." First come up with a thousand conditions in order to start, and the second determines the next execution time.

If the question "Where to begin?" Asked the time, the process will move from a dead point. I wanted to become painter? Today, for a course, tomorrow buy paint and canvas. Man is not willing to commit a minimum of action for the implementation of desire only in one case - if in fact he does not want.

The truth is that, says the Chinese proverb, the path of a thousand miles begins with the first step. Always.

2. We do not know how to prioritize

Well, I know where to start. For example, I want to lose weight, and you want to start with the run. What's next? Must also buy sneakers, with other contracts, check the weather forecast ...

Not.

You need to go out and run. As Forrest Gump. Remember how it was in the film?

- Why are you doing this?

- I just want to run.

When we have a desire, and we decide on the first step, by inertia in the head there is a second, third, fourth, and as a result, a couple of alternatives and diversion. Here we get lost and forget what we actually need.

Rule to fight this disease is simple - always gets the first phase of the plan to the end.

You are going to start run? Wear sneakers and go out, wrap a couple of laps around the house. I'm serious, now. If you do not like it now, with a full charge of motivation, then suddenly, like then? Because you will be running in the stadium and in his favorite T-shirt? Defines the priorities: try and bring to the end and decide.

3. We complicate things

Favorite phrase of a man who does not want to change anything, -. "Not so simple" How much do I inquired about examples of what it includes a complex "all", yet to no avail. Every time it turned out that it is possible and find an alternative, and to adapt. It would wish.

Any business, broken into small tasks, performed easier. To put himself in the formIt seems not so easy lose 10 kg, but it is quite easy to spend 15 minutes a day to charge and eliminate refined sugar from your diet.

Granted, there are times when we do not complicate things, but the situation is really difficult. Then, ask yourself, "How did it simplify?" I would not believe that it will be impossible to find any alternatives.

And then everything depends on the well-known expression: "There are no bad choices, there are options that we do not like."

4. We fear

from bricks fear It builds a wall around your comfort zone. "I am happy here, so outside is bad." Therefore, everything new is perceived by us with hostility. For this reason, people are divided into two categories.

The first - the Conservatives. They are afraid to change something, nothing to try and live in my bubble lifetime. It's nice if it all happy. Provided that the person does not want to change, but at the same time achieves what he wants, and happy - it flag in hand.

Second - innovators. They, on the contrary, are afraid to stop. To them, fear is born in the question, "What if I leave everything as it is?". They are afraid of losing time, health, relationships, and so more effort.

In both cases, the person is afraid. Only in the first case, the fear makes him stand, and in the second - to move and change.

Ask yourself, "What if I leave everything as it is?" If the answer is satisfactory, congratulations, sign up for a group of happy conservatives. If not, it's time to change something.

These reasons, of course, can not be considered exhaustive. I've highlighted the ones that I have met. I hope they will allow you to avoid my mistakes.

In the words of an athlete Joe Lewis, "you live only once, but if you do everything right, then that's enough."

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