Erase snot, dude: how to come to success - tips Lesi Ryabtseva
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
Les Riabtseva
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Nobody will listen
The only voice that you do not cheat - your own. At the time, Pavel Durov posted tips, one of which was on his intuition: "Whenever I listened to the opinion of" the older and reasonable ", I was losing time. If you feel that you need to do - ignore the opinion of the authorities. " Nobody will be able to feel what you feel you are, at times, no one can give you advice, but you will be completely immersed in the situation. Learn to listen to your inner voice and trust him.
Credibility - not about age and experience
If you still need advice, be careful when choosing a counselor. You need to be sure that the person is acting only in your best interest, and not in spite of them.
The authority - is the one to whom you can entrust your life. So at least he has been successful in your area of interest, he is respected colleagues (not like, namely respect), all of whom he gave advice, became successful. If a potential authority coincided on all three points - believe him and follow him.
Experience should be quantitative and qualitative. Often it is taken to recruit those who long pants sit in one place and allegedly established itself as a good specialist. In reality, it may be just a good specialist in prosizhivanie pants. Choose authorities, which could for his life to achieve something. Such successes as "good husband" and "favorite son-in", also count.
Do and do - different things
It can be a lot of long and tedious to do something and it does not achieve any result. Efficiency - it is about the result, it is desirable to positive. But even a negative result - the result of the lesson, which can be learned.
Sometimes it is enough to do anything than to do nothing and continue to wipe the pants.
Get rid of those you are not interested
Extra weight pulls down. If you feel that you have outgrown your friends or communication with relatives aggravates you limit communication.
Nothing should disturb you. You have the right to be happy, and you can afford to be angry, even to relatives and close friends. Anger, sadness, longing, resentment - it's just a feeling, and bad feelings do not exist, there is the inability to handle them.
Better you will communicate less with the family, but at the same time keep warm and trusting relationship, rather than going every day call up the habit without desire, with irritation, with the mood obyazalovka, which ultimately lead to mutual discontent.
Attachment drag you down
Any excessive attachment - anchor for your abilities. You may want to lose weight, but it is not able to get rid of love for sweets. Or do you dream of a trip out of town, but again and again to let the beloved pester you even on weekends.
Follow to the goal, sacrifice the little things, because in comparison with the pleasure of finally dream come true everything else, from what you can give up - is nonsense. Not to mention the attachment to your chosen one (beloved), which ultimately can interfere with both you and him to develop. The next time you give up going to the movies with friends, from the prospective job offers or reading an interesting book in favor of spending time with your partner, think about how often you do it, and not whether or not to give yourself a bit of freedom and man.
Stop suffering
I can not believe that the world was created in order to make us all the more to suffer. You no one stops to enjoy life. If you've always wanted to embroider a cross, or to learn to dance - go for it. Do what makes you happy, forget about dissatisfaction with life.
Stop whining and do something to rectify the situation.
No one but you can not change your life. No one comes to the aid, none of you will not look your favorite movie, no one except you, does not write you in the pool. Suffering - the inheritance of fools, let yourself be happy.
Examine its scope comfort
Teach yourself humble, to cope with difficulties, sit on a diet, wake up early. Try the new, do not be afraid of the unknown. Sometimes we just forget about the fact that in the world there is something besides the usual things. My Conservative friend took every day to try a new dish, and yet have never regretted it. Perhaps you need to become a conservator when a lot tried to stop on something one.
reconfigure
You agree that any austerity seems to have not so terrible if you go at it alone. Of course, it is necessary to learn from the coaches professionals, go to workshops selfmeyd successful, people listen TED lecture. But to take the vows, addressed to the changes needed to. No one will take responsibility for your laziness and procrastination. No one to blame if you score on a diet or smoke a last cigarette another.
Besides, as soon as you are forced to do something that a couple of minutes ago, you were ready to do something inside the switches and sacrifice no longer want. So the only effective coach in your life - is you.
I admit, most of these tips I myself have not yet worked, and continue to implement in their lives. As for me, it does not matter how much more work remains on yourself, but how much you have already done. About once a month, looking back, I realize that it has become better thanks to the constant, if not always an intensive, practice these tips.