How to change a way of life, not a mocking

You probably noticed how difficult it is to instill healthy habits yourself. Go to bed early, regularly go to the gym, eat healthy food. The first week is usually goes well - we force ourselves to do the right thing - but then maintain a way of life is becoming increasingly difficult. After two or three weeks, most of the rent.

In this case, people who live by these rules, for some reason all of this is given easily. They even somehow enjoy the regular jogging, early ups and fruit smoothies for breakfast.

Many believe that such behavior need incredible strength of will, and if someone can not adhere to treatment, then it simply does not have it. But the truth is that the discipline does not have to be painful.

In order to become healthy and productive, it is much better not to poke fun at themselves, but rather to do what you like.

Here are a few steps that will help to reach this point.

1. Forget willpower

Historically, deny yourself the pleasure is a virtue. The monks have taken a vow of silence, locked in their cells for years, the soldiers rushed into the battle on the first request of the monarch. This plant has leaked in the productivity sector. Many believe that

self-discipline must necessarily be accompanied by suffering, denial of one's emotions and desires with an iron willpower. The concept of the will bound up with morality. We are sure that if someone does not manage to force myself to go through hardships, that he is a bad man.

This approach was a sense in the Middle Ages: it helps to regulate society. People are a little less controlled himself and succumbed to baser instincts.

But in our time installation "Self-discipline = suffering" is outdated and does nothing but harm to those who want to get better. It makes us feel ashamed and think that if we are self-indulgent and indulged in them, we are very bad people. Apparently, the idea is that at some point we are so full of self-hatred, it is easy to submit to the "right" principles. Needless to say, it does not work.

2. stop ashamed

Self-discipline through shame and repressed desires can bear fruit very long. After she gives the opposite effect - often destructive.

Shame - it's stress. At some point it reaches a critical point, and then the man stands in front of goal. The first option - to finally give in to the desires. It drowns out the attraction, but increases the shame. The second option - to blunt the internal conflict. Some are obvious ways: alcohol, Parties, drugs. Others watch television 14 hours a day. Still others seize power, or go head to work.

But this does not work, because the shame you can not knock down. He just changes form and turns into an unhealthy attachment. People are beginning to refer to the selected method of distraction is almost religious, lose physical and mental health.

Self-Discipline through shame leads to self-destruction. To change your lifestyle, you need to maintain motivation for a long time, and this can be done only one way - to make the new habits have been nice to follow. It is necessary to cooperate with their emotions rather than resist them.

3. accept yourself

To change their behavior in the first place need to stop hating yourself for bad habits. The fact that you go to every day in the morning, every week to order a pizza, skip a workout or spend a lot of time video gameIt does not make you a bad person.

Accept yourself - is to realize that you can change in the future and that are likely to have lost a lot of time in the past. And it is very unpleasant discovery.

But as soon as you separate your emotions from moral judgment - will be able to understand yourself and understand some of the problems you are trying to run away all the time. Why are you drawn to junk food? Why you do not want to give up cigarettes? What you are trying to quell fears? Find the answers to these questions and take this "unhealthy" part of yourself.

The need to get away from the fear will disappear and you will be able to start taking care of yourself. What is more important - you will enjoy the "right" way of life.

4. Take care of yourself

So, you no longer consider yourself a horrible person and accept the existence of some shame and fear within itself. What's next?

You begin to treat yourself to a fine. Maybe even you love yourself. So, you'll want to take care of yourself, because a normal person, unlike the poor, deserves care. Willpower you no longer useful. You will want to lead a healthy lifestyle, simply because it gives excellent feel.

eat fruit and realize that your body is healthy, it's nice. Keep the body in good physical shape nicely. Do not eat potato chips, drink alcohol and not to stay for video games is also nice.

You are no longer trying to escape from their fears or suppress them. And you do not have to mock him, to live the life that you want.