Work on yourself: how to begin to change

In the comments to my first article I was asked about how to find their mission and determine the direction of changes in life. In this article I would like to answer this question and suggest a few simple techniques that you can try out immediately after reading.

Why do we want to change?

If you think you need to change something in this life, you do not think.

Rinat Valiullin

I I wroteThat the first step to conscious changes in your life is planning. However, I did not say that it makes us begin to plan, look for sources of motivation and work with their own resources.

It's very simple - it is the rejection of reality.

We begin to think about changes when we are born the desire to say: "In my life there is something wrong. I do not like it!". This happens when something causes us to question our standard of living.

I recently read the story of a girl, grown thin for 20 kg. I will give it as an example.

"I was riding in the subway, when all the seats were occupied. In front of me sat a grandmother, and the first few minutes carefully examined me. Then she got up and saying, "Sit down, my daughter, you stand with rebonochkom not necessary" - gave way to my place. I am burning with shame and holding his "rebonochka" village. It was at that moment I realized that more can not continue. "

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The first thing you have to understand, when we got in the way of change - a new standard to which you aspire, do not correspond to what you have at this stage. But not everything falls the opportunity to go through the time of maximum clarity, to see themselves from the outside and rethink their habits as the aforementioned girl. So what to do?

1. What I want to change?

Not too much sense to climb the stairs, if it leaning against the wrong wall, that you need.

Stephen Covey

This is the main issue of concern to the majority of people who have received the charge of motivation, but do not know where to direct your energy.

There are many ways to identify problem areas, but the easiest and most effective of them - a competent evaluation. To do this, you need to consider separately the major areas of your life, to which, as a rule, are:

• love;
• friendship;
• Wealth;
• health;
• Job;
• hobby.

This classification was proposed by the Russian business coach Radislav Gandapas. You can use your division, revealing more detail separate directions.

Now we need to evaluate each of them on a scale. So you decide so, what areas in the first place need your attention. If you have a neighbor opposite assessments (for example, 3 and 10), then you should think about how to redirect their efforts in the field, which is more in need.

If all the numbers are about the same, start with health and love, as their development is most trains will and gives motivation for self-improvement.

2. How to make the act itself?

To change something, a person needs to survive the disaster, poverty or the nearness of death.

Erich Maria Remarque

Once you decide what to work, you have to bring yourself into a state of rejection of reality. Your desire to improve existing standards must overcome the fear that is guaranteed to cause a desire to leave everything as is. What do you need?

Take a piece of paper and write down the goal in their chosen field. For example: "I want to develop a strong relationship." Now divide the list into two columns with the following titles:

1. Old standards. What will happen in five years if I leave everything as it is?
2. The new standards. What will happen in five years, if I work on myself in this area?

Now, try to be as honest and write detailed answers to these questions. In our example with a strong relationship to the old standards could include loneliness, lack of understanding, emotional instability, and so on. Among the new - emotional support, a pastime, a happy marriage.

So on what standards you want to live?

3. Live by the new standards. Today!

In life there is no balance. Every moment - is a movement towards perfection, or degradation.

Andrew Matthews

Now that you know which direction you need to move and what results you expect at the end. At this stage, full of emotions, we first begin to build plans to change the chosen field, but our enthusiasm quickly vanishes.

To prove to yourself that your standards are really a thing of the past, is beginning to change their chosen field today, right now. An excellent example of motivation for you to serve The below picture.

To a year to see multiple changes, enough to change by 1% today. Write to an old friend, with whom long time no contact, do the exercises, learn about career opportunities at work. Each day do at least something that will bring you closer to your goal, even if only one step.

Start working on yourself and change your life for the better!