4 simple truths that everyone should know a procrastinator
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
If your to-do list has a problem a year ago, then you are a procrastinator. Being a chronic procrastinator - means constantly live with illusions and come up with excuses for his inaction. Walk on the same path, slow down in the same spot and get the same result. To get out of this circle, understand four important things.
1. Confidence comes after you get down to business
Procrastinators with experience say that immediately get down to business is dangerous: you can fool of himself. Therefore, they prefer to think and plan. Planning a long, indefinitely. Because it is not terribly unlike the real action. After the task is fraught real threat: the possibility of failure, ridicule and disappointment in his abilities.
Therefore, before you start trying to get procrastinators confidence in their own abilities. And that leads to even more profound reflection and analysis capabilities. The trouble is that the procrastinator will never be ready for action. Every time something not to be missed.
To feel confident, begin to finally do something about it.
It is necessary to get started, how things work out. You will understand that requires effort, and that is given easily. You will see what you can do to not pay attention. One after another, you will carry out the task, because it will no longer be tormented by doubts.
2. Problems seem to be complicated as long as you have not begun to tackle them
The long and confusing list, the less hope of ever accomplish it. It is unclear how long it will take, and what difficulties have to be faced. You are afraid to act, and spoil everything. List It becomes similar to a huge problem on the tangled Christmas garland, which can only help to unravel the incredible effort over himself. You promise to make it on Monday. If not this, then the next for sure.
In fact, this garland is only a figment of your imagination, which appears when you think about your problems, but do not do anything. In this case, it is important to understand that the work is always carried out in parts. And you will not know how much effort it will take until the start.
David Allen, author of the GTD system, an expert in time management and personal productivityYou can not carry out the project - you can only perform actions associated with it. After all, even the largest project consists of phone calls, notes, application forms, and other minor improvements readily achievable actions. Remember unraveling unit of the thread: you just patiently pull one thread after another, ignoring everything else.
As long as you present in my thoughts the whole process of the task, it seems endless. This is what leads to procrastination: you expect so many difficulties, that are known to be hopeless attempts to overcome them. But this is the wrong approach. You should choose one problem and solve it. Once you do this, fears and doubts will disappear.
3. Endless refinement matters worse, bring it started to end
Always finish the work which has been undertaken. Get to the end of the section, paragraph, a certain stage. Do not just work on something without providing the expected results. Otherwise, you will feel that you have already done quite a lot, but in fact task It becomes only bigger.
The process is easy to get carried away: something to add, replace, try to make perfect. But in fact, by the end of the day you will appear more unfulfilled than at the beginning. Ask yourself what you are trying to finish right now? And if the answer is no, then you add a job, rather than approaching its completion.
4. Do you think that action carries a risk, and the omission - no, but in fact the opposite is true
Procrastination - is a painful reflection on the actions themselves without action. You can live and be afraid of the work for which has not yet undertaken. Speculation about the alleged difficulties can frighten you months or even years, but the task will take less than an hour.
Pulling the time - protective mechanism procrastinator in response to the imagined difficulty.
But in this case you injure yourself. The longer you put off the solution of problems, the worse taken for them. Conjure horrific picture of unrealistic cases, and it extinguishes any rush. You do not want to part with the comfort, but in fact have already done it and do not try to change something. Act is not dangerous. It is dangerous to let things take their course. Because in this case there will have real difficulties: missed deadlines, fines, shame, and more big loss of confidence.
It is not necessary to torment himself with doubts. Painful thoughts disappear, one has only to begin to act.
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