A simple mechanism that will help you radically change lives

In 1978, social psychologist Ellen Langer conducted a study, which was attended by residents of nursing homes. They were divided into two groups, both of which are entrusted with house plants. The first group was assigned to take care of the plants and gave freedom to set your own daily routine. The second group was told that the plants will take care of the employees of the hospital, and not entrusted to control the order of the day.

After a year and a half of the first group were still alive two times more people than in the second. According to Langer, it proved: the postulate of the absence of communication between body and mind in the wrong root.

She then continued to study, to study the effect of consciousness on the body.

How to turn back the clock

In 1981, during the experiment Langer, together with a group of graduates has issued a room of a building so that it looks in the spirit of 1959. There have placed a black and white TV, old furniture, books and magazines from the 50s of the last century.

In this building for five days had to live eight people over 70 years old. Up until the end of the experiment, participants listened to the radio, watching movies and discussing the events of the 50s. About himself, his family and work, they say, as if it was 1959. The goal was not to force these people to live in the past. It was necessary at the level of consciousness of the body to make the experiment participants function as a body function much younger people.

What happened with the test? By the end of the experiment, participants significantly improved hearing, vision, memory, reaction speed and appetite. Those who are used to help children become able to move and carry your belongings yourself.

Providing these people to freedom and independence, as well as communication with them as with ordinary people, and not as with the elderly, enabling them to see the other side, which was reflected in their physical condition.

The roles we play in life, determine our self-perception and behavior

Other studies have shown the dark side of the same effect. For example, the famous Stanford Prison Experiment Philip Zimbardo shows how the roles we take on ourselves affect our behavior and our identity.

participants in the experiment were divided into two groups: one played the role of guards, the other - the prisoners. The experiment had to be aborted prematurely, because the "actors" played their roles very well. "Guards" began to scoff at the "prisoners" and "prisoners" have become more submissive and began to feel oppressed and hopeless. Several participants in the experiment were traumatized.

The roles we play in life, often have a decisive influence on who we are and how we are conducting themselves. Our personality is not something strictly fixed.

On the contrary, it is a very flexible substance that adapts quickly enough under our roles. For example, many people believe that the death of Heath Ledger, at least partly due to the fact that he too was filled with his latest role in "Dark Knight".

All our life - the game and the people in it - actors

This famous quote is true to an even greater extent than it seems. In different contexts, we all play different roles. In one situation you are a musician, in others - a father, a friend, loved oneStudent or teacher.

The situation defines the role that we play. However, most people do not realize that there is an inverse relationship. You just need to decide who you want to play. Only you to choose where you will be playing whom, and how. You are free to write your life story, instead of charging the role of narrator to someone or something outside.

Yes, you are, he is. But you can become what you want to be.

How to use this knowledge, you can achieve your goals

It is important to understand that the real you - it's not the kind of person who you are at the moment. This you - this is what you want to become. You have everything in order to determine how many acts will be in your life play and what it will be characters. And even if there will be something unexpected, you can always improvise without departing in this case from its principles and values. So you save yourself this.

So how do you determine the power of their environment and the role that you play, you can make in your professional and personal life is a qualitative change. It's a simple process, and that's what stages it includes.

1. Define your goal.
2. Move to the target, immersing yourself in a situation that will make you deserve to achieve this goal.
3. Define the roles that you will need to play in situations that you have created for yourself.
4. Play a role as long as it does not become part of your personality.
5. Build relationships with people who will support you and help you reach your goal.
6. Repeat everything from the first step, but at a higher level.

How to set a goal

This is a major irony of most people's lives. They do not understand very well what they want from their lives. But at the same time are quite active.

Ryan Holiday, business consultant, media strategy, popularizer of science

Most of wandering through life as thoughtlessly as on the internet, only checking your news feed and stopping on a random pages. They did not specify what they want, so adjust to the existing situation.

If you decide exactly what you want, the universe itself will help you achieve the desired.

When you set yourself specific goal do write your story, you define at the same time, what stage of passage ways are waiting for you in moving toward the goal. Creating their own conditions for development, you need to know who you want to see yourself in the next stage.

This does not mean that you need to fully plan out their future. So again you pound your identity and to limit the scope of their potential. On the contrary, making qualitative changes in your life, you will open up a host of new features.

Each time, leaving life to a new level, you will have to become another version of himself.

Leonardo DiCaprio, American actor and producer.

For example, you are planning to start their own business, save a lot of money, and by 40 years to arrange a "retirement." And then you turn 40, but you will feel full of energy and start a business in a completely different field. Why not? In 20 years, we have quite difficult to predict what will be of interest to us and worry about when it will be 40. Perhaps this is the beauty of life.

Why is it important to know how to create context

The context helps us to evolve naturally.

Ellen Langer, a social psychologist

Most people, instead of choosing the new conditions, apply all possible efforts in order to alter the conditions in which they are located. However, they too rely on willpower.

It is important to understand that to grow with the help of one of willpower rather difficult. This is a very slow, gradual path of self-improvement as a foot ascent to the top of a steep mountain. So you can not make in your life a qualitative leap. And with the conscious creation of new conditions - will be able to. Changes occur naturally. The only way you can achieve what you thought was beyond your capabilities. So you create a river, during which you will suffer right to the end.

How to determine the role that you will play

Game - it is not a metaphor, but rather a pattern of behavior, you can use both at work and in everyday life.

Michael Port, a consultant, coach, speaker on the topic of marketing and setting goals

Your behavior and the role that you play, affect the people who surround you. Creating the right context can help you determine the right role, but you can also help yourself by asking yourself the following questions.

• How would you like to influence others?
• Who do you need to be to achieve the goals?
• What will be your voice?
• Who will you play?

Even important details. Probably everyone knows the advice to move on ladder, You need to already low positions to dress as a dress chiefs. It makes sense, but the focus should, of course, on behavior.

Act as if you have already changed

If you want to develop some quality, behave as if it is already you have.

William James, American philosopher and psychologist

Of course, there are circumstances that objectively you limit. half - if your height you can hardly reach over two meters. But if you want to be a great musician, an outstanding writer, or succeed in business, everything is in your hands. As for skills, there are no boundaries.

at first probably, you will feel like a fraud, your behavior will seem unnatural. It's not very nice. Your past performance will be felt, even if the context is going to require you to be a different person. But gradually you get used and find that fused with the role and it's already there and you are a true.

How to build a proper relationship

The greater your goal, the more important the team in which you move to it.

Robin Sharma, Canadian writer, motivational expert, leadership and personal development

You can not do without the help of true friends and mentors. In the book "Your support group," Keith Ferrazzi denounced the prevalence of the idea that the path of the leader - is the way of loners and what can be a such a lonely superprofessionalnyh Superman.

Keith says that you need to build a deep and trusting relationships with a few people who will encourage you, support you and give feedback about what you're doing. They will not let you give up and roll out of the way.

We are all just people. Situations in which you throw yourself to evolve, too complex to deal with them alone.

conclusion

Quickly achieve qualitative changes in the lives of very real. You just need to have the courage to put yourself in an environment that challenge you and force you to become better. You will need to define exactly who you want to be, and in all situations to preserve confidence. And you'll have to act as if you already are who want to be.

If you can do this, you make sure that your potential is limitless. The choice is yours. As always.