If you want to change, do just the opposite

Effect George Costanzo

If you watched the TV series "Seinfeld," then you know that George Costanzo (George Costanza) was exemplary loser: his actions ended in failure, he was not sure of himself, and his friends always ridiculed. However, in one episode he says so: because his usual behavior always leads to failure, to succeed it needs to do the opposite - the opposite of what his instincts prompt.

In the crazy world of sitcom it immediately leads to results. He invites blonde date is clearly not out of his league with the words: "My name is George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents. " Not a good strategy to meet. Yet in this episode, there is an important lesson to remember.

The main reason for stagnation in certain aspects of your life is that you keep doing the same thing, consciously or unconsciously.

If you want to to become better, You need to at least change your normal response in some situations.

Evolving

It would be rather rash to act like George and do everything strictly opposite to how you acted throughout his life. Most likely, everything would have gone out of control pretty quickly. But sometimes it is worth spending a small controlled experiments in which you try to do things the other way around. After all, if you do not work, you can always go back to the usual behavior.

Do you know what the mechanism works on the same principle? Evolution. It is a process of gradual, continuous accumulation of small mutations, which occur as a result of new individuals. If you think about all the people - it's just a long series of mutations that accumulate and reconstructed, developed in a successful combination.

Evolution works, preserving and accumulating mutations good and discarding the bad. Similarly, you can find a way to keep only the good behaviors and to get rid of the bad ones.

In addition, the evolution of works by making changes on a small scale: for all kinds of one individual individual - it is a small scale (despite how painful it may be for this particular mutation individuals). The good news is that in your case a small scale experiment will help to alleviate and shorten its duration.

A few tips

So, where to begin experiments on short change yourself?

1. Do not take yourself too seriously

However, it is not necessary. The easiest way to change the world - to stop worrying too much and just act. This is quite an interesting paradox. Those who are too worried about the consequences of their actions ultimately change their mind and do nothing. While other people are just trying to do something and achieve positive change.

You will be original, just being himself. This does not mean that you have to do something stupid, like get into a fight or jumping from the tenth floor. But small controlled risks from time to time is necessary. So you not only will be more like themselves, but also made a surprising discovery. The world is full of people who act "correctly". Do what's right for you, not for them.

2. Analyze your first reaction

Did you know that the best way to determine which foot to start running, is to get a push in the back? You instinctively try to prevent falling, exposing one leg forward - with her, and you need to start.

The first reaction characterizes you. In other words, we are a long list of reactions to various events that could potentially happen to us. Therefore, you should always celebrate their unconscious reaction and consciously to change some of them. The next time you do something reflex stop, analyze and decide if you could do otherwise. As a rule, many of the reactions dictates fearAnd should not always listen to the fear.

3. Surround yourself with the right people

Exchanging ideas with the same people, you will quickly find that your thinking is not developed. Surround yourself with reckless daredevils, and you will see that the more risks themselves and began to try something new.

You realize it or not, but you are strongly influenced by the people who are next to each day.

Surround yourself with people you admire, who have achieved what you yourself would like to achieve. Or those who are different from you in those aspects of life that you would like to improve. Soon, you start to think like them, act like them and ultimately to achieve the same results that they did.

4. Repeat what works, discard the rest

It is much easier to agree on experiments, when you see their positive effects.

Inevitably some of your experiments fail. But rather than blame themselves, continue to move on and try new things. Sometimes it will be an amazing thing, when something would be the best against all your expectations.

When you will be something good, try to learn from this situation and try to repeat it in the future. Repeat this process again and again. Proceed as evolution.