How to increase motivation for 2 minutes per day
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
In the West, quite popular this method of increasing motivation as "a partnership of accountability." Its essence is this: you choose a man who is more responsible than you are, and you ask him to check. And if you have something does not work, you feel uncomfortable in front of your friend, and you take the task with renewed vigor.
On the responsibility to yourself to score easily, but in front of others, we feel ashamed. And this is a good motivator. Benjamin Hardy, an organizational psychologist, explains how to build a partnership and to become more productive with it.
Benjamin Hardy
Psychologist and blogger. He writes about psychology and productivity at Medium.
When most people hear the phrase "on the accountability partner" is their jars. They think that the report to someone else - the extra work. But this is not the case. Feeling responsibility - a necessary condition for progress in life.
Work with a partner for accountability is very simple, you will see for yourself. It takes less than two minutes a day. And I'll tell you how to do so that it will motivate you and not annoyed.
What prevents to work with a partner for accountability
Incorrectly selected partner
The first mistake people who want to find a partner for accountability - to think that you need someone with the same objectives, interests and hobbies, as you yourself. But this is not the case. In fact, this role even better experience on anyone, unlike you.
The purpose of the method of accountability is not a common interest and a common responsibility. And no matter what your partner is trying to achieve. You can even with him will never meet in person. The only thing that is important - that it is responsible and ambitious as you, or even more. That's all.
Very rare reports
When you find the right partner for this task, you will need to him somehow cooperate. And the best way maintain motivation - report on a daily basis.
African proverbIf you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go further, go together with someone.
If you will be in contact with a partner only once a week, the risk is great that the habit has been secured, and ultimately you throw it. Lose the fuse - then lose. Therefore, inform your partner about your achievements on a daily basis is very important. Due to this you are typing the correct rhythm, maintain motivation, push each other forward.
And remember: the purpose of such a partnership is not friendship. Choose what you want: to achieve planned results or friends. Friends spare us, they forgive and are ready to forgive us idleness. A sole objective of your partnership to be responsible.
Too ambitious goals
In his book The Atomic Habits James Clear tells how to produce healthy habits. He cites as an example the story of a man who wanted to train yourself to go to the gym every day. And to do that, the guy spent six weeks in the following way: he came into the hall, was detained there for only five minutes, and then left.
Surprisingly a waste of time, right? Why he did not stay there for training, since he came? Yes, because he wanted to start the habit of just going there and not to set records. Start with the smallest.
You can not improve the habits that you have not yet.
People are too much emphasis on the results of their effort, rather than the process itself. But you have to motivate is not the result, to which so far away, but a process.
Therefore, when you start to work with a partner for accountability, do not put yourself too ambitious goals. Do not make a cult of writing reports. Your partnerships should be simple, easy and not time-consuming - not more than two minutes per day.
How to use the method
Take short daily reports
Every morning, send your partner a message of accountability in the messenger or e-mail, which includes your three main goals day. And at the end of the day Send out another message describing that of the planned has been done.
In addition to the report, you must also list three things that you do on the next day, and when morning comes, to duplicate the information. Here is the dialogue with my partner for accountability:
Hold each other every week
Every week, on Sunday evening, in addition to the report on the "daily troika", share with each other "big three" tasks for the next week. Here's how it looks:
Monthly share their plans and achievements
However, this is not necessary. And look do not overdo it: Partnership for accountability should serve you, not you to him. Otherwise, it will start to bore and annoy and you throw it. Here's how to look my monthly reports:
With the result that
Every day I and my partner for a couple of accountability exchange messages. At the beginning of the day we just list the three of our goals today, in the evening to announce that we have done (if done only two things, put the mark "2/3"). And then lists three goals for tomorrow. This must be done in order to eliminate fatigue from decision-making and do not waste time in the morning to the setting of objectives.
Once a week, we tell each other three tasks, which is scheduled for the next seven days. At the end of the week we report how to cope with these cases (e.g., 3/3). Every month we share our ambitious achievements. In addition, during the 30- or 60-minute phone call we discuss how was the month. And it's all.
With this method for the last month I've overcome some bad habits and emotional barriers that have plagued me for years.
The main goal of accountability - to make you accountable and make track for you You spend your life. And if you want to achieve something in any field, you need to measure your progress. It makes you focus when you share your progress with someone, your motivation starts to grow rapidly.
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