How to achieve any goal: a universal guide

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What should know before you start

1. There are things which can not be achieved, or simply do not reach. Become a rock star marrying a famous football player, night drive through the city to buy the most ice cream - to represent it is much nicer than in reality experience.

2. Sometimes the desire is actually not yours, but you do not guess about it. For example, you feel that you want to become a successful lawyer, but in reality you need to get your father proud. Or you want to become a hermit and did not suspect that really just want to get away from his obnoxious boss.

3. Achieving the goals will not provide you such satisfaction, which you expect. when your dream come to life, you will not feel as much joy as you dreamed. We tend to overestimate both the quantity and duration of happiness and dreams, so be prepared.

Before you rush into battle for their dreams, think it over. Otherwise, you may find that you have wasted a few years, or even half of his life.

How to reach your goals

Decide what you really want

Often we do not even know what we want. Many of our desires are born of dissatisfaction and sound like: "I do not know what I want, but certainly not this." Be specific.

Do you really want to work for themselves, or simply tired of your job? You really need cubes press or you want to be healthy and energetic?

You need to understand exactly what you want. Detail, imagine that you have reached the desired rate is not only advantages but also disadvantages - they are always there. What do you feel about it?

Eliminate desires conflicting

"I want to be in good shape. And I hate sports. "

Often new goal remains unrealized because you have a desire to reverse that contradicts it. Take, for example, fit and sedentary lifestyle. Be passive and not engage in sports - it is also your desire. It comes from a desire to avoid the discomfort and prevents fulfill another desire - to bring themselves in the form.

All reverse desire caused by the unwillingness to leave the comfort zone and fear of the unknown: training, new job or a hobby.

Think about what you need to do to achieve the goal. Check whether you have the desire to do it.

Find out how other people have achieved that to which you aspire

It is unlikely that you want to achieve what no one has managed before. Use the experience of others to achieve their goals. Just search the internet of people who have already done it: earn a lot of money to run a marathon, won the competition in any sport or learn three languages.

If a person has written an autobiography and a book with tips - use them - if not, try contacting the board and ask directly. Simply send an email with a request to help. There is a chance that you will get valuable tips and precautions that will help you quickly achieve the desired.

Make the best plan

From the data you advice, make a simple plan. Imagine how you would have reached the desired, if not afraid of anything and has incredible willpower.

Now be careful, as the fearful part of your mind is trying to change the plan to make it less painful. Now you see its opposite desire - to avoid the discomfort.

If you are trying to modify the original plan so that it did not have any discomfort, the desire to avoid the difficulties is about to win. The farther your plan departs from the original, the less your chances of actually reach the goal.

Resist the urge to avoid uncertainty and discomfort.

Amended plan, if necessary

So, you have a plan. And you began to move according to it. If you progress, there is no problem, continue. If not, ask yourself four questions:

1. I follow the plan? If not, then start to follow.
2. Is there some small part of the plan to be changed? If there is, change.
3. Do I need a different plan, considering all that I know now? If so, develop a strategy that suits your current situation.
4. I think my goal is unattainable or not I need? If so, drop and go do something else.

As a rule, all the difficulties and problems that you meet along the way, already experienced by other people. Google.

If your plan does not work, make adjustments or change it. If your goal no longer seems attractive to you, abstain from it.

What can prevent you achieve your desired

Desires of others

Relatives and friends wish you happiness, but it can not approve the path chosen to reach it. Perhaps they feel that your desire will not bring you nothing but misery.

In addition, your goals may contradict what they want to close. For example, parents dream that you were always there and were in danger. Of course, they will move against your dangerous journey or adventure hobby. Keep this in mind and do not expect the full support from others.

Your desire to reverse

The real cause of failure - the desire predictability and comfort. This is a real invisible fence that keeps us from achieving their goals.

Each of us is capable of incredible things. The unusually desire, the more we both do not want to reach it, while remaining in the comfort zone.

We are fearful beings who wish by all means keep the usual order of things, regardless of how it is dull and rotten. We've got an excuse: this quality is important for the survival of the species. But sometimes it really hinders us.

When you accept the fact that fear and suspense accompany you in any worthwhile attempt to become a little bit easier. Not easier, but easier.

You decide what you want. Do it. If you do not know what to do, the next step - to learn.