How to overcome the fear of failure

Remember that the skill comes with time

One day an elderly Pablo Picasso was sitting in a cafe and something to draw on a napkin. He did not notice, with some trepidation watching him sitting next to the woman. A couple of minutes later, Master finished his coffee, crumpled piece of paper and waved to send it into the ballot box. The movement broke the question:

- Can I leave the napkin itself? - immediately responded to the woman. - I will pay.

- Of course - said the artist. - It will cost you 20 thousand dollars.

- Excuse me, how much? You make a drawing in just two minutes.

- No, ma'am, - parried Picasso. - I took it for more than 60 years.

Picasso lived in '91. He died in 1973 and by that time amassed an impressive capital. His creative heritage has become known throughout the world. The total number of work nearer to 50 thousand, among them paintings, drawings, sculptures, ceramics, prints and tapestries.

For decades, Picasso's honed his skills and eventually reached a level that estimated sloppy sketch whip up a fortune, or at least successfully joked this score. In any case, the moral is obvious: the skill comes with time. Therefore, in any case to be constantly practiced.

And this should not slow down the pace or to give up, even if the failure happens. Failures should be part of the comfort.

Look fear in the face

Each of us was a child and did not think whether it is worth learning how to walk. No matter what the collapse of the first attempts to turn around - we simply continued in spite of everything. We get up, take a step and fell, hurting, maybe crying a moment, and then tried again. But they never twisted in the head: "Yes, friend, you're a hell of an awkward, walking - not exactly yours."

Clearly, the fear of failure comes as they grow older. Sooner or later, everyone begins to feel shame only by the thought of how his failures become general fun. Therefore, the majority of pre-throws lifeline and is limited in that it has.

Of course, these frameworks stifle us. We have convinced ourselves that the failures should be avoided. For this reason, each a failure to send the brain the red brake light: no longer do. And let this reaction gives us a sense of security, it also prevents realize our limitless potential.

Do not forget that the only way to become a the best version of yourself - be ready to fall. Every now and again. The success is inseparable from the failure.

Focus on what you can control

Stoic philosopher Epictetus believed that one should focus on the internals - internal factors, subservient control. This, for example, character, values, and behavior. Externalities - externalities - he can not control, so worry about them irrationally. By externalities include the past, most of the natural world, the thoughts and actions of others.

There is only one path to peace - to stop worrying about the things that are beyond the power of our will.

Epictetus

This idea helps me to overcome the fear of failure. Almost every time I'm going to write a series of unpleasant thoughts zapolonyayut my head: "Who are you all this? No one will read it. My friend, your lyrics are miserable. You simply have nothing to say, right? Throw this thing and go do something else. "

In the past, these fears have enslaved me. But it is understood that I do not mind, I'm the one who hears them over time. And if so, it means that my thoughts are external things. I can not control what's in my head right now, so worrying about it does not make sense.

On the other hand, my texts belong to the internals. I can manage it. Therefore I make a decision and continue to improve their skills. I do not look back at doubts and typing until you come to the end.

Do not take someone else's opinion to heart

This is another part of my profession, which usually becomes a big problem. You accurately represent what I mean, if at least once in your life have created something and show the world.

Positive comments cause good feelings. But the situation becomes terrible if come negative. Get at least 100 you nice review in the memory still settles 101st negative.

So do not forget that the statements of other people - this externality, which should be treated with a healthy share of indifference. Impossible to please everyone, so do not spray force and do not waste time on pointless attempt.

Output

From that moment every time you covers the fear of failure, remember the philosophical wisdom:

• Consider the source of fear, and let him go back home, if he came from and you do not subservient. Time goes by, so do not burn it in vain impulses to correct something.
• If you understand that concern the object sits inside you, use it as a trigger. Stop thinking and get down to business.

Be a child who is learning to walk. Fall, without worrying about how it looks and what they think surrounding. A new attempt. And one more. Again try.

Evaluate the success is not in the skill with which you avoid mistakes and diligence to do the job in spite of everything. Picasso created 50,000 works of art to speak about it the whole world. And what are you ready?

Every child - the artist. The problem is how to remain an artist when childhood leave.

Pablo Picasso