How to get rid of fears: 12 tips from young entrepreneurs
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
1. Identify the source of your fear
"This will help to analyze the real problem. I recently received a certificate in diving, so overcome your fear to get stuck under the water - says Orhuela Diego (Diego Orjuela), founder of the company Cables & Sensors. - Define your own, I found that its source completely irrational.
Faced with the fear or difficulty in the business, I am also looking for the source of the problem. Usually the fear is unfounded. After that I can overcome it and achieve planned. "
2. Do not pull the
Usually waiting alarming than the problem itself. For example, you need to impress client with a complex character. And this outcome depends. Schedule a meeting at the earliest possible time. Of course, within reasonable limits. So you will have less time to fear and anxiety.
Zev Herman (Zev Herman), CEO of Superior LightingI apply the rule of "Do not wait" to virtually all cases that scare me.
3. Change your expectations
Most very nervous because of the speaking in public. Relax and realize that a stressful situation and will take place in the end everything will be fine.
"Remember that you are prepared and that the audience really want you to be made successfully - advises Chris Van Dusen (Chris Van Dusen), head of digital Parcon Media Agency. - No one dreams of your failure. Students come to learn what you already know. "
4. Imagine the worst case scenario
For entrepreneurs this is usually awkward, wasted time, loss of status or money. All of these options are not fatal. Every successful entrepreneur is faced with them on their way.
Vic Patel (Vik Patel), head of the cloud platform Future HostingFor many people, the worst case really means something very bad. But for those who have their own business, the results are unlikely to be catastrophic. Listen to the advice, gather information, think properly, whether you are doing the right thing. And if still in doubt, imagine the worst case scenario.
5. Turn your fear into excitement
"I believe that the fear of the unknown and the feeling that you stand on the edge of the abyss - it points to the strongest influence on my development as a personality. Carefully choose which risks you are willing to go - advises Bryce Welker (Bryce Welker), founder of Crush The PM Exam. - Because there is no reason to risk due to the fact that will not bring significant benefits.
If you are sure that the risk is justified, try to turn your fear into excitement. It's easy, because the two are very similar feelings. This approach to the feared situation energizes. You might even begin to crave these things. In this case me. "
6. accumulate failure
"Before, I did not finish the projects, because he was afraid fail. Now I'm trying to save failures, - says Colby Pfand (Colbey Pfund), co-founder LFNT Distribution. - I do not get the fun of failure. But the more I try, the more likely that I will succeed. It is impossible to always hit the target, but to ever get there, you need to try many times. "
7. Decide what action to take immediately
"Usually I'm scared or nervous, because I'm not sure what's the worry for the result - says Kalin Kassab (Kalin Kassabov), founder ProTexting. - In this case, I try to look at the situation objectively and understand that you can do right now. So I feel confident.
You can not always solve the problem immediately. But usually there is something that can be done to move towards the goal. For example, search for information, call someone to buy a new tool or decide to abandon the deal. The main thing - do what you can, but do not sit idly by. "
8. Control your body language
Some mannerisms and facial expressions easily give out your excitement. To prevent this, pre-read your body language. Record yourself on video and see what gestures you repeat more often.
Etchison Jared (Jared Atchison), co-founder WPFormsWhen you control the facial expressions and mannerisms, you seem more confident and less worried. You'll know that the person will not give out your thoughts. And others will be more difficult to understand what's on your mind.
9. Listen to music
Sometimes the best way to calm down and to enable positive thinking. "I like to listen to cheerful before the presentation music- says Chris Christoff (Chris Christoff), one of MonsterInsights plugin developers. - Easy to assemble a playlist of songs that are charged with enthusiasm and give confidence. Or, you can configure the radio to Pandora for a particular song. "
10. Visualize good memories
"The teacher told me to meditation trick that I have since often use, especially before performances in public. At first, I remember a time when I was happiest, - says Marcela De Vivo (Marcela De Vivo), entrepreneur and marketing consultant. - I can imagine the smells, sounds and sensations. Then I remember that feeling very confident. Again I visualize as much as possible details. Then I imagine a figure that gives me a sense of joy and security, and its color. I mentally get up to this figure, and I am surrounded by good fortune and confidence. This helps to quickly deal with the fear. "
11. Count from five to one
"Give yourself five seconds before you take on a difficult task - advises Adrian Schmidt (Adrien Schmidt), creator of Aristotle software. - And ye shall count from five to one, and advance. Do not think, just do so. You will feel much better. I always use this trick before meeting with a potential client or public appearance. It works every time. "
12. Scroll situation in mind
Fear and anxiety are often caused by uncertainty. No matter what you need to do: make a presentation or to acquire a new business - still afraid that you will forget the main or failure.
Stepper Brandon (Brandon Stapper), founder of the company for the production of posters and signage Nonstop SignsIn this situation, I deliberately scroll in my head every action. If I need to speak to investors, I tell myself that first enter the room and see who came in the eye and smile. Then shake hands with each investor, will distribute all text materials. Quietly go to the center of the room and thanked everyone for what they have come. And so on.
Imagine every small action in the form of consecutive steps. Then, no longer have to fear the unknown.
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