First holiday together: how not to ruin the relationship

1. Choose a place together

You will not notice, like, "No, you hang up first" become "No, you did not check when the rainy season in Thailand." That's why you need to choose a place of rest together.

It is better that one of you was not there before. If you insist on going there, where have already been, get ready to take responsibility for everything: tasteless coffee, most of all to a museum or ugly crunched swans from towels.

Surely each of you keeps in mind the list of cities and countries where I want to visit the most. Drag it to the paper, there is a place in the order of importance and compare your lists. Simply select the country of the first intersection and do not forget to check on the weather, currency and visa.

2. Decide who pays

Thought that dealt with the issue of money on the first date when the shared account in a restaurant? Certainly not. Of the budget depends on where you go all the conditions in which you will live and what you can see. Therefore, it is necessary to arrange everything before you find a plane ticket.

Talking about money almost certainly will enter the top 10 of the most difficult conversations in your life. In my personal ranking it somewhere close with an explanation of the difference between mom and keshbekom hashtag.

Repelled from the budget in order, who have money less. It is impossible to make him feel uncomfortable.

If you earn more and are not willing to partner yourself in anything to infringe, take over some of its costs. For example, pay themselves accommodation or meals. Otherwise you'll have to choose a more affordable place or abandon the trip. Think about how many will spend a day on food, transport and entertainment. This will determine how much money you will need, and then take one and a half times more.

3. Do not take a lot of things

It is said that no matter how many years Koedam if they walk in Paris. But most of the girls agree to such only in the dark. Not only that, suitcase girls often several times larger than the male, its things like gas, fill all the space, including satellite suitcase.

Advice you can give to guys only: fit everything in one backpack. So it is likely to remain intact, and drag the backpack and suitcase still lighter than the two suitcases.

4. Do not be afraid to relax in different ways

There are two types of travelers. Some buy in book guides, paint route to the last minute, an alarm clock and get up at like a broken tap, right from the morning start to drip on the brain. They try to make the most of every minute and are willing to do not sleep. Others simply walking around the city, arrange daily siesta and spontaneously invent, what to do.

If you belong to the second type, and satellite - the first, the journey can turn into a trip by car with Sheldon Cooper. You know what a suit for the last time dressed "Manneken Pis" and that in the XVIII century Parisian hats worn on the lightning rods. The only question that will remain unanswered: "When will all this end?"

To avoid this, the two of us choose five places that exactly want to see, or five things you want to do. Let them become the minimum program, from which you will pull out every day something is one, and the rest will go by itself.

5. Get ready to chat 24/7

Sooner or later, you tell each other about how mistreated you ex, dogs than cats steeper and why in school you had such a stupid haircut. At rest, in contrast to the daily life has not come out to tell how the chief today almost caught you watching "Druzhko Show." And then at least one of you realizes that you do not talk about.

Should something happen (which is why a trip to the Maldives again have to give) to talk about something. But you can only discuss what you both see. Scroll through all the tapes of social networks, while standing in line at the Louvre, but not too lazy to remove the smartphone at least for the half hour that will be inside. And if you do not see the "Mona Lisa", it's better this will be to blame for other people's backs.

Do not be afraid to leave some time for yourself.

This item is a perfect complement to the previous one: if you like to relax in different ways, have done so. While one is reading a book in the room, the other on a paraglider is competing with seagulls. Then share the news with each other. This tip also works in reverse: if you feel that communication is already too much, take a break.

6. Do not hesitate to be photographed a lot

It often happens that one person of the couple only It makes all photosAnd one only posing for them. There is a probability that by the end of the journey you will not find any proof that you were there. This is the rare situation that justifies the purchase to friends selfie stick. But you can look for another way out: what exactly Murad Haussmann invented FollowMe.

In general, from photographs easy to understand whether the relationship perspective. If during the holiday companion is not laid out in any Instagram photos with you at the airport already can download Tinder again.

7. Minimize the joint life

Council "just be yourself", which usually solves all problems sitcom characters, does not work. Forget what they have been taught. Most likely, you will have to live together for the first time. You will be embarrassed only the first day, and then learn about each other a lot. For example, it is also throwing things and cooks are not as good as my mother, and he does not always look like Ryan Gosling in the morning.

Matt Damon kills Jude Law in "The Talented Mr. Ripley," life can kill all the magic in your relationship. Therefore, for the first time, try not to rent an apartment with its kitchen, and stay with maid service, lunch and dinner in the cafe. This is probably be much more expensive, but more likely that you do not change the tickets for the second day.

About things that irritate in a partner so that endanger coexistence, it is better to talk at once.

Otherwise there is a risk that the holiday is over the eruption of Vesuvius, which will fill up the ashes of a relationship. Little things better lay up to the day when the confidence level is the highest, or partner might be offended and withdraw into himself.

8. afraid shopping

Be sure to grab all the patience that you have. And yes, sometimes it is required not only to men.

When my boyfriend asked me to come with him to the store his favorite football club, there were no signs of trouble. All went well until he saw caps and hoodies. The real test began when the measure became seven identical shirts and asking which is better. Now I know how men usually feel when they go shopping with us, and why sometimes it is easier to pretend to be dead.

If your partner - a lover of shopping, and you do not share this passion, think through in advance the payment for himself, wait a couple in a cafe or download the app for meditation.

9. Make sure that you are satisfied

It is one thing for which you are actually all started. It was after this trip, it will become clear how you all serious and whether you want to continue the story. It is like a game of "Minesweeper", where each step is important. Here you do not have conceded to her on the plane window seat, that refused to sit in a cafe the extra half an hour while it charges the phone, that's almost allowed her to starve to death, while looking for a cafe with a sticker TripAdvisor, - and all game over.

Some "lucky" more than others: their beloved lost luggage or stepping on a sea urchin. Then decide what to do, you need to quickly, maintaining outward calm and optimism.

During our first trip was a transplant with a short dock, and we are terribly late for the flight. Before I could panic, my guy said "run" and pulled forward as Forrest Gump, gathering for a flight other passengers. On the plane we are still late, but it looked spectacular.

10. Travel with those you love

No matter how you try to bring to perfection the previous nine points, is the only one without which nothing happens. Hemingway could not have so wrong, right?