6 tips for those who want to maintain a happy relationship

Many people are not satisfied with their relationship because of a lack of emotional intimacy with a partner. If you want to receive the care and attention they give the first start.

Many couples are so busy with work and children that spend very little time alone with each other. If the work does not allow you to arrange weekly visits or to go into a joint vacation, try these simple tips. You do not spend on them a lot of time and effort, but they will help to strengthen the relationship.

1. Touch your loved one

Scientists conducted an experimentAffectionate Touch to Promote Relational, Psychological, and Physical Well-Being in Adulthood: A Theoretical Model and Review of the Research.In which the pair looked together film. The first group of subjects while viewing was not allowed to touch your partner. And members of the second group had all the time to touch each other.

It turned out that the subjects of the second group were more confident in their love mates. This feeling did not stop even the knowledge that the partner's touch - this is the condition of the experiment. Mind subjects realized that they were taken by the hand is not spontaneous, but they still feel a lot happier.

2. Do not jump to conclusions

If a loved one made a mistake, such as a long time did not respond to calls, do not panic. scientists have foundAttributions in marriage: State or trait? A growth curve analysis.That happy and unhappy couples differ in that they have different perceptions and interpret faults partner.

Those who are unhappy in a relationship, it is believed that any mistake partner - is the lack of character, rather than a consequence of the situation. If the person does not answer the call, it does not mean that he was to you anyway. Maybe it's just a lot of cases. Before harass a conjecture, consider alternative reasons for his action.

3. Think of an argument from the

120 couples participated in the studyA Brief Intervention to Promote Conflict Reappraisal Preserves Marital Quality Over Time.In which for the first two years of marriage, they were surveys on their life together.

During the first year of their relationship became less satisfying, which is a frequent occurrence. A year later, some couples in the event of an argument should have thought about the differences with your partner with a disinterested third-person perspective that wishes happiness to both. How would this person reacted to your conflict? What is the benefit for both of you, he would have drew from him?

This exercise has had on test positive effect. During the second year of living together their relationship improved, as opposed to those who do not understand the conflict from the side.

4. Write down what you are grateful for your partner

Participants in another experimentThe Things You Do for Me: Perceptions of a Romantic Partner's Investments Promote Gratitude and Commitment. offered once a week to record several actions of a loved one, which helped to strengthen their relationship. The other half of the subjects had to write down what they have personally contributed.

Those who listed the partner services, were more interested in the relationship, and were more grateful to the significant other than participants, congratulate yourself. The experiment showed that the more often you need to thank a loved one.

5. accept compliments

Waiting neglect on the part of the partner destroys relationships. people with low self-esteem it is difficult to believe that they really love. Therefore, they are skeptical about the affection and compliments partner to avoid disappointment from a possible breakup. This behavior can scare the other person.

scientists askedMore than words: reframing compliments from romantic partners fosters security in low self-esteem individuals. insecure people to remember the unusual compliments they received from a loved one. A simple description of the situation did not produce any effect. Participants perceived as a compliment to good luck.

Then, the subjects to think about what their partner is praised, and described how important it was for them and their relationships. This helped them to understand that a loved one shows the most love and care.

6. Celebrate small achievements

When a loved one talks about the successes of the day, admire the news. Ask questions so that he could share with you an even greater joy and relive those moments.

scientists analyzedWhat do you do when things go right? The intrapersonal and interpersonal benefits of sharing positive events. relationship couples who followed this advice. It turned out that because of this, both partners were happy their success even more. In addition, it is closer together and strengthen their relationship.

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