12 errors after the break that will turn your life into a nightmare

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How to ruin your life after the break

1. Continue to be together

This is an obvious error, but your brain can mask it for a justification of such parties with friends. And have you been together with common friends or dine together, go to a movie, meet at the bar up a home gatherings.

From that, your emotional attachment to the former partner is only strengthened.

In addition, you force yourself to go through hell at the same time trying to accept that the relationship no longer exists, and getting drunk with happiness, when his or her hug goodbye.

2. Think about what you are true soul mates

Continuing to believe that you are the only person who can understand your former partner, you are only fueling the illusion. And all night talking heart to heart more draws you into the quagmire of the past. Do not forget that, despite the proximity of the two of you or one of you chose to end the relationship.

3. Write to him or her about everything. And as often as possible

Write a former partner, to see how he was doing. Write to tell us that got the job done. Be sure to tell that until now considered him a friend. And be sure to write again, if the previous messages remained unanswered - what if he simply did not notice? This is a great way to be in a state of perpetual waiting and move on.

4. Pursue former partner

It is, first, a literal pursuit when you crook figure out the location of the ex-partner, and as if by chance encounter with him in the bar. This is an alarming signal: smacks addiction.

The same applies to the endless checks his social networks. Whom he added as a friend, what, what say? You somehow hoping that this man is still suffering, but it is likely to have recovered after the break, or even entered into a new relationship.

Unless you are a masochist, cease to follow the life of the former. At least temporarily, until first the pain subsides.

5. Speak ill about the ex-partner

Every time you remember about the former, though not in the kindest terms, he seems to materialize in the present. And the more you talk about it (good and bad), the harder you invite him back into your life.

Love and hate - two sides of the same coin. Your goal should be a neutral attitude.

6. Return things personally

Do not look for pretexts for unnecessary meetings, when the decision has already been made break. Even if you need to return to his or her belongings and pick their own, you can always ask for help from friends or order a courier. What-if not, you can throw away: the old toothbrush is unlikely for someone special value.

7. Switch to a relationship with another

Compensatory relationship to no good arguments. But even worse, if immediately after the break you are trying to soothe a broken heart an old friend or a girlfriend. As a result, he or she will be hurt, and you feel ashamed.

If you are "suddenly" I noticed how nice and obvorozhitelen your friend, slow down. In order not to lose.

8. Dreaming of a former partner

Often imagine how he suffers or hatching a plan to get you back. And, of course, do not think that now he could rest with my friends and enjoying life. Such obsession will help you more to experience a long and painful separation.

9. Always think in the spirit of "what if"

History similar to the previous one. Again you get hung up on ex-partner and torment himself disembodied illusions. But what if you are destined to be together? And what if not?

10. Sign up on all services for Me

, You need to deal with the old to start a new relationship. If you throw yourself headlong to search for a new partner, it is likely to:

• all begin to compare with the previous one and even more about him suffer;
• will enter into the wrong relationship with the wrong person and spoil the blood of him and myself;
• not will extract lessons from the past and let us make the same mistakes.

11. Sleep with someone

Another great way to remember how good you were with your loved one. Or feel like a traitor when feeling to the former or the former more powerful.

12. revel in grief

At first, the pain is really difficult to endure. If we finish the thought that the main love story of your life is over and more of this is not expected to become a thousand times heavier. Yes and meet someone new with a similar installation in the head is very problematic.

How to improve life after the break

1. Avoid conversations and meetings with former partner at least two months

This means that you need to best protect themselves from accidental collisions.

If there is a chance to cross on the way to work, change the route. If you can meet in a store or the gym, find a new place for shopping and sports.

The same applies to messages and calls. It is better to temporarily block the ex-partner in social networks or remove the number from the phone than ever to see it online or in the terminals.

It sounds a little unfair, because have of something to give. But it's for your own good.

2. Work out

Firstly, due to physical activity stand hormones of happiness, which are so necessary in your state. Secondly, sport relieve head and helps to relieve tension.

3. Engage in reconstruction of life

The end of one stage - it's a new beginning. So that the end of the relationship, you have the chance to change something in their lives. You can start with the cabinet. Just disassemble and dispose of all flotsam and jetsam. Or connect imagination and come up with a new use for them. Find a new hobby or passion, too, will not be superfluous.

4. Meet friends

You finally had plenty of time to meet with your favorite friends. Use it!

5. Do not look for salvation in the bottom of the bottle

Or at the bottom of the bucket with ice cream. Attempts to numb the pain with alcohol and food lead to the opposite effect, you feel even worse.

It is better to make for themselves something really nice and helpful. Go for a massage in the spa, beauty salon and sauna. Just relax, because you deserve it.

What do you think, what you can and can not do after the break? Share your opinion in the comments.