How to communicate with the people with whom it is impossible to communicate

Each of us have met people with whom it is difficult to communicate. Sometimes you want to get away from them away or simply rude to interrupt. Why these people are and how to conduct yourself with them, says the teacher and aspiring writer Andrew Yakomaskin.

In Persian philosopher Omar Khayyam is a remarkable statement:

Wise understands that the aggression of another person - is his request for love.

I do not just have to deal with people who are difficult to contact. Sometimes it's just hard to start a conversation, sometimes - to support it, sometimes a person can be too aggressive or overly chatty. And as I have asked the opinion of others about these people often told me the same thing: "With it all hard to communicate. Do not pay attention".

Sure, and among your friends there are some people who fall into this category. Perhaps, really it is difficult to communicate with them, but I am convinced that it is always a good reason.

I enjoy a life story, described in the novel by Michael Weller "The Adventures of Major Zvyagin."

Major Zvyagin with his wife and daughter move to a new apartment. Their immediate neighbor below is retired Yefrosinya Ivanovna. Zvyagin for her family immediately becomes enemy number 1, and it begins to harass them in every possible way. Let gossip, writes anonymous letters at night beats mop up at the ceiling and constantly complains that his wife, then her daughter.

Major tried to come to terms with the pensioner, but still it had only a temporary effect. Then he learns from history neighbors Yefrosinia Ivanovna. Prior to retirement, she was cheerful and sociable, and after it suffered a downhill. Her parents were killed during the siege of Leningrad, and the three-year son were evacuated across Lake Ladoga, but the column was bombed, and the car went under the ice.

That same evening Zvyagin said these words:

After all, it is we simply mortally jealous that we have everything in order. It hurts her ...

The next two months Zvyagin devotes travel on military archives and meetings with people who could shed light on the fate of the son of a pensioner. Needless to say, that in the end Zvyagin finds his son and mother are reunited and gain peace of mind?

When we meet him who with criticism, indifference or even rancor belongs to us, it is necessary first to wonder about the reason for such behavior.

I do not call to rescue each person, as did Zvyagin. I propose to be more sensitive to those who are near you. Pain always produces pain, and those who are bitter at the world, have experienced it most. At least because of this, they deserve a little care.

When there is a desire in me to criticize or rude to interrupt someone who malopriyaten me, I remember the words that read once:

Every person that you meet is fighting a battle about which you know nothing. Be polite. Always.

There are no people with whom it is impossible to communicate, have a history of suffering that lurk in the depths of their souls. And each of them deserves to be heard.

I wish you success!