6 tips to help you easily find new friends
Relations / / December 19, 2019
Friendship is necessary not only to share interesting stories over a cup of coffee. Strong connections with people is vital to everyone. According to a study at Harvard University, the lack of friendly relations increases the risk of premature death by 50% - the same as if you smoked 15 cigarettes daily.
Talk about their problems and make new friends with the years becomes more difficult. But in fact, everything is very simple, you only need to understand what a friend you want to find.
Jan Yager (Jan Yager), writer
The secret of friendship is simple: you need to be open to it. Here are six tips to help you make new friendships.
1. Be friendly
From the first impression it depends largely on whether a person will continue to communicate with you or not. And the most important thing here - the expression on his face. Think of the people you see every day in the shop, the airport or waiting in line for documents. If a person is frowning, frowns, smiles, you would not want to spread a word with him. He just does not look friendly, although it may be so.
Good-natured smile or simply a polite nod give others to understand that you are friendly and open to communication.
Another indicator of openness - listening skills. Chances are, you have something to tell you, but do not forget that the friendship - a mutual process, so do not get hung up on themselves and listened with interest to the other person. Quite possibly, it will be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
2. Engage in what you like
The best way to find new friends - meet people with whom you have common interests. If you have a hobby that you would normally do alone, think about where you can find like-minded people. Join a sports club, join the groups in social networks, look, where people with similar interests in your city.
There is nothing easier than to start talking about some things with people they like, too. When you meet someone with similar interests, exchange contacts and stay in touch.
3. Keep a positive attitude
Positive attitude - one of the most important demands of friendship. It determines whether we experience a desire to spend time with the person or not. Consider whether the people are pleased to communicate with you, and decide on what should still work.
Simple rules: say 'thank you', support, ask questions, do not be secretive smile.
People do not like to reside in a society negative people. Researchers have found that when you're good about someone withdraws, people tend to attribute these positive qualities and you too. For example, if you tell a colleague that your boss is friendly and helpful man, he very likely will think that you are friendly and attentive. Conversely, if you complain that your boss - a narcissistic moron, a colleague may notice some of these unpleasant qualities in you.
4. Do not expect others first step
Perhaps you feel vulnerable, when you go to meet another person. But it may be that he is even more closed and it is not easy to establish contact with a stranger. So just start talking. After all, what harm can happen to you?
In a relationship you need to not only take but also to give and help others. And most of the things that we expect from friendship: trust, reliability, honesty - are based on reciprocity. Find out what is missing others, help them, and they will see you as a potential friend.
Do not wait for everything to happen by itself. Be active, invite people to visit, offer to walk, and you'll be surprised how many people will want to join you.
5. Keep in touch
Relationships depend on how much time you spend with friends. So think about how you will keep in touch. For example, before leaving the party, tell us what you enjoyed it, and it would be nice to repeat, and offered to exchange numbers or add each other on social networks. The next day, you can thank the person for the time pleasantly spent. Or later invited to a birthday party. Or somewhere else.
Be consistent. Agree, friendship is unlikely to succeed if you first spend a nice time, and then do not write and do not answer the whole month.
6. Agree to invitations, even if you do not want
Those who made friends easily, any invitation is considered as an opportunity to meet interesting people. Therefore, even if you do not want to go somewhere, remember that the meeting can bring you something amazing. Try to get out of the house and meet interesting people.