As the 5 leadership qualities help to find real friends and save them?
Relations A Life / / December 19, 2019
With the concept of "leadership" many people associate only the work, but the leadership skills and help in social life - to communicate with their relatives and friends. Leadership qualities are helping to realize who your true friend and create a strong and lasting relationship.
Often praise friends rather than themselves
A good leader takes on a little more guilt and a little less respect. - Arnold H. Glasgow
Many people mistakenly believe that the most important thing for a leader - is to win the respect their successes and then talk about them all. This can be useful for a career, but in the social sphere, people watch more than victory, and personal qualities.
If something good happened to your friends, let them get their share of admiration. When friends are celebrating another vital victory, congratulate them and try not to mention about their merits, even if you did no less for the win.
This way you kill two birds with one stone: First, my friends will be delighted that talk about their successes. It will not look like boasting, because I tell you, but at the same time it would be very nice - all like compliments.
Secondly, people adopt other people's habits, and your friends are likely to begin to do the same in relation to you, so that in the end all will be well.
Difficult situations - glue for relations
It is best to stand behind, sending forth others, especially when you celebrate victory, and everyone is happy. You should go ahead only when danger appears. Then people will recognize your leadership. - Nelson Mandela
You show your true character, attitude to the world and to man only in the most difficult situations. In such cases, the best pop performance leader, and it is difficult to help you express yourself and to strengthen ties with friends. Do not miss these chances.
If your friend is sick, take him to the doctor, if he is a long time can not find a job, help him with that, and if he is depressed, support him.
In difficult times, your help will make a lot of good for both of you.
In 2008, psychologist James Graham of the University of North Carolina conducted a study to see what kind of things and situations it is best to connect people together. The experiment involved 20 couples who lived together, solve various problems and challenges.
According to the results of the experiment revealed that partners are more in love with each other, if carried out with the challenges and cope with any difficulties. The psychologist concluded that the partners are getting closer, when they work together to solve problems, and pass through the disappointment, and through success.
Learn how to pick and choose
A brilliant leader does not seek the consent, it creates it. - Martin Luther King
Leadership - is the ability to get someone to do what you want, because he wants to. - Dwight D. Eisenhower
Most people long to persuade others to do something, argue and beg, and Leaders simply decide. Of course, it is legal to listen to the opinion of each person taking part in the event, but the endless discussions came to nothing lead, and everything will only get worse.
When a true leader does not want to waste time, it just takes a decision and presents it so that everyone thinks it is his decision. It works in any situation, from choosing a restaurant to serious project at work.
When you need to make a decision, ask your friends simple questions. Start with vague wording, then mark the desire for a more specific, and eventually asked a direct question so that it wanted to say "yes."
Example:
- You say that it would be nice to see the movie.
- You decide which movie you want to see at the same time by some "very interesting", but so far nothing to offer and asking for advice.
- You ask a friend if he would like to see this movie?
The main thing is do not ask, what he would like to seeAnd if he has any ideas on this subject. Ask only those questions to which you can directly answer "yes" or "no."
People are very easily suggestible - a moment ago, we heard something on the person and are already starting to subconsciously expect it. While you're thinking out loud, what movie you prefer, you mentioned that it is an interesting / exciting / general steep, and after a direct question your positive review of the film will tip the scales in favor of the right solutions.
Drop-down and do not be afraid of criticism
The man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back to the crowd. - Max Lucado
The most important rule the leader - be yourself. If a person is revealed in front of people, not only shows a positive start, but the dark side, it gives him freedom. People see who you are and you do not have to hide, but there is in this a downside - criticism.
No one person can not please everybody, and every great leader, were the critics and haters. You can avoid criticism only if closes a half and will hide their identity behind the mask, but then you can forget about leadership.
Notable leaders got rid of this fear, and were able to bring their own, insane at the time the idea to life, and as a result of modern society has received a lot of good.
And another reason why you should not hide from the people: if you are hiding from the world, you will never find like-minded people, and yet they are in any case. It may seem that to be completely honest with people means to lose many friends, but while some relationships will cease, begin other more profound and lasting.
Require myself more
Whether the standard of quality. Some people have not been in an environment where innovation was a major asset. - Steve Jobs
You can not change other people, but you can give them an example. If you do not like someone's behavior, you can set yourself standards that never allow you to do so.
Even if a friend hurt you, do not avenge him, and if you judge something, never do so themselves. Even the smallest standards prove to your friends that you are trying to get better, and many will follow your example.