Friendship under duress: what it is and why you should get rid of such a relationship

Unfortunately, due to the friendship can grow as well as of children's pants. If this happens, then the communication is no longer a pleasure. It all boils down to nothing, because to talk about. Interests do not coincide, and each becomes the other under duress.

forced each - a person with whom you do not want to spend time, but you keep doing it out of habit or because they are ashamed to admit when it's time to stop communicating.

As there is a friendship and why it ends

When you meet someone for the first time, you do not know how many of you have common interests.

Then you get to know closer, you recognize each other better and find more and more common. The more interest coincides, the stronger friendship.

Common interests, topics of conversation becomes more and you make friends.

When you get to a certain border, closer stops. Well, if in due course all will remain the same. But if there is no new common interests, and the old ones have changed, the estrangement is inevitable.

Without noticing, you begin to slowly drift apart. Meetings will be less frequent calls - shorter. This will continue as long as the communication will begin to not deliver significant discomfort. But even in this case, you will be hard to stop a friendship because of habit, but each other's company cease to bring pleasure. Each will be different under duress, and your attitude towards it - in two.

Who is most likely to happen

No one is immune from the sprouting of friendship. But more often it happens to the following categories of people:

• childhood friends;
• former colleagues;
• classmates;
• lovers, with whom you parted friends;
• people with whom you met in the journey;
• those who have made a good first impression, but it was not so, and classy.

How to understand what happened with you

You move away from each other one day. The process may last for years, so the changes are subtle. But there are alarm bells that signal that there is no turning back.

• Common interests is becoming smaller.
• Contradictions - more.
• You avoid meetings and calls up through do not want to.
• Communication is similar to the routine, you unhappily together.
• There are always things more important than others.

What if the friendship has become obsolete

Mentally you can consider himself a traitor. So many years together, and now all of a sudden the person not the friendship is not one to chat no longer want. Wines engulf you like a wave. Ashamed of the thoughts and even cursing himself for them, you continue to call up and see, because it's always done. But when the relationship is kept only on the sense of guilt, they are doomed to failure. Ask yourself one question, and answer honestly: Is it true to spend time with a friend in the same class as before?

Stop blaming yourself

Understand that it's not your fault. You have not betrayed friendship, You are not a bad person. Simple life does not stand still. Time passes, things change, change you and your relationship to the usual things. Look at the situation soberly, excuse yourself and take a serious step.

stop communication

When you force yourself to spend time with someone or pretend that all is well, you 're lying and myself and a friend. From this no one will be easier.

Release the person. It is difficult, scary, uncomfortable. But it's the best thing you can do. Be honest with yourself and others. Remember that feigned intimacy sooner or later get tired of you both. Thank each other for the good moments and peacefully disperse.

see also

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