Learn to love people to be happier

Start with yourself: become better, get rid of negativity and bad habits, and people to reach for you. In fact, self-esteem and success depend on man's relationship to other people. For personal happiness have to love your neighbor.

Why is it so hard to believe in people

Scientists from the University of Georgia have found that the success of the ladder moving one who is inclined to trust colleagues. Relations in the team determined by the internal feeling of happiness and success. The question "How can I get better?" Lost relevance. On the agenda the question "How do I see the good in people?". Optimism contributes to the success and satisfaction in work and personal life. However, people are afraid to appear overly optimistic.

It is very difficult to believe in the other person. It begins in childhood: do not talk to strangers, keep your emotions to yourself and always expect a dirty trick. Trust people on the Internet more dangerous: Circle deception and trolls. The man who entrusts all in a row, for the eye is called the simpleton. If we believe someone agreeable, we'll automatically underestimate their competence.

The reasons for suspicion are commonplace. Firstly, the human brain remembers the bad. This mechanism is essential for survival, including in a social environment. All cases of treason are imprinted in the memory. But when confidence resulted in an amicable way, we almost do not remember.

Secondly, everyone wants to look better than the rest. It is therefore much more convenient to consider others worse than they really are. And if they get worse, they do not trust.

People find their own motivation to correct: "I work well, because I love my job." Motivating others belittled "Others work well because they are paid for it."

Chip Heath (Chip Heath), best-selling author, lecturer of the School of Business at Stanford University

"Help yourself" - this is not our option

Benefits trust others is especially noticeable in the work. Conflicts in the team - something inevitable. "Assumptions Ladder" is working against us: climbing up, from a neutral information we blow pessimistic elephant, which immediately settles down our neck. As a result, we think about others badly. Obtained, for example, a letter from a colleague with whom you do not have a very good relationship, you tend to think negatively about him and his motives.

The best advice I was given - think positive and have good intentions.

Indra Nooyi (Indra Nooyi), an American entrepreneur, Chairman and CEO PepsiCo

You - part of society

Growth opportunities at work depends on our perception and attitude to help her. It often happens that the desire to improve the work of the team is suppressed for fear of being misunderstood. If the manager accepts originally subordinates as a group of professionals who are ready to learn and to get better, the level of success of the entire department is growing rapidly.

Ability to influence others - one of the most valuable skills in the promotion of the career ladder. If we consider other capable and reasonable, improving our own lives. If we are convinced that the other is difficult to budge, and we are not trying to convince them - why wasting time?

Thus formed and supported by personal beliefs: Think about the person is bad and it is necessary to confirm your thoughts. Books on psychology are focused on ourselves, which indirectly reduces the value of the world around and a bad influence on the ability to build positive relationships with others, With society. Meanwhile, all of us - part of it. Therefore it is important to believe in people, and treat them with respect.