How to deal with criticism of your work
Work And Study Relations / / December 19, 2019
Freelancer Anastasia Polyakova shares tips on how to protect themselves from criticism and what benefits can be extracted from it.
Anastasia Polyakova
Works freelance for about seven years. The main sphere of professional interests - Internet Marketing.
Like many, I thought that we must be able to accept criticism. But in fact, much more important to learn how to protect themselves from it. To criticisms not paralyze you and not taken out of the system, it is necessary to start the construction of the line protection and self-care.
1. Check for saboteurs
Even as a child, we were taught to see their mistakes and to be ashamed of - it was part of our upbringing. But if you go too far with this, it is sufficient to strict upbringing makes us the most severe judges. In principle, there is nothing wrong in being himself the chief judge. Bad not to be able to be yourself and still the most important defender.
One of the difficulties that we face when we receive criticism from the outside, is that we can not stop it implicitly agree. At such moments, the most severe judge us echoed almost any criticism in unison. Protecting us from making mistakes, he is also hides us from the many discoveries, research and victories to which the path is thorny and dangerous. It leaves us in a sterile safety of small steps. But if we still want to get out of your comfort zone?
This court must be submitted to the two sides: the prosecution and defense. Therefore I propose a daring exercise in ingenuity: when faced with criticism, invent arguments and more for the lawyer. Blame yourself, you always have time.
2. well-armed
You must have an arsenal of reasonable considerations that can be remembered in the times when you are criticized. This arsenal can be replenished and adjust under itself. Here are ways in which I use.
- Reproach that you have, often longer refers to the criticism and his life experience than you.
- One opinion, even loudly expressed - this is not the opinion of all people in the world.
- Mistakes are necessary for the development, discovery and exploration.
- You do not ducat to please everyone. Even necessary to someone not like it, because this is absolutely normal. A personal relationships will always play a role in job evaluation.
Coming up with your reasonable ideas, select those ideas that remind you that the critic, too, can make mistakes. He's just a man.
3. responses
After the blow suffered, it is necessary to counter, so as not to get caught up in someone else's saliva caustic grumbling. Therefore, the third step will be to protect our response.
- Read or remember any praise or positive feedback.
- Pay attention to those who praise your work. Take positive feedback and compliments. Or at least be trained to take them - it is also necessary to be able.
- Think about finding like-minded people. But those who speak only about work, and those who are seriously passionate about the same thing as you. Communication with such people will help you develop.
- Read a critical review and re-analyze whether there is in it something useful for you. Valid point, the idea of which it is possible to push off and improve performance. Unfortunately, not every criticism bears worthwhile ideas. But if you will fall this, consider yourself lucky. Will properly use the criticism to his advantage.
- Jobs - the best way to deal with criticism. Just start working immediately. And do not worry about the quality.
In conclusion, I want to tell you what I think about criticism, and perhaps you stand on my side.
The only meaning of criticism - to give you food for development. That you yourself can not be found, because one head is good, and different points of view can be unpredictable and surprising. Anything that does not serve this purpose, all the things that you can not use for their own development - is superfluous or even destroying the information that is necessary to learn to ignore. It is very important to be able to defend themselves against criticism harmful to separate the gold nuggets of valuable ideas and improve their work.