What to do if a child is naughty

Every child, even the most docile, from time to time of the angel transformed into a little monster. He was irritated, nervous, constantly repeats: "I do not want! I will not! I do not like! Do not... "And each new" not "increase the degree of intensity, and your nervous system gradually begins to boil.

Mind you know that the explosion of emotion to anything good will not, but the next whim works a catalyst, and, like the "Mentos" thrown into a glass of Coca-Cola, a flat expanse of turns in bristling with fountain. From this it is bad for children and adults.

What to do? Where to take the patience? How to prevent conflict with such expensive and loved ones, with our children?

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When you feel that patience is running out, say to yourself, "Stop." Several times a deep breath (it is better to delay breathing for a few seconds). And then try to determine the cause of a nervous condition of the baby. Then remove it. In most cases, you will easily be able to prevent the conflict.

As a rule, the child does not behave as you would expect, not because he wants to hurt, but because he has for this reason. No need to scold him. It is possible that he refuses to do as you want, because of the high temperature. Or thirsty. Or frightened by shadows on the wall.

The causes of infant irritability

1. Accumulated too much unused energy

If the child for a long time there was no active movement, such as watching a play or sat motionless while on the move in the car, he should definitely throw out everything that had gathered in the meantime. For a child is unnatural for a long time to be in a static position. He is like a river that rages and needs to be in motion.

What to do. Give him the opportunity to run, jump, climb. Any exercise will help to remove this kind of stress.

2. The child is excited and feels unpleasant emotions

Kid can get scared, and you do not even notice. Or angry, or worried about something. And, of course, all of these emotions will break out in a bad mood. Not every adult is able to control his feelings and not always focused on the negativity of others. What can we say about children.

Despite the fact that adult children's reasons for disorders often seem not serious, you need to carefully and respectfully treat them. It is not necessary to convince the child that it is a trifle. Once the cause has caused such a reaction, therefore, it deserves attention.

What to do. Tell me that you understand it. That you too would be scared (angry), and maybe even more. And then try to shift his attention to something positive.

3. The child is hungry or thirsty

It would seem that may be easier - to understand what your baby was hungry. But the main difficulty is that not all children are aware of the desire to eat or drink. They feel discomfort, but do not understand why.

What to do. Regularly ask, offer, and sometimes insist. Especially it concerns drinks on a hot day.

4. The child is experiencing fatigue

The causes of fatigue in children a lot. In addition to the physical (long walking or prolonged action games), there are also emotional. The child gets tired if he is not interested in what is happening, or if the action lasts for a long time. Also, the child may be tired of the abundance of positive emotions. Parents often stay at a loss, if after visiting the amusement park, ice cream and all sorts of entertainment child mutters and angry. And the answer is simple: a lot of good, too bad.

What to do. It is necessary to give the child the opportunity to relax or switch from one activity to another.

5. The child is ill

Sometimes it happens that in the morning the baby cheerful, sociable. And then suddenly everything changed as if abruptly switched switch. He begins to act up, to weep, to resist.

What to do. Look at the baby. Touch the forehead, measure the temperature and, if warranted, contact your doctor.

6. The child wants to insist on his

Everyone wants to feel important, and children as well. Even the smallest - is the person with their opinions and views. Children are willing to at least occasionally to control the situation and make their own decisions. Where to go, what to wear, what toys to take with you which route to choose, what to order in a cafe. This increases their self-esteem.

What to do. Agree with your child if it does not matter to you. If it is on what the child insists, you can not accept, please explain why.

7. The child copies Adults

Each person is unique, with its own set of qualities, and no two people are alike. But environment corrects us as seawater stones. Unconsciously we imitate each other and become similar.

Once I heard about an experiment conducted by American psychologists. In an isolated room we invite two people in a good mood. They met and started talking. The room went the third - with a bad mood. He just sat on the empty chair and does not manifest itself. I did not move, did not speak, did not participate in the conversation. However, soon the other two participants in the mood spoiled the experiment.

For children, the family and close environment like a room. If mom and dad are angry, nervous or angry, the child will soon be doing the same thing. Children are sensitive to our moods, they absorb everything.

What to do. Take care of yourself and control their emotions.

helpful hints

Sometimes it happens that children require constant attention to yourself, stick and do not give them a step without stepping.

Here are the most common causes for this behavior:

• Boring. Try to change the activity of the child or find a suitable company for him.
• Do not wait to share the important message. Just listen.
• I would like to praise. Please finally note that the child so long trying to show and tell, and praise.

It is important to distinguish the reasonable request of caprice and act accordingly. If a child is selfish demands that the world revolved around him only, explain that it is not right. It must take into account the interests of all members of the family as well as they do.

In a conflict situation, always start with an explanation and, if possible, let the choice. Only then the child can make. Sometimes you have to, and criticize, but to do so should at the very least.

When you explain something to the children, it is important to make sure that they understand you correctly and you mean the same thing.

One day we are going to go to the sea. In the evening, we decided in the morning went. Three-year son was told about the trip in the car, because they do not want to upset if something goes wrong.

Hearing that we go for four days at sea, the son began to cry and shout: "I do not want to! Turn back! Let's go home! "We are at a loss stopped at a roadside cafe. He ate the cake, ran a little relieved. Then we agreed that we get to the sea and just look at it. If there is not going to like it - immediately turn back.

And when we arrived and settled in the apartment, the child mood changed dramatically. He began to have fun, sing, took out a pack toys and take them to decompose. And it turned out that his son has decided that we will live near the sea on the sand, like the cartoon characters, which he recently watched. And that it is very frightened. And we lived in a house with beds, and this holiday is quite satisfied. For us, this event has become a good lesson: we must always specify whether we understand each other.

If the situation is heating up, and the patience is about to burst, try to pause before scolding the child. Count to ten. Ask yourself, "Why? Who will be the better for it? "

and learn say "no". Do this rare, but firmly. Tell me that you understand his desire, and then briefly explain and understand why you can not now do what he wants. The child will understand. If he continues to insist (often children do), use his own methods. Just repeat: "No, no, no."