As friends affect our effectiveness
Productivity Relations / / December 19, 2019
The second step on the way to any changes in your life after planning is the organization.
There are three key life resource:
- time;
- energy;
- money.
In this article we will talk about people. Namely, those who are outside the scope of our next communication.
There is a good African proverb: "If you want to go fast - go alone, if you want to go away - go together." For me it was an important rule. I understand that good results are attainable only surrounded by good people.
Each of us in the immediate vicinity there are people who contribute to our growth. At the same time there are those who the growth slows down and pulls us down. The only question is how to maintain the first and reduce the influence of the latter.
Who prevents us from moving forward
In dealing with people acting very good rule of the arithmetic mean: you represent a middle ground between the ten of your closest friends. Therefore, for example, if most of your friends is convinced that beer middle of the day on Wednesday - is the norm, it is likely it will become the norm for you.
You can select any criteria, and test it in a simple manner: write down your personal belief, make a list of the closest friends, mark those of them support you in it. You may find that some of these beliefs and were once imposed by "caring" friends that surrounded you a solid wall.
At the moment when I began to realize that not all friends have a positive effect on me, I decided to reconsider its immediate surroundings.
How to determine with whom you should continue the relationship
1. The presence of other goals in life
it is vital for me to get people to something sought. This concerns not only the goal of life, but also the principles on which man lives his relationship to the family, work, success.
There are people for whom the usual that is unacceptable to me, such as hatred of their work. If such discrepancies occur too much, I openly talk to someone.
2. Intimate talk
Definitely not worth it to leave, slamming the door and said to his friend: "You're a loser, I'm a winner, so friendly we did not succeed."
Always worth honest talk with those whom you consider a close friend. Having said that, something to strive for and what is important to you. And after that better right to explain what's hard for you to accept.
Then there are two scenarios: one understands everything, and we support each other in achieving personal goals, or are we in silence and sometimes with the charges differ. The second option was never pleasant to me, but once again reminded about the main reason why it happened.
Do not get me wrong, I do not satisfy all the requirements of the people with whom I communicate. But I'm always willing to listen to his friend and try to change something. If it is too contrary to my beliefs, for me it is the parting will be as difficult as it is for him.
In the film "Vysotsky. Thank you for living "was a good phrase," turn away, then did not like. " If this is true friendship, then you will always respect the values of each other, without betraying its own.
Who are ready to lend a shoulder
Undoubtedly, those who are willing to support us, we appreciate already for what we do have. Sometimes more is not required, but sometimes you need to make a little more effort.
In my environment these people enough, but I always manage to maintain a stable relationship with them. Largely because I did not know that such relationships represent.
Today, I define them just one indicator - the frequency of communication.
IN friendship we often take a passive position. Wait until we write, call, or offer to meet. But personally, I always try to be proactive.
It is important to keep in touch with my closest friends. Write once a week, to meet once a month. Let you will have your schedule, but you will agree that is quite easy to pay personal time that man by whom we cherish. After all, he will come to the rescue in difficult times, and to lend a shoulder. Why now do not give him credit?
Do not wait for the right moment, and write, call or make an appointment to someone considered a good friend. Remember the warning Little Prince: "People do not have time to learn anything. They buy things ready-made in stores. But there are no stores where you would trade your friends, so people no longer have friends. "
at last
I do not call quickly clean your list of friends "VKontakte" and add unwanted number to blacklist. I just want to remind you that the people who surround us, have a direct impact on our ability to be happy, to achieve significant results and to live a full life.
And once you choose, it will be for the people.
I wish you success!