7 things that your spouse does not have to ask for ever

Relations / by admin / December 19, 2019

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1. Ignore tantrums and physical violence

Partner has no right to ask you to ignore, deny or take the blame for his aggression in your address. As a family therapist Carrie Kravetz (Carrie Krawiec) notes, so he shifts the responsibility for his behavior on you.

In a healthy relationship, each person is responsible for their actions, thoughts and feelings.

Carrie Kravetz, family therapist

2. Isolated from family and friends

The decision as to with whom you communicate, how much and when, should always remain yours. If the elect or chosen one tries to isolate you from family, it is a sign emotional abuseIt underscores the coach on relations Shula Melamed (Shula Melamed).

The only thing you can ask the partner - to spend more time with family and friends to strengthen the relationship with them. This is not the same as it limits your communication.

Shula Melamed, coach

3. Downplay your achievements

Normal reaction partner on your achievements - pride. Annoyance or threat of talking about his uncertainty.

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If you feel guilt or disappointment when you there is something good, if you can not share it, it means that your personal boundaries are violated.

4. Abandon financial independence or to resign

Allowing the partner to control your purse, you are potentially making yourself vulnerable and dependent on him, said Kravetz. If you are not on an equal footing to manage the family budget, then mutual respect in the pair in question.

5. Accept the unacceptable behavior of family and friends

partner, friends do not respect your personal space or his parents are rude to you? is he should not expectThat you just deal with it. Otherwise, any passion prefers to avoid confrontation with their loved ones, or a relationship with them for it is more important than you. That is about mutual respect, again, not talking speech.

6. Radically change

If the partner requires you to give up their beliefs, beliefs or values, it is a very dangerous signal, warns Shula Melamed. So, it does not take your identity.

7. to mediate

Passion has no right to ask you to become a "carrier pigeon" for someone like her parents.

Sometimes, the partner says: "Tell my mother ...", that makes you an intermediary in their relations and relieve him from responsibility for his words.

Walvis Frances (Frances Walfish), psychotherapist

What kind of requests and demands you consider taboo in a relationship? Share opinions in the comments.