Why do people change and how to avoid it

Why do people change

Infidelity occur either due to excessive demands of one of the partners in the self-affirmation, or due to lack of intimacy between people.

Excessive need for self-affirmation

People who change, because they need to assert themselves, can be divided into two categories: those who suffer from low self-esteem, and those who are thus experiencing its power, which seems to them unlimited.

In the first case treason for a man - a way to prove their own importance. In such a situation has changed things do not usually limited. Such people because of self-doubt are trying to assert themselves in other ways or, alternatively, to forget. Among them are often found hard workers and those who are suffering from various addictions.

In the second case, the betrayal is another demonstration of power, which is endowed with a man. That is why powerful people often change spouses. They prove to himself that he no one can deny.

Lack of proximity

If in relations Partners are not close enough and open with each other, and there are no clearly defined limits of what is permitted, one eventually begins to change.

There are two types of relationships that end has changed:

• One partner makes for another absolutely everything and forgive any mistakes, and eventually discovers that he changed, and feels cheated. But the second partner is believed that he will forgive betrayal just as before forgave everything.
• One partner overly jealous and behaves like an owner. The second can break loyalty simply because to him, and so is treated as a traitor. If it changes, such an attitude will be at least deserved.

How to avoid infidelity

Do not meet with people who need to constantly assert themselves

If you do not want you to change, just do not start a relationship with someone who is constantly striving to assert themselves and always puts their needs first.

Do not be fooled: you can not change a man, and can not give him what you need. In order not to suffer, do not build illusions and find a more suitable partner.

Set boundaries

Clearly delineate the boundaries of what is permitted in the relationship and sets the rules. Learn say "no".

In a healthy relationship partners did not go on about each other. They know how to defend its interests and preserve their dignity.

Work on relationships

Do not take for granted the second half. Always remember as their own, and on her needs. Relationship - it is not a burden, but a conscious choice each of you. If not, the personal interests of one partner will outweigh the value of your relationship and intimacy, then he will go to seek solace on the side.