9, the main reasons for parting after a long relationship

1. loss of confidence

The initial lack or loss of confidence leads to the fact that the relationship is crumbling foundation: leave a sense of security, reliability.

Trust destroys jealousy (founded or unfounded), or the realization that the partner is not fulfilling its promises, or both, mixed in cool mix of suspicion and resentment.

Distrust entails painful existence couples: accusations, questioning, contrary pulls all the juices feeling that you constantly deceive, feelings of guilt, the restriction of freedom of the partner, which can damage his career and social interaction.

2. Different goals in life

You understand that it is impossible for a long time to run in the same boat, if you are pulling in different directions. If the goal in life partners are in no way overlap and do not touch, they are able to build long-term relationships.

Occasionally even interfere with one of the partners move towards agreed goals and live the way he wanted it.

3. Violence

The head come immediately thought of physical or sexual violence. But besides this, there is violence emotional trauma from which heal much longer and more difficult than the bruises on the body.

Signs of emotional abuse:

• Attempts to completely control the partner.
• Verbal humiliation insults, unfounded and constant criticism, derogatory words.
• A show of strength and power in order to cause the peer to fear.
• Excessive jealousy, not only to people but also to work, goals, interests.
• The expectation that partner will serve and fulfill all wishes.
• Manipulation partner.
• Deprivation of the right to vote a partner in making common decisions.
• Attempts to isolate the partner from family, friends, all of life outside the relationship.

When we talk about violence, it seems that the role of the evil man should act. However, this is certainly not the case. Women are not often exhibit physical violence, although it is sometimes the case, but it may be in all colors to express themselves in the psychological violence.

4. Failed expectations

We are happy when things are going the way we imagined it or better. And we are unhappy when the reality turns out to be worse than expected. Failed expectations associated with a partner, lead to frustration and anger that it and poured.

In our mind there is a partner image on it he is, how we want it to be. Unfortunately, a loved one has no idea about this picture and is unlikely to want to climb out of their way to meet her. And if to be honest, it is and should not match what you currently head and share.

However, we do not give up hope after all "middle of painting" the ideal partner to. Hence the constant nagging and resentment, criticism of everything that makes a partner, ignoring his achievements that do not fit in the desired image.

5. Depending with whom it is impossible to fight

Those that make life unbearable: alcoholism, drug addiction and igro. Undoubtedly, when problems arise only support a loved one can help to cope with them. But, unfortunately, very often it does not work, while the man himself is not aware that he needs to fight.

Throw in the pathological dependence on former lover and beloved, the fight against which will, most likely, is lost, no matter how much energy and effort you put into it either.

6. Alienation, boredom, habit

Other objectives and communication problems result in that the partners move away from each other. They can keep the fear of being alone together, children, financial dependence. But when the restraining reasons to do but a couple breaks up quickly.

A classic example - empty nest syndrome. When the children grow up and leave home, parents suddenly feel that they are strangers, between whom there is no nothing to do, because they were focused on children for many years and have forgotten about communicating with each other.

7. Different speed of development

By the way, this is one of the causes of alienation: one partner all the time evolving and changing, the second remains at the same level that was when meeting. As a result - have different interests, outlook, objectives, priorities, social circle.

8. Financial difficulties

Financial problems - is not only a lack of money, it is a problem with their distribution. For example:

• One partner earns more than the other, which makes the second partner to feel the inconsistency and financial dependence.
• The overall budget is allocated based on the desires of only one partner.
• One partner spends money without consulting the other, which is why then did not have enough money on common needs.

9. Disconnection: emotional or physical

Physical strength: partners (or one of them) are not satisfied with sexual life and can not discuss the existing problems and find a solution.

Emotional gap: partners are not able to communicate, do not know how to empathize and support, do not understand each other. Growing discontent that they, too, can not be explained and discussed. As a result, everyone is looking for support on the side: friends, relatives, new friends.

Often a person is looking for the missing components of the relations among the members of the opposite sex, which leads to new of love and treachery.

Leo Tolstoy claimed that "every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way", but we allow ourselves to argue with a classic. Causes of discord in the relationship is always the same, just not always possible to recognize them for mundane squabbles.

The video below shows a typical quarrel (similar probably happened in your pair), but it led to deep problems in relationships.

Learn to feel the vibrations in your paired, learn to analyze them and, most importantly, learn to discuss the problems, thoughts, feelings, emotions and fears.