How to learn to say "no"
Relations / / December 19, 2019
It is always easier to accept, because it seems to us that in case of failure, we must give some kind of explanation. But it is time to remember that you do not have to make excuses.
Do not act on the machine
Do not answer 'yes' immediately, better say, "Let me check my calendar, and then will contact you." In the meantime, check whether you really have the time, at the same time think about why you want or need to accept. Perhaps, in the end you still say "yes," but you will be assured of his decision.
When really want to agree, saying "maybe"
This will give the other person understand that you are interested, but you must first - yes, guessed it - check your calendar. If there is no spare time, you will be able to give with a clear conscience. If you feel that the proposal is not as interesting as you thought in the beginning, there will be time to come up with an adequate response.
The more you want to accept, the greater the chance that you are out of it ignore their more important duties. So do not take solutions temper and always give yourself time to think.
Distinguish between your and other people's problems
The same applies to projects and ideas. We always want to take on more cases than we are able to perform. Try to focus only on those tasks that meet your goals and views.
If this problem should be resolved by someone else, give up. If you feel that the proposed idea is contrary to your principles, you say "no." It will be very good if you can advise to whom this appeal.
And do not forget that it is better to take fewer obligations and to bring the case to the end than to grasp at everything and as a result of strike themselves and others.