21 is a sign that your relationship roll to hell

Know when it's time to throw and when to move on - this is the key to emotional survival.

While we are not sure at 200%, that relationship ended, we continue to believe in them. This is understandable, because in a few years (or months) we have become attached to a person, you can say "grow" into it, that part is very painful. It is clear that you are trying to keep the relationship: there is always hope that they will change for the better.

Not all have the courage to destroy the relationship at the time when they actually run out. 21 Here is a sign that "compactly la comedy" if you have not come yet, it is already very, very close. If at least four points of all you say, "This is about us," - think about parting serious than usual.

1. offense

You constantly take offense at your partner, but do not say anything. Do you think that because you save your relationship, but in reality you are only to delay the unpleasant moment when the accumulated negativity will break out, and your relationship will end painful break.

Resentment is not going anywhere, especially if you do not disappear factors that cause it. If she does not always focused outwards, thus accumulated inside, and it causes stress and illness. And, of course, destroys relationships - slowly but surely.

2. Contempt

If you are with a partner you have reached the point where the show mutual disrespect, it's time to destroy their illusions. There is nothing easier than to cease to feel an attachment to someone who shows disrespect to you.

People can continue to live together without respect and awareness of the value of each other, which leads for the absolute apathy about the needs and desires of the partner. Well, what kind of sequel is all about?

3. Contempt

No matter what the motives aroused contempt, whether it failed career, Changes in appearance or something else. Partners should support each other in any situation, because it does not heat so we need in all circumstances, especially during some personal problems.

If you start to treat each other with disdain, no longer get from the warm attitude and do not live with a friend, who understands and cold being who condemns you, why continue it?

4. Lies

I'm talking about lies, when you're talking about the man, "I love you" without experiencing any feelings. You are afraid to hurt him, but do not really protect it and make it worse. The truth comes out: you can not lie to all his life and it does not spoil it yourself and your partner.

Well, if you say to yourself: "We are happy, I'm happy, we are fine," when you feel that you are all already over, it is also an escape from reality.

5. Mistrust

If you do not trust your partner, then, for good reason. If they are so serious, that trust is not returned, why stay with this man? All my life I checked, worry and waste your nerves?

6. Swearing in public

All the good things you can say about your partner, it can be said in public. And all the bad things are best left to private conversations. Scold the person in public - then get only a negative response or its hidden resentment.

In addition, if you criticize a partner in public, or even allow yourself to unpleasant jokes at him, then, within the growing dissatisfaction, which has already begun splashes out.

7. estrangement

If you are often looking for a way to be away from your partner and consciously try to avoid contact and intimacy, it's time to get rid of it.

You already broke the emotional connection with your partner and thus are giving him gently to understand that it's all over. Maybe it's better to do it at once, and not to produce suffering and doubt?

8. The requirement of evidence of love

"If you love me, you ..." It's tempting to control human life in this way, and if you will periodically have to hear this phrase, it means that something went wrong.

The only person who can change your feelings - is himself, and some of your actions here at anything.

Well, if you say so yourself, think about whether you need this person really, whether he is a favorite, if he does something? And is it possible to manipulate those who really love?

9. stool of repentance

If your partner humiliated you in public once, most likely he will do it again and again. Never mind that he drank a lot that night or he had a bad temper.

Public humiliation partner only speaks of a deep self-loathing, and no matter how much love you give this man is not to correct the situation without his hard work and the desire to change from its self-esteem. And it's hard to not only correct, but even recognize.

10. The obsession with another person

If your partner is obsessed with another person - whether he is friends with him or hopes for closer relations - sooner or later it will lead to rupture.

Of course, this does not mean that partners should be fully immersed in each other and give all their the energy of only one person, but an obsession with someone else is fraught with suspicion, jealousy and offense.

Yes, the partner is clearly something is missing in your relationship, if he so attracted to another person, but it is unlikely you can give it to him. And certainly not worth it for the other person to change himself.

11. The obsession with pornography

There is nothing strange or wrong that partners are watching porn together. A kind of voyeurism aroused and helps to find something new that you can later try in bed with your partner.

But if one of the partners of obsessed with pornography, full satisfaction will always elude him in the pursuit of the Grail multiple orgasmsHe can finish in the way of sexual perversion.

So, if you are not satisfied with such classifications, and think about the root cause of this obsession, and the possible consequences.

12. emotional infidelity

Some people feel that monogamy - the only option relations, for others it is difficult and almost impossible.

If you have changed for the sake of diversity of sexual experience, the relationship can still be saved, but if There is an emotional attachment to the person with whom you had an intimate relationship, it is time relationship end.

The first question people ask when they hear about a partner's infidelity, "You are his / her love?". Because it is emotional, rather than physical link is the core of the relationship, and if she's gone, you have nothing more to do here.

13. Inability to stop the conflict

It starts out as an endless struggle without achieving consensus, which gradually turns into a "what you like" when partners do not care about the outcome of their struggle.

There is a rule: never go to bed disappointed in each other. And there's definitely something there.

If none of the partners could not subdue his pride and the desire to always be a winner in the dispute can not agree to a truce, not having achieved their own, there is no continuation of these relations.

14. Subconscious

If you unconsciously do things that harm your relationship, it's your mind dictates that you actually need.

You can think of anything, but your actions say about these desires better than your assurances and hope.

15. Obsession

If your partner has an obsession, for example, alcohol or substances, he / she is a shopaholic, a player, or a workaholic obsessed with sex, you will always be on the second or even fifth place and do not get that emotional connection, which I would like to.

If you do not have an obsession than ever, the dependence of your partner can ruin not only his life, but also yours. Not a very pleasant prospect.

16. Morbid attachment to the former

If your partner still maintains more than a close relationship with former passion or husband / wife, it destroys relationships.

Former partners should be respected, especially if you have children together, but the first part is still assigned to the current partner. If it does not, it is easy to feel like a minor and unnecessary, and it is a direct path to rupture.

17. Threats and emotional blackmail

This is a clear sign unhealthy relationships. Emotional blackmail is often touted as a strong love, but in reality it is the control. A control, in turn, is an abuse of the senses. From this we need to run as far as you can see.

18. Constant comparison and ratings

Your partner is comparing you with others who looks more attractive, earns more, smarter and more fun than you are? This is a form of humiliation. If someone thinks that in a strange yard grass is greener, let go and sent.

Users - there is a unique, though similar in many ways. It is not necessary to compare and himself, let alone to listen to it from your partner.

19. Indifference

Why stay together if you do not care for one another?

20. The disappearance of affection

There is nothing wrong to want a roommate, but if you want more from a relationship, do not stay with a partner who did not only for you. Do not stay just because you are comfortable.

21. Physical violence

There are no excuses, no explanations, no matter the circumstances and promises. Just have to go.

All conflicts in a relationship - it is a way to get rid of the pain, but the reasons for them may vary. This may be a way to open the abscess dissatisfaction and grievances that arose in relation to clean the wound, to remove what hinders, and save the relationship.

But it happens in a different way when the conflict - is a way to break the relationship, tell the other person that they are over, it is no longer necessary to torment each other.

And it is better to learn to distinguish one from the other conflicts, or hurt, and it will be bad for both partners.