12 parenting secrets that you will not find in books on education

I'm sure most parents would agree that being a mom or dad - one of the most amazing and important tasks that we have to perform in life. It is written on this subject many clever and useful books that explain virtually every nuance of raising children. But there are several important secrets of this process about which you read in books. Their knowledge will help you not only to educate their children correctly, but also benefit from this mutual pleasure.

1. All parents sometimes lose patience

Being a parent means to carry out a huge emotional, mental and sometimes physical work. It is not always your efforts will be appreciated and you will see them benefit instantly. Sometimes, on the contrary, we meet such fierce resistance that hands down. So naturally sometimes there is a desire to get out of yourself and give free rein to their emotions. Do not hold back and vyplesnite all that has accumulated. If you do not, the consequences will be far worse.

2. Most new and expensive toys parents buy primarily for themselves

Up to a certain age the child generally violet, how much this or that toy. He may well prefer to mess with plastic bowls, paper cups and chestnuts instead doroguschego toy food processor. And even more ridiculous to expect from a child of a particular relationship to the purchased toy just because of what it has cost you dearly. important to teach daughter or son to enjoy the simple things, than to hurt his psyche numbers on the price tag.

3. You have the right to anger

Many parents, especially the young, consider that in any case they should love their child and in every way to show that love him. This is not true. Sometimes children become real monsters that can ruffle even the champion of meditation. Of course, do not take them immediately to the shelter because of this, but to show their true feelings need.

4. Your 'no' do not kill them

Each child should have their own clearly defined boundaries of what is permitted. And your clear and firm "no" is used to define them. They will sulk and cry, to arrange a tantrum or pretend angels, but no tricks no should lead you astray and cause allow what you consider harmful, dangerous or just stupid.

Constantly say "yes" nice and easy, but do not give in to this temptation.

5. Children should have time for self-reliance

If you are constantly running around and took care of their child, then it is ridiculous to demand from him self-reliance and self-sufficiency. Permanent help prevent the emergence of the ability to overcome difficulties and development of creativity. So be sure to try to intentionally leave children alone, so that they can find something to do and to entertain themselves without assistance.

6. You have the right to rest

Whatever may be the important task of raising children, you too can get tired of it. Let your children read, draw, tinkering with toys while you quietly relax, meditate or just watch TV. Let them know that your time is inviolable and can not be interrupted by their shouts or regular Wishlist.

7. Proper nutrition begins early

Many parents, especially the grandmothers, the wildest ideas about infant nutrition. Yes, it has its own characteristics, but it does not mean that a child must be zakarmlivat chips, Cakes and ice cream. It is often possible to observe a picture when parents try to respect for themselves some dietary restrictions, and their children are fed every advertised muck, justifying this by saying: "Eat until young, you still can". This is totally unacceptable.

8. You must be their own entertainment

Being a parent - this is not a punishment. This does not mean that you should give up their personal lives and dissolve completely in the education and care. If you sometimes go to the movies themselves, the club, to visit friends or to the stadium, it does not instantly make you a bad dad or mom! Just observe a reasonable balance.

9. You have to know the names of all the Pokemon

A more popular video games characters biographies, stories of children's films, and later, and the names of the coolest bands. You do not want to become too soon in the eyes of your child mossy dinosaur, right?

10. Sometimes you have to apologize

In relation to your child, you will not be time to make mistakes.

No people, never made a mistake.

Will be unfair solutions, unfounded reprimands, just awkward movements. And the best thing that can then be done to restore faith in the justice - it's just an apology. Although sometimes it is not easy at all.

11. Parenting can be terribly severe and at the same time pretty darn enjoyable

Within one day, so that there the day - one hour! - you will be able to repeatedly fall into the abyss of disappointment and climb up to heaven rejoicing. You can with an interval of 10 minutes to experience a surge of severe anger, who immediately replaced by storm tears of emotion. This is perfectly normal emotionsExperiencing all normal parents. If you feel that you do not deal with it, and your reaction becomes too heightened, it's time to seek help and take a small (or large) timeout. If you continue to force yourself and your psyche, then it can damage not only you, but also your child.

12. You will always compare their child, and the result will always be the same

Your child is excellent. He is the fastest, intelligent, clever and quick-witted. And if someone has this doubt, this is obviously just envy.

And, you know, in that you are absolutely right.