How to cope with their disabilities

I'm not just once or twice thought that it would be time to change in yourself or that hell, because she did not like it, or worse - prevents live. There are plenty of tips on how to do it and nothing new I'm not suggesting that, but I think that to listen to the thoughts of Joel Falconer is possible and necessary.

1. Identify the problem area
   Create a list of what you would like to correct in yourself. Do not write too general, such as "I need something to do with his health funneling." No, as with the objectives with disabilities should be fought with concrete actions. Write down "I want to lose weight" or "I quit smoking."
2. Define the behavior that leads to problems
   Find a model of behavior that leads to the manifestation of the lack of, is very important. For example, if you are prone to spontaneous purchases, you should define the situation, which is pushing for such purchases. Think about whether you just enough to get to the store, or something concrete is particularly strong declines you thoughtlessly spent. Perhaps the trip to the store with a sum sufficient to spare will save you from spending for the intended list of products that you would do if you your cards.
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   A possible solution could be the selection of daily or weekly amounts strictly defined, in order to limit uncontrolled costs. An example of such a system, the method can serve as a "4 Envelopes«.
3. Determine the cause
   This step can be extremely difficult, because it is not so easy to be honest to isolate the true cause of his behavior. But sometimes it is obvious, as is the case with plump homeworkers, which constantly tempts standing a few steps refrigerator. The reasons for the other shortcomings can be buried much deeper, for example, it may be an attempt to avoid unpleasant thoughts, contacts, or something like that. In other words, the reason may be a material, and can be emotional, and not obvious.
4. Examine the problem
   Armed with the cause and pattern of behavior, consider the problem from all sides. For example, before quitting get acquainted with the experience of other dropouts, study difficulties, which prevented them to support his decision to view the images of lungs affected by cancer.
5. Write down possible solutions
   List the known solutions, which are not so hard to find on the web, while paying attention not only on the mass solutions, but rather on how well the solution is right for you. Do not pick up anything that is bad, otherwise the list will tend to infinity, and you are wasting your time and mood.
   Add the fact that you can think for yourself: despite the fact that such a decision has not been anyone is checked, it can strongly motivate you, and take into account your character and the reasons that led you to this problem.
6. try
   Take time out to try each of the solutions. Do not rush too - need to allocate sufficient time to effect manifested. If you are satisfied with the results - continue to use this solution. - if not, proceed to the next.
7. analyze this
   Regularly check how far you succeeded. It is not necessary to break into the closed door - change solution that does not work. Make sure you have the results, if they are too weak? It may be worth trying a different method, because you have a new experience?

Do not try to do everything at once. Solve problems one after another.

Based on the How to Fix a Trouble Area in Your Life [Joel Falconer]