REVIEW: "Turn on the charm of the security services methodology" - how to make friends with anyone
Books / / December 19, 2019
Sometimes we can not start a conversation or start a relationship is not due to the fact that someone does not want it. Perhaps the fact that we do not know the formula of friendship, unknowingly send hostile signals or do not understand the signals the other person. Book Jack Shafer (Jack Schafer) and Marvin Karlins (Marvin Karlins) provides everything you need to remove all obstacles in the way of setting and to strengthen any relationship.
Jack Shafer
Former FBI special agent, a psychology professor, consultant. For more than 15 years engaged in counter-terrorism investigations, he trained special agents of influence and persuasion techniques. Author of six books and numerous articles. His company, Schafer and Associates teaches lawyers, law enforcement officers and security personnel.
Marvin Karlins
Professor of management at the University of South Florida, defended his PhD in Psychology from Princeton University. Author of 24 books, including the bestseller What Every Body Is Saying and It's a Jungle in There, and more than 200 articles in professional, scientific and popular journals. Advises major international companies.
Frankly speaking, the words "the procedure of the special services" in the title of the book alarmed me and diminished the desire to read it. I am not that not a supporter, but even ardent opponent of hypnosis, NLP and other manipulation of the human mind. But such associations somehow arise in me when in the same sentence found the concept of "human relations" and "security services."
But after the book recommended to me a man with me mentality and with similar tastes, I started reading. The book was interesting, understandable and practical. In addition, my fears were not realized, and I left with another cliche about the security services practices.
Of course, the information obtained from the book can be used to the detriment of others, misleading them about the sincerity of his own intentions. But if you truly want to make friends with other people, to establish or return the lost relationship, this book is sure you will like it and will be useful.
book feature - spy stories
One of the features that enhances the interest to an already exciting book - a real life stories of an FBI special agent, to help understand how the formula works in practice friendship.
It's funny to read how people are themselves asking for a relationship with a man, knowing that he was an FBI agent and "came on their soul."
friendship formula
And all of these miracles took place thanks to the formula of friendship that was so simple that it was difficult for me to believe in its effectiveness, if not life stories. Here is the formula:
Friendship = frequency proximity + + + duration intensity.
The authors explain each item and offer practical solutions to everyday problems in a relationship with this formula. At the end add:
"Turn on the charm of the security services methodology," Jack Shafer and Marvin KarlinsThink of the formula as a real foundation on which the house is built. The houses have a variety of forms, as well as friendship, but the foundation design is usually always the same.
Our body - our letter
Several chapters are devoted to nonverbal signals that we send to others and receive from them. Recently, on the subject say a lot and often, but the problem is that many people unknowingly wear the mask of hostility and genuinely surprised that their other side.
Therefore, the information of these chapters will not only help you learn the friendly and hostile signals, but also teach them to serve others. For ease of reading material book is equipped with a sufficient number of photographs. Of course, you will learn to "read" other people and get tips for those situations when you will receive a hostile signals.
"Turn on the charm of the security services methodology," Jack Shafer and Marvin KarlinsYou'll be amazed at how many people are nonverbal signals are exchanged at the meeting. But even more surprised to learn that, after living so many years, we did not know how many non-verbal signals all my life send.
It - it's not just information
After, we will look to non-verbal signals, come all, to adjust our speech. Many people think that the main thing in the conversation - the right to formulate an idea, we want to express. But it is not so.
"Turn on the charm of the security services methodology," Jack Shafer and Marvin KarlinsCommunication is not only the facts and the exchange of ideas; when interacting with real people any ideas need to be properly represented.
The conversation is important, not only the logical component, but also the color of the words, which will hear your interlocutor. Important intonation, facial expressions, gestures. But the most important skill in conversation - the ability to listen to the interlocutor. After all, to learn to speak, a person should be two years. And to learn to listen to - all life. This book will help you learn how to last much faster.
make friends online
And behind the curtain, we get a nice bonus in the form of a whole chapter about online relationships. The authors tell about why the communication in the network so attracts people, which had advantages over offline communication, and give a few tips on etiquette.
A large part is devoted to safety: how to recognize scams, how to check the accuracy of the information on the web and the real world as detect fraud in user profiles, how to reduce the likelihood of being cheated on the internet and how to bring fraud on the net water.
Your relationship is in your hands
What are the challenges and problems you face in relationships with other people? Find your soul mate or restore broken relationships with existing? Conquer shyness and make friends? Make friends with an interesting person to you? Networking?
So you should know:
"Turn on the charm of the security services methodology," Jack Shafer and Marvin KarlinsFruitful personal relationship, no doubt, are available to you. It is not a matter of chance or luck. Friendly, trusting relationship is established through the use of tested scientific knowledge and proven methods of interaction with the surrounding... The ability to evoke sympathy is available, it is in front you. In order to master this art, just use the information contained in the book, and watch how to grow your LQ (Likability Quotient), or the cuteness factor.
"Turn on the charm of the security services methodology," Jack Shafer and Marvin Karlins
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