REVIEW: 'How to overcome fear "- a manual on the fight with what you fear most
Books / / December 19, 2019
Fear - an integral part of our lives. Hard to believe that in a single book, you can at least explain its nature, and how to deal with it, and can not speak. However, Olga Solomatina in her book, "How to overcome fear" could talk about how to defeat the 12 demons that stand in the way to success and happiness.
I'm afraid a lot. I'm afraid that my health is going to happen. Or that for some reason any financial problems. I'm afraid that something will happen with loved ones. It fears that reminded one second and inherent, perhaps, to everyone.
Subconsciously afraid of becoming a millionaire, too poor, and people with good health - to be ill or injured. Fear - is what drives all of our endeavors, and its advantage is, of course, and the harm can not be underestimated. The book "How to overcome fear" Olga Solomatina talks about 12 demons of fear and how to combat them.
Olga Solomatina
Journalist, author of educational programs for Creative Writing. She graduated from the journalism faculty of Moscow State University. M. IN. Lomonosov. Almost two decades working in the publishing house "Kommersant".
The Bone
Try to remember how many phobias do you know? Fear of insects, dark, closed spaces, heights, people, handshake - it seems not unreasonable that a person is afraid of everything. I fear much, but it special cases of what we fear. In the book of fears divided into 12 groups: poverty, success and failure, "can not afford", "not enough time", rejection society, other people's desires, "all or nothing" changes, loneliness, disappointment, family, fear of telling the truth, fear future.
Every fear is devoted a whole chapter, and each chapter by about 30 pages. Of course, to judge the effectiveness of a book on the number of pages of silly. But there is an understanding that every fear is given special attention. For instance, I was interested to learn about the fear of poverty, lack of time and loneliness. On the other, I also walked casually, but they interested me much less.
At the end of each chapter there are practical exercises. After the first chapter Olga offers a record 13 of his fears and represent them graphically next. The task seems difficult only at first glance. The fear of being worse than others I have represented in the form of the podium with a third place. Fear of poverty - old carpet on the wall. For some reason, this association occurs in my head.
Where does success
To succeed, according to Olga, the fear prevents the tenth - "all or nothing". As an example, she cites the famous people: Barack Obama, who has worked in a stall with ice cream, a former employee of the supermarket Hugh Jackman and Michael Fassbender in the role of a bartender, not Steve Jobs in the movie coming out soon. These people are not afraid to be imperfect. Where others have tried to achieve instant success, they knew that the first will have to stay in the role, which for many may seem shameful.
Gradual path to success - it is a reality. By the way, to improve and move forward in small steps - this is a skill that can be learned. As an example, the author cites Winston Churchill, who enrolled in the Royal Military College at the third attempt, and the elections to the House of Commons lost several times.
In the speech at Harrow School, where Churchill was invited to talk about the secret of success, he was a man of few words. Stepping to the podium, he said:
Never give in - never, never, never. Neither the large nor small nor large nor small, never give up if it does not contradict the honor and good sense. Never give in to force, never succumb obviously superior force of your opponent.
After three sentences spoken by Churchill sat in a chair and looked at the audience, who stared at him in anticipation of the continuation. It was not followed.
Summarizing the chapter on the struggle with the fear of "all or nothing", there are several tips:
- Success comes gradually. Replicated overnight success story - it is either very rare or fiction.
- Many people on the path to success do not stop the dirty work. This is normal.
- Never (repeat five times) do not give up.
- Give yourself the right to error.
conclusion
The Book of Olga Solomatina covers too large and complex aspect of our lives. After all, its purpose - not just to talk about fear, but also to learn to deal with it. Despite this, the 200 pages of the book "How to overcome fear" can change your life. Especially if you can admit to yourself that what you are really afraid of.
At the end of each chapter highlights the main ideas and provides practical exercises that help to analyze the situation and understand themselves. You can write directly in the book. But then you probably do not want to read it to someone else. Too much in it written down what you do not want to share. Perhaps this is another fear, with whom I have to fight.
"How to overcome fear," Olga Solomatina
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