5 steps to a life of your dream
Books / / December 19, 2019
Do not miss this moment - that's all you have.
We often remember the past and unduly worried about the future, forgetting that all possibilities for changing life situations are present. Erik Bertrand Larssen, who gave us a very useful book "On the limit"And"Without self-pity"Offers a moment to stop and finally to feel not a bystander, and the master of your life.
Increasingly, we feel that the ocean of life brings us in an unknown direction, like a ship without a rudder. There is no time to realize what is happening, build traffic and strategy finally swim wherever you want, and do not have much.
When the days are filled with responsibilities, deadlines and endless chores, it is very difficult to concentrate on what is really important and to understand their true desires. Often, most of the decisions we make unconsciously, and some of them are just a way to meet the expectations of other people or society as a whole. But let's briefly put life on pause and vnesom positive adjustments in our thinking. Now.
Believe in your capabilities
James Clear, writer and photographerThe greatest difference between successful and unsuccessful people is, in my experience, not in intelligence, resources and opportunities. It consists in the ability to achieve the intended purpose and believe in this ability.
Have you noticed how the children sincerely believe in fulfillment of their desires? They have no doubt that all the necessary work. Hedges? There is no such word. "Anything is possible" - this is exactly the type of thinking that is necessary for everyone.
Around full of critics, pessimistic, disappointed in all the people who every day will trim your wings phrase "Live like a normal person," "Why do you need it? Suddenly will not work? "" Yes, it's too late to change anything! "," Stop dreaming, live the reality. " Believe in yourself It should become the cornerstone of your life. It does not matter whether you have family and friends support, whether it will meet the expectations of society, simply believe that change is possible, and they depend only on your action.
Friedrich Schiller, the philosopherSet a big goal, because in them easier to hit.
Be ambitious, bold and persistent in the dreams in the works! Life - is a great trip, during which you are a route to their targets. Move only forward and enjoy the road. Keep track of every moment and enjoy what you see. Remember that you are at any moment can throw out of your life anything.
To believe in their strength and capabilities, follow a few rules.
- Treat easier to emerging difficulties, try to calm analyze the situation and find ways to solve it. Do not panic. Make install "I still can! I can handle! There are no unsolvable problems. "
- Do not compare themselves and their life situations with others. You are unique. Do not think that if your friend that something did not work, then your outcome a foregone conclusion of the case. Do not look at the others go to their goal, to his dream. Proceed.
- Often remember their victories, achievements, successful solutions. You feel? You went through a lot and got a huge stock of experience. This time, you too will succeed.
- Communicate with positive, successful, self-confident people. They will charge you the motivation to go only forward. In addition, positive power attracts happiness and joy. What you need!
- Never give up. After a night of darkness always comes the dawn. A succession of difficulties - a victory.
Identify your values
Values - this is your inner core part of your personality and a filter to make decisions. When a person is aware of what is really important, it ceases to fluctuate and do missteps for him. After all values are the most important reference point for setting priorities.
Written answer to the question: "What to me is the most valuable in life?" Write down at least 16 values. Now cross out all but three. These values and become your basis for the acquisition of inner strength, frame for life. Follow them every day.
Development of the fundamental rules of life takes a lot of doubt, gives peace of mind and helps to put the right goals. Everyone defines its system of values. This can be:
- healthy self-love, which opens the heart to the world and other people;
- taking care of relatives and friends;
- the creation of a home;
- the second half, giving you inspiration and motivates deeds;
- love for children;
- self-realization;
- travel and to the world;
- setting and achieving goals;
- life itself, multifaceted and unique.
Going out on the path of his life, consult the compass of values. Easy to go astray, and you may not even notice this until it's too late.
Be bold
- Captain! We're surrounded!
- Perfectly! Now we can attack in any direction.
Forget the fear, throw this notion out of your head. Do not mistake Only he who does nothing, remember? Allow yourself fail. This is an important experience and a significant step towards better decisions in the future. You must dare to win in sports, love, business and life in general. Allow yourself to dream and reach the top.
Fear makes us lifeless and paralyzed. As a rule, it is quite unreasonable experiences that should block the force of will and then say to yourself, "I am not afraid, because I will. If not, I'll take that as a useful lesson in life and go on. "
If you think you have a problem, then you will have a problem. Where you see an obstacle, others make out the possibility. What it seems to you the most simple thing in the world, for others - a real achievement. This also applies to everyday life details, and the most important issues.
If you are experiencing difficulty and difficult circumstances, just be aware that the situation has changed, and adjust its way to the goal. Challenge the fear and learn to accept the changes. There are situations in which you can do something, and cases that you just need to let go. Try to learn to distinguish between them, and you will see how life will become easier, and understanding of the world - more clearly. Courage - is not the absence of fear, it power over him.
follow procedures
To achieve the maximum possible only when your time is structured and you skillfully use prioritization system. This helps to properly allocate their energy on the really necessary and minor things.
Start your day with prioritization: identify what tasks are more important, and start with them. Never do several things at once. Just finished one, grasp the other.
Set order - the best way to cope with stress. To face a variety of challenges facing you in the process of work and study, will help method Pomodoro. Set a timer for 25 minutes, during which you should deal strictly one thing. While the time is counted, you can not be distracted, drink a cup of coffee, check e-mail.
Believe me, 25 minutes - longer than you think. And if you manage to smoothly complete this session, you will find that the time to do an incredible amount. When time runs out, allow yourself to five-minute break and start a new session. In just a few "tomatoes", you are guaranteed to have time to do a lot more than usual.
Learn to say "no." Often we take on their shoulders the burdens, hesitate to abandon anything. Really appreciate and value your time. None of us do not have in a day more than 24 hours.
Constantly using time management, you will realize how much, it turns out, can keep pace with, and will move to the target much more confident, more quickly and with great enthusiasm.
Live here and now
How often do you realize that you live? Seriously, how do you manage to keep track of the changes taking place around and with your loved ones? Learn to stop and capture your reality. You can do it mentally, but you can make it a rule to do one photo per day. That hooked soul and lift your spirits.
Try to switch to during the day. Coming home from work, forget about the case. Give time favorite people. To make this easier to do, use the rule "magic steps."
When you come back after a long day's work and collapse on the way to her house, make two very deep breaths stomach. Then close your eyes and say to yourself, "Now my time is over. Now I'm the world's best husband and father / wife and mother. "
The first step to your apartment or home leave work behind. It disappears from your head. Calls, meetings, conventions, customers and strategies. All that you need to remember.
The second step neutralizes the congestion of the brain. Your head is empty. Your thoughts are transformed into transparent pure stream. No worries.
In the third step you switch your attention to a family that is waiting for you at home. Time! And all your thoughts are now focused on these people. Be curious. Try as much as possible to understand their businesses and put yourself in their place. Lean to talk with children. Listen to how closely as possible to understand your other half.
Switch your attention with the help of active conscious thoughts and actions. Change the working attitude at home, enjoy the other aspects of your life, feel every moment. This will be a tremendous charging for future achievements, and work more efficiently.
So, if you stop, threw doubts and fears, to believe in themselves and built a road to the dream. Now you can breathe, smile and begin the conscious journey, looking curiously around and enjoying the sights.
In the book "Who" you will find many more works great ideas that motivate positive change and fulfilling life. Live, love and drink with gusto every sip of reality. You can do everything!
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