How to become a better version of yourself: 12 elementary tricks

Books / by admin / December 19, 2019

How to take control of destiny

Keep for yourself, rather than follow someone else

Control their own destiny, sitting in the back seat, it will not be easy. It happens that you assigned to a specific role, and it is impossible to ignore. But in many cases, for you still remains some selection.

My career began in Australia with the fact that they called me just three weeks to work on the program. But soon I saw the real reason for which I was hired: the project does not meet deadlines due to poor management.

In fact, they need really was a new project manager. And I took over his job, without waiting until asked to do so. A week later, I officially got the job.

Sometimes a chance to break into the leaders are not given to us by someone from above, and goes to the one who took the initiative.

Do not hesitate to their strange habits

In school we are taught that distracted and crawl bad. Many children are given special medication to the school, they were calmer and less steep. However, outside of educational institutions of the country compulsive movements can actually serve an important purpose.

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Cease to be ashamed of their habits.

Perhaps what you fumble handle or leg twitches (or annoy everyone around even some incessant gestures), mysteriously helps you focus.

So buy yourself some small toy such as anti-stress dice, or start drawing pictures during phone conferences, or find any other way to support their habit rather than push it by force of will or medicines. It makes itself felt your creative energy, and the ability to direct it in the right direction promises you good dividends.

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Several years ago, the BBC released a documentary transfer Bilton, Richard. «Apple 'Failing to Protect Chinese Factory Workers'». BBC News. BBC, 18 Dec. 2014. Web. 23 Feb. 2017. about inhumane working conditions at many factories in China, where going to the iPhone and iPad from Apple. The program describes the excessively long working day workers, their uncomfortable living and demanding boss.

But most of all I was struck when one worker spoke about the overwhelming feeling of hopelessness, which generates the work on the conveyor in one and the same driven to automatism mode for 14 hours in six days week. Lack of free will destroyed in him the desire to live, and even led to the idea of suicide.

Most of us, fortunately, will never ever be provided in such circumstances. But sometimes we get the feeling that our professional and personal lives - is an endless running in circles. If this feeling is delayed, remember that you have the option, which most desperate Chinese workers denied. You can escape and move on to something else.

How to acquire new knowledge

Ask more questions

One of the greatest joys of fatherhood for me - to hear from their children a lot of questions on various topics: starting with why in Brazil speak Portuguese, and ending with the fact why motorcycles are no belts security. Unfortunately, from my students at the university I get a lot less questions.

As we age, we become curious about less and less, and the fact there are many reasons.

Sometimes we are afraid that we will look stupid. Sometimes we mistakenly believe that the right time information will be displayed by itself (or at least to find in Google). And sometimes we do not guess that something we do not know. But it should not be. The first step in the acquisition of knowledge - consciously ask questions on themes unknown to you. A inseparably associated the second step - to listen to the answers.

Buy unfamiliar magazines

A few years ago I was traveling in South Africa, took to check out a magazine called Farmer's Weekly, focused on the farmers. One of the articles in it was dedicated by the author puts it, "the paradox of the Amish," and it is their practice of crop rotation and the rejection of chemical fertilizers designed for vegetables and fruits on commercial farms grow larger in less time.

The Amish, by contrast, grow smaller products for a longer period and specifically alternate culture, so as not to deplete the soil. As a result, their land remain longer fertile.

And though I do not have to Agriculture nothing, I have learned from this article a more general idea: sometimes you need to give up a quick profit to reach more distant goals... and the source of these considerations served as a magazine that most readers would consider useless to anyone who does not work on the ground.

More sit on the couch

Books on self-development will never tell you to spend more time on the couch. But these days, access to a huge archive of knowledge, you can really get from your sofa: in your offers excellent documentaries, podcasts, presentations at TED, and all kinds of video to any themes (how to clean a pomegranate!) On YouTube.

So sit on the couch for fun and do not hesitate to stretch these moments... But only as long as they are beneficial to your brain.

And if it ends with what you see drunken longstanding seasons series, with a seat on the couch to tie. Forget about this advice, get up and go do something else. Right now.

How to become more honest

Expand the unexpected truth

There is a truth that we expect to hear. It is impossible to lie about education you received or about where the product was made, which you sell. But we, as a rule, do not expect that people will begin to tell us the truth on their own initiative. Especially if they offer us something for the money.

For example, we do not expect a mechanic to tell us how much he actually put it in his pocket with the money he took from us. What if he had said? Such openness would single him out from the rest and has served as a perfect example of how useful to tell the truth before you will be forced to do so.

If you have the courage to share what your competitors or colleagues prefer to hide, you can save the people of his sincerity relaxed.

Do what you promised

Talking with other people, all of us now and then something they promise. We say that they necessarily represent someone. We ensure that all means go back to the question with which they have asked us to help. Ensure that stowed in certain periods. Honesty requires us to deliver on their promises. And this applies even to the tiniest of them.

When I suggest that someone with someone to meet you, I always do. When I promise to remember for someone other than the name of a book that has emerged in the conversation, I will soon send out a message to that person, with its title and a link to an online store where it can be buy.

The bottom line is that the habit to bring the conversation to the point of forcing responsible for his words and in any other cases. And to hone this skill to complete automatism under the force of each.

Subscribe your name

Giving his students the task of writing an essay, I, unlike many of the other teachers never assign a minimum amount. I only ask them to prepare a well-designed and well-formulated text on this topic, and the length of it, they can identify themselves. If they manage to convincingly and interestingly to speak about the topic of the week in one sentence, I would be pleased.

However, I have another request: I insist that each student signed his essay and put it in a blog of our course. This implies full transparency: so it will be able to read all the other students, and I publicly sentenced him to a rating from 1 to 5 in the comments to the post.

I do this in order to turn in their favor is one of the main rules of the Internet: all that you upload to the network, affecting your reputation. By signing your name essay, students take full responsibility for the quality of published work. It usually causes them to make a greater effort to its creation.

I still hope that someone of them will be able to present the same perfectly tuned judgment in a single phrase. But while no one is failed.

How to get their own point of view

Learn to separate opinions from facts

All of us have always been difficult to separate what seems, from what can be objectively proven. Media resources that we use, may be biased. Public confidence in them can lead to wrong conclusions and enable any you want to prove a statement, simply removing the "facts" so that they spoke in his favor. And if we add to this epidemic false news the web, we get a "perfect storm, which was hard to see the truth."

But this information environment, where news replicated 24 hours seven days a week, has its advantages. You can always get to the proven facts, if you set the aim to form their own opinion on the basis of critical comparison of different sources.

Do not be a fool

If liberal arts colleges, and provide something to my students, so this is something that will teach them to think. However, to learn how to think, not necessarily receive higher education (although the self-discipline that is required to earn a diploma in itself can be a valuable skill). To do this, you need to have enough confidence to form their views and to ask as many questions as possible to make it worthwhile.

Be a fool - so stubbornly insisted on his conviction, despite the lack of facts and evidence and the failure to explain their position.

If I spoke ill about the taste of cauliflower and claimed that I hate it, but never would it have not tried... I would be the most idiot. Ignore objective information and to insist on something just because you like, without having any evidence or personal experience - is silly. You can and must behave smarter.

Take an unpopular stance

One of the characteristic features of a sneak - blindly agree with everything the boss says. But psychologists who study human behavior, found that for all of us naturally agree with the views of a large group of people. Psychologists call this "spiral of silence" in which the band members out of fear of being isolated are beginning to lean toward the view of most active.

The best way to overcome this effect - at times deliberately hold unpopular position to create the conditions for yourself in which you have to defend it fiercely.

This little trick that can terribly angering your environment to work wonders in terms of generating a strong point view, because it makes you think about the opinions of others and to see the world through the eyes of a man whose beliefs differ from your.

Even more paradoxical and discouraging the secrets of success can be found in the book of Rohit Bhargava "Always eat with your left hand." Everything that is written in this book, just the opposite of what you asserted for years by parents, teachers, peers and superiors.

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