S.U.M.O. - a special technique to achieve success in life

This book is good that the classic ideas on how to become a better, it brings together in a very simple and catchy system, which increases the chances of their use in everyday life.

Of course, for those who are familiar with the ideas of self-help books, S.U.M.O. will not open new horizons. Nevertheless, it is quite capable help return lost the desire to act for those who lost their fighting spirit.

What is S.U.M.O.?

It is not a Japanese national struggle. S.U.M.O. - an abbreviation of Shut Up. Move OnInvented by Paul McGee (Paul McGee). Translate it can be as "shut up and do it." These words express the essence of actions that are needed to achieve success and feel happy. It is necessary to "shut up" - stop, look at your life from the outside and listen to their thoughts and feelings. And to do what needs to be done.

Despite the fact that you have been in the past, the future, you can make another. The point is not to limp, do not feel sorry for yourself, not prokrastinirovat. Just shut up and change their lives.

Author Paul McGee - a psychologist by training, a popular British lecturer works including coach, responsible for improving the efficiency of the players in the "Manchester City" - one of the leading clubs in English football Premier League.

What S.U.M.O. Unlike other systems, the efficiency and increase the motivation?

In the book there is no breakthroughs. All the ideas are familiar for a long time, but usually people do not rush to use them. A big plus of the book Paul McGee that it all laid out on shelves, which simplifies the application of the ideas in practice.

Despite the fact that the pace of life is changing and evolving technologies, ideas of self-development there will always be relevant, because in human nature to desire for success and happiness.

Paul McGee allocates 7 factors which play a crucial role in achieving success.

1. Reflections. We live at a frantic pace, and occasionally it is necessary to pause to examine their lives and consider what we are doing right and what - no.
2. Recreation. Constant changes in life and continuous availability does not give us a break. Many complain about the moral fatigue and insomnia. Rest - this is not a bonus but a necessity.
3. A responsibility. The world is nothing we should not. For their happiness and prosperity we alone are responsible.
4. Resistance. In life there are both ups and downs. The main thing - how you react to them.
5. Relationship. Quality of life depends on a harmonious relationship, not only in his personal life, but also at work. Relationship - the foundation of life, and they need to improve.
6. Ingenuity. Many people have too much time and effort spent on thinking about what they lack and what they want, instead of focusing on the present. Think of yourself not as a victim but as a person who is able to concentrate and develop new skills to cope with life's challenges.
7. Reality. Perceive reality as it is, and not what you want it to be.

The author reminds us of the idea, which has already been a lot said and written, but which are still relevant: we too much attention to the events, whereas it does not define what awaits us in future.

What determines the future?

Not events, and our reaction to them determines the consequences. At the same event in different people react in different ways, respectively, and the consequences for them will be different. A reaction can cause stress and lead to an escalation of the conflict, and other reaction will lead to positive results.

But the reaction, too, there is a reason. What affects the response?

First habit: we look at the world through the filter and are often not aware of it. Most people love simple solutions. Our brain creates certain neural pathways to respond automatically to conserve resources. We can say that our habits are recorded in our brains.

We understand that we need to do differently, plan to change, but it does not go beyond empty promises. To change your habits, you need to make a serious effort to see great benefit in this.

But you do not become a slave to habits, especially those that interfere with life: procrastination, irritability, tardiness. You can build new neural pathways and to replace old bad habits with new positive. You have to understand that this will require serious efforts that some intentions are not enough.

What else influences the reaction?

Conditioned reflexes. people often react just as automatically, like Pavlov's dogs. Many people live in a dream, and do not think about their behavior and how to change it. But controlling your behavior, you can change your life for the better. If we are dissatisfied with life, you need to change the setting from negative to positive.

In addition to reflections on the reaction affect emotions. We often regret that we do and say, under the influence of emotions. But we justify themselves by saying that we had no other choice. In critical situations, we should remind ourselves that we are free to choose how to perceive events and how to respond to them.

On the side we always know better what to do. And we recommend to friends and family, how and what they need to do. But it is easy to be objective when it does not concern us personally. The stronger we are emotionally involved in the situation, the more difficult to think rationally. Emotions interfere with taking the right decision.

We see the world not as it is, and so what we are.

Anais Nin (Anaïs Nin), writer

So what to do?

The book does not offer some unique ways to change yourself. Apparently, just because the only correct way - to do something about what most already knows. Acquire healthy habits. To understand that is not the situation, and the reaction affects the consequences. Understand that there is always a choice, and not act automatically. Stop being a slave of emotions.

Where to begin?

First, you need to press pause, turn off the autopilot and honestly assess our lives.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Who had the greatest influence on your life?
2. Who is responsible for the fact that you were in such situations?
3. Whose advice do you just listen?

Ideally, answers should be: "I", "me", "their". But few people fully take responsibility for their lives. Many used to play a game called "blame someone else" and to feel like a victim. They think like this: Life is not fair, I'm not guilty, I'm not talented, I can not make a difference how many opportunities lost, to blame others.

The victims feel that they are those who believe that they have no choice, who have low self-esteem who do it out of habit, to absolve themselves of responsibility. And some just like to feel like a victim, because they so much sympathy and pay more attention.

How to stop feeling like a victim?

it is often difficult because of the victim's position gives certain advantages. It is very convenient not to recognize its responsibility and to blame in all circumstances and other people. This destructive behavior that no good will not. The task - to learn to think in a different way, even though it will initially uncomfortable.

But what if a person really has been the victim of some terrible events? He does not accept any responsibility for them?

Helpful Hint Paul McGee: even if you are a victim of any terrible events must be from the victim to become a survivor. In any case, here is true is the same: you have to take responsibility for the response to the event, learn to make a different choice and act differently.

But that does not mean you have to accept if you were treated unfairly. You can be a real sacrifice, but to perceive himself as a person who wants to live on and not dwell on the past.

And what exactly you need to do to stop feeling like a victim?

The idea is to tune in to a proactive approach. Rather than complain about the unfairness of life and the search for the guilty, concentrate on finding solutions out of the situation, the fact that you can. After all, our thinking determines our actions.

How?

As the author explains, the lives of many people turns into a vicious circle, because they think in the same pattern: a certain idea is standard emotionWhich entails the usual effect, and it, in turn, leads to the same result. To get different results, you need to break the cycle of "thought - emotion - action - result" in the beginning. You need to teach yourself to think in a different way, and then you will feel differently, react differently to get different results.

Watch your thoughts - they become words. Watch your words - they become actions. Keep track of your actions - they become habits. Watch your habits - they become character. Watch your character - it determines the fate.

What determines the way of thinking and how to change it?

In many ways, the thinking is determined by upbringing. If a person from little up They said keep a low profile and keep a low profile, he did not become a leader, and will not take any chances.

Previous experience also affects the mind. Good experience makes a lot of time to come back and repeat it, and failed makes cautious and avoid its repetition.

It affects thinking and environment. If your environment made to feel like a victim, it is likely, and you will feel the same way.

Social networks and media also influence the way of thinking. It is important to realize that most people are attracted to the negative and scandalous news. But they distort the real picture of the world.

Do not forget about the moral and physical exhaustion. We are not able to think constructively when get tired.

It is important to distinguish between these factors, be aware of them and do not react automatically. Paul McGee believes that regardless of external events we bear personal responsibility for their thinking.

How to recognize a wrong way of thinking?

Paul McGee gives some familiar to most people the wrong patterns of thinking.

• Inner critic, undermining faith in yourself. Remind yourself that all of us are imperfect, mistakes happen, you just need to move on.
• Walking in a circle, when the head scrolled the same negative thoughts. It is important to remind ourselves that this will never improve the situation and solve the problem.
• Pleasure from the fact that you feel miserable. Being miserable - a good way to manipulate other people.
• Exaggeration of problems that distorts reality.

It is possible that no need to change the circumstances, but only a point of view.

It is also important to note that our primitive feelings and emotions included before rationality.

How to enable rationality? And so there are bad feelings?

People behave irrationally when experiencing fear, anxiety, fatigue, hunger. On impulse may be in a panic to get away from the problem. Because the primitive emotional thinking developed in humans earlier than rational.

Of course, to act under the influence of emotions is not always bad. If people always behaved reasonably, would not be passion and excitement. Yes, and it would be difficult to survive.

But our reason and logic to help find new solutions and get rid of wrong thinking.

How to enable rational thinking? Asking yourself questions. Nature of the questions determines the quality of the responses. If you ask yourself the question "Why am I such a loser?", The brain will look for answers to support your worthlessness. But if the question is formulated in a positive way, then your focus will shift. For example: "How can I improve this?", "What to do differently next time?"

It always works S.U.M.O. method?

If a man was something really serious or scary, the council "Shut up and do", of course, will not be out of place.

What to do? Can be a little "bogged down" in our thoughts. Paul McGee compares this state with state behemoth lying in the mud. This we also need as people are not robots, we can not turn off the emotions, sometimes they need to fully experience to move on.

In this state, people need the support of others, comprehension. But it is important not to let this drag on, because the longer a person is in such a state, the harder it is to move on and the more he prokrastiniruet.

How to stop prokrastinirovat?

People did not begin to take action for fear of discomfort and failure, or simply due to a lack of discipline.

The only way to overcome procrastination - just start doing anything. Do not think about how to perform a task in whole or meet deadlines. Just start to perform. In the process you will feel the motivation and joy that still started. Memorize these pleasant feelings. Imagine and feel success, start with the bad and then enjoy a pleasant, reward yourself for success, find a support group.

Should I read this book?

The book is written by a light and lively language. Due to the large number of stories from the life of the author it seems talk tete-a-tete.

Book ideas themselves are not original and are not new, but they are gathered in one place with examples and explanations. If you have not read books on the subject, the book S.U.M.O. It serves as good motivation to take action.

Of course, the book does not say anything new to those familiar with the literature on self development. And of course, there is no reason to read this book convinced cynics or people who believe that everything in the world they know. Nevertheless, the book is fully capable to regain motivation and a positive attitude.

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