That different parts of the body can tell us about human feelings and motives
Books / / December 19, 2019
Forehead
frowning forehead
The appearance of wrinkles on the forehead, in response to a stimulus can be considered a reliable indicator of the fact that there are any questions or problems, or that the person feels insecure. Frowning forehead is usually associated with doubts, tensions, anxiety, concern. Keep in mind that now many people use Botox for cosmetic purposes, and it prevents the appearance of wrinkles on the forehead, and thus may mask true feelings.
Pulsation of the veins on his temples
In the stressful environment of the superficial temporal vein (located closest to the skin in the temporal areas of the head a little further eye) can greatly pulsate. This is a very accurate indicator of excitation of the autonomic nervous system, caused by the anxiety, concern, fear, anger, or, in some cases, the excitement. Thus, the brain automatically switches to survival mode in anticipation of intense exercise, such as fight or flight, and makes the heart and lungs work faster.
rubbing his forehead
We begin to massage the forehead for headaches when process information, or when we have a concern, doubt. It is a form of calming the behavior, helps to relieve stress and anxiety.
eyebrows
greeting eyebrows
We are raising eyebrows at the sight of a familiar person, if at the moment we can not say hello to him or to show someone that noticed his presence. Depending on the circumstances, raised eyebrows can be combined with a smile. This is a sign of attention, and his absence immediately catches the eye, for example when we go to the store and the employee does not bother to even the slightest attempt to make eye contact. Just one move of the eyebrows, to show the man, you appreciate his presence, even if you are currently employed.
eyebrow asymmetry
This mimetic gesture used when there is any doubt or uncertainty. One eyebrow creeps up and the other remains in place or falls below the normal position. Asymmetry indicates human distrust of what he is told. Jack Nicholson does so often in the movies and in life, expressing their Disagreement.
frown
Part of the face between the eyes and just above the nose called glabellar, and if it is narrowed or wrinkles, the most probable reason may be dissatisfaction or concern. This expression appears for a few seconds, and it can not always be seen, but it accurately conveys emotions. It happens that, listening to something unpleasant or trying to comprehend heard a man so strongly frowns that they converge in a single line. The ">
Eyes
dilated pupils
When we are comfortable and enjoy being in front of us a person or object, our pupils dilate. This reaction can not be controlled. We lovers enjoying each other's company, too, pupils dilate, since the eyes are trying to absorb as much light as possible. That's why restaurants with subdued light - a good choice for a meetingFrom such a light look naturally wears off, and the pupils become larger, and this effect can help us even more relaxing next to another man.
constricted pupils
Pupils are narrowed, if we do not like what he saw, or we experience negative emotions. In the eyes of bright colors constricted pupils are better seen than in the dark. If a person's pupil suddenly shrunk to the size of a pin tip, then just happened to some very unpleasant event. Interestingly, in stressful situations, the brain therefore tries to focus the eyes - because the smaller the aperture, the sharper the image. That's why we schurimsya when we want something better look.
Relaxed eye muscles
Calm, relaxed view indicates the status of comfort and confidence. When we have nothing to be concerned, the muscles around the eyes, in the forehead and cheeks relax zone, but with the appearance of the slightest reason for irritation or anxiety they instantly tense. This is particularly noticeable metamorphosis in children: toddler suddenly face all wrinkles and begins to cry loudly.
when interpreting body language always compare their findings with information expressing eyes observed. If the periorbital area looks relaxed, then most likely, it's okay. If the muscles around the eyes suddenly tense or person squints, then he focused or under stress. Eye muscles and surrounding tissues much faster than the rest of the facial muscles react to stressors, instantly reflecting the inner state of a person.
Nose
Covering nose with both hands
When a person suddenly covers his nose and mouth with both hands, it indicates the shock, surprise, uncertainty, fear, doubt, or the expectation of something bad. Such a gesture can be seen in participants or witnesses an accident or natural disaster, as well as in receiving the terrible news. According to psychologists, this non-verbal response may be generated in the course of evolution, and its original purpose was withholding the breath from predators, such as lions and hyenas. It is found everywhere.
Tapping on the nose
In many cultures, a blatant tapping the nose forefinger could mean: "This case stinks," "I do not trust you," "This is a controversial statement," or "I am closely watching you." may also have the following meaning: "I see you", "You are very clever," "I am aware of your presence" (Paul Newman and Robert Redford were doing to each other such characters in the movie "fraudΒ»).
Inflating the nostrils
Usually we nostrils (nose wings), preparing for any physical activity. If a person is upset about something, be tempted to jump up and run away, or is about to commit some violent act, he inflates the nostrils to saturate the body with oxygen. For the police it is a sign of readiness to escape. In a situation of interpersonal communication such mimetic gesture may indicate that a person should be given time to calm down and pull myself together.
lips
Full lips
Lips change shape and size depending on the emotional state. They shrink when we are tense; relax and become more fully when we are comfortable. Full soft lips point to relaxation and contentment. Capable of stress Blood pours from his lips, and flows into the other parts of the body where it is needed. the fullness of the lips can serve as a barometer of a person's emotional state.
licking lips
Language friction lips soothes us in the same way as their biting. Usually, this behavior is associated with anxiety, anxiety or negative emotions; but the problem can only be dry lips, so do not jump to conclusions. In some cases, the mimetic gesture is a sure sign of stress state. As a teacher, I often see him in the exams have poorly prepared students.
pursed lips
During the day, when we are overcome small or big trouble, embarrassing thoughts and anxiety, the lips narrow and contract in unison with our inner feelings. Sometimes subtly, sometimes so much that they become white due to the overlap of the blood access. Even if this movement is fleeting (ranked twentieth of a second), it is still very accurately conveys the sudden negative emotion.
The chin
Highly raised chin
Raised and pushed forward his chin - a sign of confidence. In some European countries (in particular in Germany, France, Russia and Italy) raised above the usual chin express pride, and in some cases - arrogance.
lowered chin
If, in response to a question, the person suddenly lowers his chin, he probably does not have enough confidence in himself or he feels threatened. Such a mimetic gesture can be very expressive and clear: some people chin literally falling down when they hear bad news or are thinking about something painful or bad.
hidden chin
Typically, such non-verbal signal using children to hide his embarrassment, to show displeasure or disappointment. They pressed his chin to his neck and refused to raise his head, sometimes even crossing her arms over her chest. So do adults men are furious when face to face with an opponent, and sometimes more, and shout at each other. In this case, the chin is designed to protect the neck in case physical confrontation.
Neck
Covering the jugular fossa
Touching the jugular fossa (depression in the place of convergence of the collarbone, under the Adam's apple, just above the sternum) or a desire to cover up her hand give anxiety, resentment, anxiety, uncertainty, or fear. Men tend to grab the throat cavity or close jugular whole hand, straightening his tie or shirt collar. Women make such a move more often, but more elegant than men - only with your fingertips.
The need to cover the most vulnerable spot on the body - a sign that something is wrong. Most likely, this element of non-verbal behavior emerged in the course of evolution as a result of numerous collisions with the predators of our ancestors, labeling it in the neck. More information about this is told in my book, "I see what you're thinking."
Tereblenie shirt collar
A man adjusts his shirt collar and pulls in the throat, or to calm down relieve stress. Calming effect is created by a combination of three factors: the protected weak spot, repeated tactile stimulus, "aired" skin under his shirt.
Massaging the vagus nerve
Vagus nerve connects the brain with the most important internal organs, including the heart. People under stress massaging the side of the neck, near the place where we usually check the pulse. There is a reason: to stimulate the vagus nerve leads to the release of acetylcholine - a neurotransmitter that sends a signal to the heart, particularly the atrioventricular node, due to which the reduced heart rate reductions.
shoulders
Shrugging one shoulder
If the person answering the question rises to the ear one shoulder, most likely, he doubts or feels danger. In combination with other non-verbal cues (hesitates to answer, firmly pressed his hands to the body) is a sign of lack of confidence in his words. When the negotiations question sounds like "What price are you willing to offer?" And a representative of the responder shrugs one shoulder, then you can bargain. The raised shoulder at the answer involves some doubt in their own words.
flirty shoulder
If a person slowly lifts one arm while tilting her head toward him and looking straight into the eyes of the other party, then it shows a personal interest. Most often, such a gesture can be seen on a date, and the properties he usually women.
Short shrug
When a person hears the question and did not know the answer, it is fast and expressive movement picks up both shoulders. Quick upward movement - it is one of the behaviors that are contrary to the law of universal gravitation, and they usually associated with positive emotions: in this case the person does not hide his ignorance, and it did not shy. This gesture is more sincere than a slow shrug (in conjunction with the answer "I do not know") or an uncertain shrug of one shoulder only.
Hands
energetic gesticulation
It reflects our emotions and attracts attention to us. broad gestures enhance the impact of our words and make communication more dynamic. In many cultures taken place accents using exaggerated gestures. An outside observer may seem that energetically waving arms person is going to rush into a fight, while in fact he is only trying to communicate more expressively.
Hands behind his back
Royal pose - hands behind his back. Queen Elizabeth, Prince Charles and other members of the British royal family to stand and walk that way, when they want to keep the distance between yourself and other people. All the rest - mere mortals - in the same way subconsciously make it clear that they need more personal space. This is not the best way to get close to a man, because it is usually associated with the gesture of detachment. What is curious, young children do not like it when parents hide their hands behind their backs.
fading hands
Response to fear or a strong impression of the incident could be a sudden fading hands. They still hang along the body, making a person becomes like a robot. Frozen hands - a bright sign that the man had just experienced an adverse event.
Torso and abdomen
rubbing the collarbone
Under stress a person begins to rub his collarbone with the opposite hand (for example, puts his right hand on his left collarbone). Hand crosses diagonally across the chest, gives a sense of security of and repeated contact with the clavicle have a calming effect. This area of ββthe body is very sensitive to touch - one of the reasons why it is considered erogenous zone.
Manipulation of lightning
If a person plays a zipper on sweater or jacket, it may tense and thus tries to calm himself. Students do so before the exam, if that causes them concern, and poker players use this movement, when the worry about money switched out through your fingers. Note that this behavior can be both calming and a way to deal with boredom.
deviation housing
Deviating from the body of the interlocutor, a man symbolically and physically distanced. We reject, if not agree with what was said. This behavior can often be seen on a talk show. We even do not always notice the degree to which we distance ourselves from unpleasant people.
Legs
territorial invasion
During a heated argument a person may inadvertently invade your personal space, stopping just ten centimeters from your face, sticking out his chest and his eyes flashing angrily. Violation of foreign territorial borders by intimidation and is used can be a precursor to a physical attack.
Offset angle
Most people prefer to speak with someone, somewhat shifted to the side, not directly face to face. Children, getting to know each other, generally approach from the side, and for good reason: because it is better to take. I noticed that when business people are standing face to face and slightly offset, their communication lasts longer. Please note that if there is evidence irritable better get up before the interlocutor angle: it will help ease the intensity of emotions.
pacemaker
Who sets the rate of movement in a group of several people, usually the chief among them. We accelerate or slow down the pace to match the oldest group party or its leader. So do even teenagers: adapt to the pace of walking the most socially active company member. It can go both the first and the last; in the second case the entire group, obeying him, trying to slow the pace. Analyzing the behavior of the group, remember that the important thing is not the one who is to come, but rather the one who sets the pace.
"Dictionary of the language of the body" - the first of its kind guide to nonverbal means of communication. Its author Joe Navarro 25 years working special agent of the FBI, and spent a lot of interrogations.
In a new book, he described more than 400 items of non-verbal communication. From it you will learn how to recognize a person's feelings by subtle changes of pupils as interpret body language, as well as many other interesting facts about deciphering signals the human body.
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