Psychology of relationships - course 10,800 rub. from Synchronization, training 4 months, Date December 5, 2023.

Block 1
Psychology: happy relationships

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What are relationships and how is love different from friendship?
The search for affection is our innate need. At the webinar we will discuss what kinds of attachments there are and what love, friendship and family ties have in common. Let's also look at:
how other people shape our psyche;
what real intimacy is and how to distinguish it from addiction;
where is the line between necessary solitude and loneliness;
what does it mean to be “reflected in another person” and why do we want it.

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How to resolve conflicts in an environmentally friendly manner
In any relationship there are fights. This is fine! Sometimes they strengthen the union and make it more reliable and secure. But sometimes even minor differences can lead to a breakup. At the webinar we will learn:

why conflicts in relationships are inevitable;
how to quarrel environmentally and at the same time resolve all issues;
what to avoid during a dialogue with a partner;
what is the Karpman triangle and how to get out of it.

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Where do relationship problems come from?
All relationship problems have reasons. Sometimes it is the influence of parents, and sometimes it is painful experience and prejudice. In the webinar we will learn:
how the style of attachment to a loved one affects our behavior during difficult periods;
what to do with a partner’s painful experience;
how to get rid of prejudices and illusions about relationships;
what it means to “see” each other and how to learn it.

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How life scenario affects our relationships
It happens that we find ourselves in the same unpleasant situations over and over again. This is often called “fate” or “bad luck”, but in fact it is the result of life’s script. At the webinar we will figure out what this scenario is and also discuss:
what are drivers and instructions and how do they form a life scenario;
how script expectations affect our relationships;
what is the stroking economy and how the lack of love and joy affects us;
How psychological games lead to toxic relationships.

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What is a “toxic relationship” and how to avoid it in time
Sometimes it’s difficult to answer the question of whether everything is okay in our relationship. It is even more difficult to admit that there is a place for psychological or physical violence in them. In the webinar we will learn:
what kind of toxicity there is: gaslighting, manipulation, abuse, codependency;
how to recognize an abuser and which people are predisposed to violence;
what is the “phenomenon of counterdependence”;
why many people stay in toxic relationships and how to get out of them.

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How to build healthy relationships
The strongest unions are based on three pillars: care, intimacy and common values. In the webinar we will learn how to feed and raise these whales. Let's also look at:
what eight needs must be satisfied to achieve love;
what is healthy symbiosis and does it exist?
why we can define ourselves through another person.

Block 2
Language of love

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Understanding what we want from a relationship
Let's find out how our ideas about love and feelings are formed, how they help and hinder building relationships. Let's analyze our relationships with those who raised us and learn to identify our emotions and feelings.

Video: Theories of Needs
Practice: Relationships with significant adults
Video: Feelings and emotions
Practice: Dictionary of emotions and metaphors

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We compare the desired and real image of a partner
Let's find out how falling in love differs from love and why rationalization and idealization are protective mechanisms of the psyche. Let's figure out how the image of an ideal partner arises, what attracts us to him and whether it can be realized in real life.

Video: Love and falling in love
Practice: Image of a partner

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Building personal boundaries
Let's understand how boundaries are formed, get acquainted with the life cycle of a family and find out why, before moving in together, it is worth living separately and getting to know yourself. Let's talk about crises at different stages of development of relationships in a couple.

Video: Psychological boundaries
Practice: Roles and Responsibilities
Video: Family life cycle
Practice: Questionnaires and questionnaires on the topic of family relationships and roles

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Establishing communication as a couple
We will learn how to maintain personal space and values ​​while being close to a partner, and we will understand why dependent and codependent relationships arise.
Let's practice speaking correctly to our partner about what doesn't suit us, and learn how to resolve conflicts in an environmentally friendly way.

Video: Contact Cycles
Practice: Analysis of communication with a partner
Video: Healthy Communication
Practice: Dialogue, triggers, conflict

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Looking for ways to show your love
Let’s figure out what actions of our partner we consider to be a manifestation of love and how we ourselves express our feelings. Let's find out what to do if you want to receive flowers and compliments, but your partner does not consider this important.

Video: Five love languages
Practice: Modalities in pairs

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Determining what is stopping you from building your dream relationship
Let's talk about how relationships in the family and with previous partners affect current relationships. Let's determine what values ​​and traditions we bring to relationships, and how this affects them.

Video: Beliefs, stereotypes, scenarios
Practice: Family values

Block 3 
Psychology of communication

lesson 1
Learning to understand what motivates people
Sometimes the dialogue does not go well and it seems that the interlocutor does not hear us at all. And often it’s all about his ego state. In this lesson, we will figure out what this phenomenon is and understand how the mental states of the Parent, Adult and Child determine a person’s thoughts, feelings and behavior during communication. We’ll also learn how to determine what ego state your interlocutor is in and how to find the key to effective communication with him.

lesson 2
Learning to resist manipulation
Hurtful hints, devaluation and hidden threats are all typical manipulations that interlocutors use to draw us into a psychological game and impose their will. During the lesson we will understand how the manipulation works and understand the Karpman triangle. We will also learn to resist manipulation and get out of the game.

lesson 3
Learning nonviolent communication
How to express dissatisfaction without threats and insults? And how to achieve what you want without resorting to manipulation? In this lesson we will find answers to these questions and learn the principles of nonviolent communication. We will understand how to build communication and not spoil relationships, we will learn to clearly formulate requests, openly communicate our emotions and communicate in such a way as to effectively get out of critical situations.

lesson 4
Learning to accept criticism and apologize competently
Sometimes we overreact to criticism. For example, we take feedback about our work as criticism of our personality. In this class we will learn how to benefit from criticism, cope with shame and accept feedback. We’ll also understand why apologies can also be toxic.

lesson 5
Learning to assert personal boundaries and say no
Sometimes even a neutral statement from the interlocutor makes us angry. Why does this happen and what to do about it? In this lesson we will answer these questions and learn to understand when the interlocutor violates our boundaries, and when we overthink ourselves. We will also understand what to do if our borders are really violated from the outside.

Block 4 
How to consciously raise a child

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What is education and parenting
Parenting is a constant search for balance. Between acceptance and demands, overprotection and permissiveness, attachment and separation. In the webinar we will learn how to find the ratio that suits you and your child and find out:
How does a person's childhood influence his future life?
What models of upbringing and attitude towards a child exist?
What are the two main functions of parenting?
Why parents don’t influence everything in raising a child
How the individual characteristics of parents, their experience and relationship as a couple affect the child

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How to show your child your love and acceptance
It is important for children to see and feel attention and care from their parents. Therefore, one of the main tasks of parents is to understand what words and actions will help their child feel loved. In the webinar we will learn how to do this, and also find out:
What is unconditional love and acceptance?
Why All Children Need Different Words and Actions to Feel Loved
What are “love languages” and how to use them
How is trust between a child and parents related to the principle of fairness?
What difficulties may arise during separation - moving a child away from a parent?

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How to talk about demands and set boundaries
How not to spoil a child, but at the same time not to reprimand him on every occasion? This is one of the main questions that parents have in the process of raising children. Let's try to find the answer in the webinar, and also find out:
What are educational boundaries and how are they related to personal boundaries?
Why are educational boundaries needed and how to set them?
Why prohibition requirements like “you can’t” and “you can” don’t work well and what alternatives are there?
What are family rules, how to formulate them and motivate your child to follow them
Why is it important to ask and not force a child to do something?

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How to respond to and manage your child's behavior
The words and actions of parents affect not only the child’s behavior, but also his self-esteem and self-image. At the webinar we will learn how to correctly encourage, thank and criticize a child. Let’s look at communication techniques and techniques, and also find out:
What is feedback for a child and how does it work?
How to praise a child so that he does not become arrogant
How to tell your child that he is doing something wrong without yelling at him or punishing him
Can punishment be beneficial?
What is active listening and how does it help improve communication with your child?

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How to meet your child's emotional needs
Children, like adults, have emotional needs. These are the needs for love, protection, understanding, compassion, support, guidance and autonomy. At the webinar we will learn how to satisfy them, and we will also find out:
Why emotions are a difficult topic for many adults
How a child’s emotional needs change with age and how parents can adapt to these changes
Why is it important to meet your child's emotional needs and what can happen if you don't?
How to help yourself if you yourself did not have enough emotional support from your parents as a child

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How the psyche and development of a child works

If parents know how the child’s psyche works, it is easier for them to understand the child’s behavior, which changes depending on age. This knowledge also helps make parenting more effective. Therefore, at the webinar we will talk about what the child’s psyche is, and we will also learn:
How a child goes from unity with his mother to complete autonomy
Why do calm periods alternate with crises as a child grows up?
What crises does a child go through as he grows up?
How to act as parents during a crisis - what helps and what hinders at this moment

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What difficulties do mothers face?
Raising a child is not an easy task for both parents. But it is mothers who face additional difficulties. We’ll talk about them at the webinar, find out how to deal with them, find inner support and strength, and also find out:
What is maternal competence and where does it come from?
Should you listen to advice and how not to get lost in a sea of ​​conflicting recommendations?
What is the “cortisol circle” and why is it important to know about the peculiarities of a mother’s emotional and physical well-being?
How is the emotional state of the mother related to the state of the child, what does the threshold of aggression and mirror neurons have to do with it?
How to replenish and carefully use resources during motherhood

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What to do if you and your partner don’t have the same views on parenting
There are more disagreements between partners on the topic of education than in other areas. Therefore, it is important to compromise where possible and take personal responsibility where it is not possible. At the webinar we will learn how to distinguish the first situation from the second, and we will also find out:
What happens to a child if close adults convey different views?
What is the “one parent rule”?
How to talk to your partner to increase your chances of being heard, and what negotiation techniques can help
How to find common goals and common ground