How to respond to criticism or rejection: tips from Seth Godin

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People love to criticize. In the case or not, with the knowledge or just passing by. So they are arranged. And many people love to express their opinions, even if they are not asked. And other people will respond to this criticism. And then tormented by doubts, do not sleep at night, and sometimes even refuse to really good ideas or throw the begun business. Because if work is love, if given the enormous amount of time and effort, if the work embedded soul to hear criticism or obtain waivers without being disturbed, almost impossible. And only a few have enough fortitude to insist on his own, ignoring the small jabs and move on towards his goal. The dog barks, the caravan moves on.

In his new book "The Icarus Deception"Seth Godin shares his experiences and advice on how to find inner calm and confidence, and to react to criticism and failure.

In his book, Seth Godin refers to people who show courage and do their work with a sense of how it is supposed creator.

"Art (the act of creation) - scary. Art is not pretty. Art - this is not a painting. Art - is not something that you hang on your wall. Art - this is what we do when we feel truly alive. Artist - is the one who uses the courage, insight, creativity and courage to challenge the status quo. And all (the work process, feedback from those with whom we wish to communicate) is an artist perceives as personal. "

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No matter how thick-skinned, we did not consider themselves, still every little prick slowly makes its simple enough matter - makes us doubt. In itself. In the surrounding. In his work. And it could make give up and surrender. Cease to strive for new heights and stagnate. The refusal of the waiver, we are less and less want to move somewhere else. Because to sit still - warm, cozy and safe. And beyond these boundaries comfort - a frightening unknown and fear of being rejected again.

And what about this says Seth:

"The changes have enormous power. But change always go hand in hand with the failure probability. "This may not work" - is not just the same thing as to be tolerant. This is exactly what you should be looking for. "

Even if about your new business plan will say that it will destroy the industry and leave many people behind, it is still better than silence and a complete lack of reaction of others.

Godin also said that criticism and the powers that be use shame to restrain the ardor of innovators.

"Fear and shame - a powerful behavior management tools. And people who are in power, using them for many years. They want them to have the ability to change us by means of shame. And we have always been taught to listen to his conscience and to swallow it all.

It's fine when you know that there are people who will try to use a sense of shame. But this does not mean that you should take it as a given. We do not work for the sake of applause. And it would be foolish to read anonymous comments online or offensive tweets "from the gallery." All this is an attempt to calm you down and make dance to their tune. Unless you want it too. "

But the interesting thing is that Seth Godin says that you can be vulnerable and do not pay attention to criticism and failure, and to continue to do amazing things.

"But if we let embarrassment become a part of our vulnerability, we allow him to destroy our work. It is impossible to do when the stakes are so high. You can not say: "If it works - good. But it did not work, I will be ashamed of, "The only way to be successful and thus vulnerable -. Is to separate the results of your creativity on your instinct guilt. And this is possible because in order to have someone could make you feel shame, that feeling should also be taken to ensure that it all worked out. You can not make us feel shame without our participation.

And then, the artist, mixing courage with a fierce willingness to refuse to accept the shame. Yes, guilty, of course! But shame - never. What is shameful is that we use our best intentions to do for those for whom we care? "

How many would have lost the world if people are constantly listening to the opinions of others? Especially for those who constantly criticizes and says that it did not work? Many wonderful works and inventions would not have appeared on the light.

What these criticisms and comments you react? Whether you're throwing something out of the caustic voices from the gallery?