5 favorite false claims about personal development coaches
Tips Motivation / / December 19, 2019
What really must admit, we have at least once, but came across this sweet bait. Sure, who does not want to be rich, famous, and happy at the same time, of course, clever! And even if we do not choose to visit at least one training, then surely Corporation cares about the personal development of each employee.
I'm not saying that all this is nonsense and you are wasting a very tidy sum. Some people are lucky with their personal trainers and they are really cool change their lives. But from the whole group of all units.
Here are the most common lies that preach about self-development coaches. ↓
Lying № 1. You can get everything you want
Have in your life everything you want to - it sounds just like in the fairy tale about the goldfish. And people like to believe in a fairy tale, because life - a thing quite complicated and not always fair. A fairy tale, and rose-colored glasses soften the harsh reality. And even if you know deep down that it does not happen, you still want to believe it. Because this
Vera It gives hope that things can drastically change: frog suddenly become a prince, and the trough become a luxury yacht.On the one hand, what's wrong with that's so light a man to instill in them hope? He's really starting to change their lives for the better! But the problem is this:
In real life, get everything you want, is simply unrealistic. Although, if only because of simple human life is not enough.
If your ear came the elephant, you can visit thousand courses to engage with the most eminent teachers, but you have absolutely no chance to become the second Pavarotti or Bach. You can not become a professional diver, if you have problems with the nasopharynx and you are suffering from chronic otitis and sinusitis - can not just physically. Yes, you will be able to approach at least one step, but no more. There are dreams that never come true. Unless you meet a fairy.
Some people sensibly evaluate their capabilities and set realistic goals. For example, grow thinStart to dance, to open a business, to start to travel, to take Buddhism and leave for Nepal - is the real goal. But those who do not understand that it is not the whole story is true story, after realizing this sad fact begin to suffer even more.
That is, on the one hand, the sweet trainers for personal growth like and do not lie, and just a little embellished. I would say, using hyperbole to express more vivid emotions. And people believe them and line up to workshops in long queues. Because it is very nice to think that after that you can get from life everything that you wish.
Lying № 2. Changes - it's easy
Who says change is easy? Changes - it is always difficult. Even positive. To change something, you need to get out of his comfort zone and sacrifice something. Depending on the magnitude of the sacrifice you are either very strongly feel the impact of the changes, or virtually not notice it (like a mosquito bite or a prick).
The greater your sacrifice for the sake of change, the greater the chances of success. If you want to lose weight, you need to give up your favorite foods; If you want financial stability, you need to tighten the belt tighter and cut down the costs (of course, on his favorite part - entertainment or hobbies).
Changing something, you are sure to donate something.
But this approach is not for sale.
Think whatever book you choose: the one on the cover of which the author will promise you the light change on the road to success life, or one in which the author tells you about the difficult decisions that you will need to take, and on the upcoming privation?
Therefore, in a brochure for the next seminar you read: "The changes - it's easy and nice" rather than something like: "You'll have to give up a lot and take a lot of unpleasant decisions".
Lying № 3. Skill comes quickly
To become a professional, you can pretty quickly. But here, in order to become a truly masterIt takes years and sometimes decades. If you are talented, you have every chance to fairly quickly master the necessary skills. But all the same in one year you become a master of his craft. To this end, in addition to talent, and need more experience. And experience only comes with time. And it is desirable to continuous development in their chosen field you: visit the courses, seminars and training in the real masters.
Quickly become a master - this is another golden bait, which peck all without exception. Because no one wants to think about what you need to spend a lot more time and money. And it is not known yet when it all pays off.
We live in a time when certain things happen faster than flying thoughts. We are always in a hurry, so almost instant obtaining master title is very, very tempting.
Quite striking example - currently fashionable hand-Maid. Ladies, visiting only a few master classes or passing a short course, such as decoupage technique, slyapat couple craft on gifts to relatives or girlfriends, and receive from them a lot of compliments, decides that it is ready to teach the skills of others. As a result, we have a lot of different courses and master classes from the people, a masterpiece which is the place in the pantry. And others are bought for a lower price, come, do not get anything and go look for the right information at YouTube.
The same thing happens now and in the SMM. Jokes about algebra will not tell. Although I can not help but notice that the audacity in this situation - it is really the second happiness. But more about that in a different article.
Lying № 4. You can program your mind for success
From the fact that you're standing in front of the mirror every morning and firmly his personal mantra ( "I am the most charming and attractive"), nothing really around will not change.
People are not robots. They can not be programmed so that they clearly followed the prescribed program.
For raising self-esteem at least for the first time and adding the determination of these tools can be very useful. But it's still not good.
All the same, you can not always adhere to a given program. Since we are being quite emotional, it often fails. And it does not necessarily have to happen something terrible for that. You just do not get enough sleep, the rain in the morning, on new pantyhose hand (the neighbor locked your car so as not to leave) - and everything, you forget about the success and positive. You just want to scream.
In this situation it is much more important is your persistence, passion, patience, and a great desire to change.
Lying № 5. All you need to do ...
And then go to instruction guru who is trying to sell you their program, you plant on your system and make more money. What worked with him, it does not necessarily work the same way with you.
Each of us has his own private road to success and your own key. It can not be limited to one.
You need to read other books, attend various seminars and choose from all this on a particle that is ideal for you.
When psychology and magic words come together, we are ready to buy into any lie, which we will present in a beautiful package with a festive bow masters of their craft. It is time to wait for the good wizard arrive by helicopter and will hold us by the hand of a ready and brighter way to the same alluring and bright future!