4 reasons why a wish marathon can work, but you don’t have to pay someone for it
Miscellaneous / / September 28, 2023
We ourselves and luck are responsible for the fact that a dream comes true, not the Universe.
What are wish marathons and why are they popular?
A marathon of wishes is a type of motivational program, the organizers of which promise that the participants will have their cherished dreams come true. In Russia, this phenomenon became popular thanks to blogger Elena Blinovskaya, who, in fact, specializes in such marathons. But she also has followers.
Marathons are usually a mix of practices from popular psychology, rituals like releasing a ball into the sky with a request to the Universe and charismatic statements from the infoguru that with him and only with him the client finally has everything it will work out.
As a rule, the program includes several fairly rational stages: formulating a desire, working with motivation, processing objections, and so on. Therefore, sometimes people who have completed such trainings say that their dreams really came true. And that may be true. Let's figure out how this happens.
Why wishes can come true after a marathon
1. Formulating a desire is already half the battle
Often, no miracle is required for a dream to come true. You just need to turn it into a goal and take a few steps in its direction. But while the desire hovers unformed in our heads, it is difficult to achieve.
For example, a person wants get rich. It seems that everything is clear, what else is there to formulate. But there are many questions here. What does “being rich” mean to our character? What amount would suit you? What will he get and feel when he achieves his goal?
Making wishes correctly is important because they give us not a vague something, but a specific destination. And also the ways we can get there. This idea is not new, there are many jokes, fairy tales, films about how a person incorrectly makes a wish to a genie, a wizard, a stranger in a red bow tie. It comes true, but the result is not pleasing.
Let's say our hero wants million. And now the character is already racing in a car, a bag of money on the seat, a knife covered in blood, and police on his tail. In the next iteration, the person will likely add the word “legally” to the query. And he will receive the money, for example, to a bank account from which it cannot be withdrawn. So, with each new formulation, even in magical conditions, the dreamer will get more and more accurate to what and how he can achieve.
In life everything is about the same. The more clearly we understand what exactly we want, the more realistically we see how it can be done with our own hands and head.
2. "After" does not always mean "as a result"
No matter how much one would like to believe in predictability and justice of the world, in life there is always a place for random coincidences, good and bad luck. Therefore, different things happen to us, including sometimes wishes come true. And if we have made a lot of effort before this, then the chances of such an outcome increase.
After all, our cherished dream did not appear yesterday. Surely we have already done something to fulfill it, whether consciously or not. So, sometimes there are comments like “I was treated for infertility five years, and after a marathon of wishes I managed to get pregnant.” And in such cases, it is curious why responsibility is shifted specifically to questionable practices, and not to the fact that the treatment finally worked.
It is not always necessary to link two events together. But we so want to believe that it was our last effort that led to the result, that we do it.
3. Confidence in fulfillment of desires changes behavior
This is one of the principles why people sometimes believe in fortune telling: “The sorceress told me that it would be like this, and everything came true.” If we believe that something is inevitable, we begin to behave in accordance with the forecast. And this often gives the desired result.
Confidence that your wish will definitely come true can work like this.
Forces action
There is a joke in which a man prays to God for a long time to let him win the lottery. A few years later the heavens open and a voice says: “At least buy a ticket.”
Confidence in the result just helps us buy a ticket, send summary to get your dream job, go on dates, look for new housing, and so on.
Gives motivation
Part of the wish marathon is visualizing the moment when the dream will come true. A person needs to imagine how he feels, how he lives, what he got as a result. It's usually nice. Much more pleasant than the path to achieving the goal itself. And understanding what you are trying for, motivates, helps to do more, better and not lose heart. And efforts usually bring results.
Helps you notice chances
You may have noticed: it’s worth, for example, learning new word in a foreign language, as it begins to appear everywhere. It seems that this is definitely the intervention of the Universe, otherwise where are such coincidences coming from? Everything is simpler: we begin to focus on the new word and notice it, and we use it about the same as before.
Belief in wish fulfillment works the same way. Let’s say a person wanted to travel around the world, but it was too slow. Because it’s difficult to organize, you have to find out, and it takes a long time, he has a job. But he made a wish and began to see advertisements for round-the-world cruises, or vacancies for a research vessel, where they would also pay a salary for a round-the-world cruise. Because the focus has shifted. And it became easier to realize the dream.
Eliminates fears and helps you take risks
Let's say, a person dreamed of a new job, sometimes looked through vacancies. But it was scary. What if it doesn't work out? And the company is too cool, there are probably a million applicants there. Plus you have to pass this interview, a probationary period...
Confidence in the fulfillment of desires, that is, in oneself, changes everything. Of course, this vacancy is especially for our hero, because his dream should come true. That’s why he boldly sends his resume, presents himself brilliantly at the interview and gets the job.
We often choose inaction as more secure. Moreover, even if, according to statistics, doing nothing is more dangerous than doing it. But if we convince ourselves of success, then it’s easier to start moving towards our dreams.
Although the risk often lies not only in acting more boldly, but, conversely, in not grabbing the first option that comes along, but waiting for the ideal one. One way or another, confidence helps.
4. The result is easy to admire
Sometimes anything can be considered a positive effect. For example, a girl wants wealth. She imagines buying herself a branded bag and going to the best restaurant in the city. Suddenly (remember the possibility of coincidences) the heroine finds the desired model at a sale, and the gentleman invites her to that same establishment. “But it works!” - the girl thinks, although she is still far from millions. When we want to believe in something, we do it, no matter what.
Why you don't have to pay for wish marathons
Although we discussed above why such activities can sometimes work, it is not worth participating in them for money. And that's why.
Information is publicly available
All these exercises with setting goals, working through fears, and visualizing desires are so new that dinosaurs may have even used them. Moreover, for this you do not need to read any highly specialized literature. So, materials on the topic can be found on Lifehacker.
Moreover, the creators of marathons also understand this. But they often argue that they are the ones who add an irreplaceable ingredient to the formula for success, without which a miracle will not happen. Which, of course, is not true, because it is not the information guru, not the Universe, but you yourself who is working to fulfill your desire.
Another argument they have in support of marathons: sports exercises are also publicly available, but it’s more effective to do them with a trainer. But a good coach is a person with education and deep knowledge. But we haven’t seen any marathon-friendly universities yet. If you want to work on goals and values with a professional, it is better to contact to a good psychologist.
Marathons give a false illusion of control
It’s nice to believe that the Universe will help you and your dreams will come true, you just need to make a wish correctly. This gives a feeling of omnipotence, because it depends on us how well we ask the Universe. And he can do anything.
Of course, this is not true. Not all dreams can come true. Let's say, make a million or get cured Can. Wake up in the morning like a princess - no. Marrying a prince is already possible, although unlikely.
The false illusion of control over the Universe prevents you from thinking realistically and focusing on those desires that can come true.
Marathons take you away from your goal
We discussed above that making wishes can provide motivation, encourage action, and generally push you towards your goal. Or maybe not. Why do anything if the Universe will sort it out on its own?
People in general tend to look for simple ways. And waiting idly while someone does something for us is one of the ways to save resources. But one way or another you will have to act on your own, even if there is an element of luck in what is happening.
They can lead to disappointment
Not all wishes come true, this does not depend on marathons. But if we believe in magic and then are disappointed, this can create installationthat wanting, dreaming and achieving in general is useless, but this is not so.
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