How not to succumb to the influence of skeptics: 7 Tips

We all among friends, colleagues, friends and even relatives (I would say, especially relatives) there are skeptics. Sometimes skeptical useful in small doses, but most often it is the bane of all new initiatives, be it the desire to start a daily exercise routine or start their own business.

Many skeptical person consider themselves something of the "inner voice of reason" at the excessively emotional, impulsive and creative individuals. And, of course, as the "voice of reason", they consider it their duty to break all your ideas to the nines its sober, analytical mind. Prevent this behavior in any case can not, otherwise you will never implement their ideas.

Even Newton said that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And so here are skeptics in your life, too, there are ways to fight guerrilla - quietly, peacefully and quietly.

To begin with, of course, you need to determine who is the most critical of all of your ideas, and depending on it to work out its strategy. It's one thing if your colleagues, and quite another - to your mother.

Before we get to the tips, I want to add that constructive criticism is backed by facts, it is always useful and help to avoid mistakes. The main thing to learn how to distinguish the former from the latter.

Protect your goal

Everything is simple: my tongue - my enemy! Especially if you are very impressionable and easily influenced by someone else. If you notice that the words of a certain person are you not the best way, and every time after a critical assessment you feel mediocre (if not negligible), or if you want to hide in the farthest and darkest corner, try the next time to keep his plans under currently. Some even have the talent - to destroy other people's dreams in an instant. A gifted to do so simply even without taking his eyes of his mouth.

Sound criticism and arguments, backed up by the facts, can be very useful. But we must be able to filter and words and people.

If possible, try to avoid such people

If possible, try to exclude such people from his circle of friends. If it is absolutely impossible (that of your family members or colleagues at work), or use the advice №1 and shut up, or try to reduce your communication to a minimum.

If your parents constantly criticize your actions, it may be time to start to live separately? On the phone, their options are limited, and the criticism is not so efficient. In the end, you can always press the Mute;)

Rate very skeptic

You are going to go on a diet and colleagues, of course, start teasing you in every possible way and tempt the wrong food. The criticism from colleagues who are overweight and unhealthy eating habits is particularly interesting.

How can I listen to criticism of your idea of ​​owning their own business from the man who worked all his life in the corporation? Some childless very fond of handing out advice on how to raise children, because of the more visible and they read a lot of clever books.

Think about how "valuable" such advice from such people.

ignore

This point follows from the previous one. If you realize that you are criticizing a person does not have the experience that you are going to do, you can turn on the mental Mute and relax. Listen to his advice and criticism - a waste of time, even if he has read hundreds of books. Often, theory and practice are very different from each other.

Buddha said: "If a man offered you a gift and you refused it, this gift is still the property of that person." If someone really wants to throw in my two cents, you can not stop him speak. You just can not listen to it and make their own way.

Do not engage in a discussion

One of the most useless action you can take is to enter into a dispute with the skeptic. He's always there 10 "no" to one of your "as if ...". If he did not have iron (in his opinion) the arguments, he would not have started to debate you.

All your arguments will be defeated, the mood is spoiled, and the time wasted. If you can not avoid a dispute, answer in one word - "good", "I understand (a)", "I will take note of," etc.

And do not forget to add this person to the list of those who should not be just to talk about new ideas.

Surround yourself with the possibilities

Rather than sink into a negative, surround yourself with positive. On average, most of the time a person spends with five people. Well think about with whom you want to communicate.

If it is a personal relationship, think about who would be able to support you in your ideas, give advice or just to cheer up at the right moment. If this applies to your work, you should consider who is an example for you to achieve goals similar to yours. If your surroundings are no such people, then you should try to meet as closely as possible with those whom you think the professionals at conferences, seminars, exhibitions, etc.

Be aware of your own vision of yourself and your life

And most importantly - do not forget about their ideals and goals. How do you see your life and yourself? What kind of people would you like to see next? Where to live? What to do?

Skeptics grumbling over your ear is a direct proof of the fact that you stick to the plan. Think about what you want, and whether or not to postpone the implementation of the criticisms of strangers?

History shows us that people who eventually changed the world - the great political, social, scientific, technological, artistic and even sports revolutionaries - have always been crazy, until they were right, and now considered geniuses.

John Eliot

How are things going with you? You control your surroundings, or environment control you?