How to stop judging yourself

Critical thinking, no doubt, is an advantage, but our ongoing assessment itself - thinking about who we are, how we fit into society, how we look in comparison with the others - it is one of the most pernicious aspects of modern life.

We are in the thrall of the same repetitive thoughts, reminding that we are lacking confidence in itself, have wronged or forgotten - or, on the contrary, what we are smart, beautiful and interesting. In fact, we connect to ourselves and those other traits, but because of the limited vision of yourself having unrealistic expectations that lead only to disappointment. And this is reflected in our behavior.

The tendency to think too much about themselves, coupled with the constant desire to compare themselves to others only increases the feeling that we are unhappy. Not surprisingly, the number of people with depression and other mental illnesses only grows.

Very often our behavior is not determined by the actual state of affairs, and our understanding of it.

You should not pay too much attention to those thoughts. Firstly, they will most likely not true. We hardly can be called an objective judge himself. Usually we exaggerate its advantages and its drawbacks. Secondly, true or not, such

self-criticism still useless, it just makes us feel worse.

Change your attitude to his own thoughts

Try to notice if you mess up your day, some happy moment or a relationship with someone panicky thoughts or criticism. Understand that it is often very negative thought, not an event event makes us feel bad.

How to learn to step back from such toxic thoughts?

1. Leave yourself reminders

Glue the leaves with reminders to the monitor (for example, with the inscription "You think back ...") or put a motivating screen saver on your phone. It is also a good reminder can be a bracelet that you wear constantly, or even a discreet tattoo.

2. Watch your thoughts

Try to train yourself to notice, for example, three first thoughts that come to your mind immediately after waking. What are you usually thinking about something practical and commonplace or immediately start to criticize and condemn?

Can you imagine the thoughts as a moving stream of cars that pass by you. Then some recurring negative thought - this is a big polluting SUV, which for a while stood next to you, and then left - and does not affect you.

More ideas can be represented as a noisy stream, draws you deeper. Every time you dive, try to ignore it and emerges. Repeat it over and over again until you will not enter into the habit of simply mark the emergence of a new thought, and not fixated on it.

3. Use special applications

There are many applications that are taught to be in the moment and just observe your thoughts without judging them.

4. accept reality

• Rather than be offended and angry because of what you do not, Rejoice what you have.
• Rather than worry about the fact that you can not control (your opinion about other people, for example), focus on what you can change, and the rest of the release.
• Instead of judging yourself and others, and accept themselves and others as they are.
• Rather than spoil your life, imagining how things "should" accept the fact that not everything will always go the way you want.

And remember, you - much more than your self.