4 of temptation, which would have to say "No"

It is very difficult to refuse job offers, especially if it is well paid. And even if previous experience has clearly shown you that contact with it should not be - too much emotional, time and energy costs. And every time you say to yourself that you can not refuse, it's an interesting project that will bring not only money, but also general recognition! And 2 days after the start berating yourself, which again got involved in this business.

The desire to sit at the same time on many chairs, as well as to catch two birds (or even more), most often occurs in young, talented and ambitious. But sometimes it is necessary to reflect, weigh the "pros" and "cons", let go and say "No". To sleep and healthier been, and remain forces to enjoy the fruits of their labors, and had the opportunity to be proud of their work.

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And again, I, like a dream in his hand, got an interesting guest post on Zenhabits from Michael Bungay Stanier, Senior Partner Box of CrayonsThat helps people make fewer good things and more Great. At this time touched upon the desire to sit on two chairs at the same time. When to think and to say "No" for the next fiscal attractive job offer. whether we are able to prioritize, allocate important and do really great things?

Saying "No" Control, I can say "Yes" Freedom

Michael recalls his boss on the first paper, which was trying to get into a project that was it somehow interesting. After a while he became the same and become more like a squirrel in a cage, than successful a person who can freely dispose of his time and prioritize according to their views.

Is the work of which we can say "like a squirrel in a cage," is so attractive? How long can you withstand the furious pace without harming both their physical and psychological health? And where is the guarantee that you are doing the really good stuff?

The only thing you can do in this case, is to separate the primary from the secondary and secondary to delay at all. And then see if the end of the world come from the fact that you decided to give up the job.

The world is still in place? So you made the right decision for themselves and for others. But do you have the guts to break the chains that forged your own consciousness?

Saying "No" Fame, I say "Yes" Friendship

You jump for joy, because you have added 100 new friends on the social network and 100 new followers on Twitter? But how long this achievement pleases you? Who are all these people? Do you feel warmer, more comfortable in dealing with them as if you were going to friendly gatherings with loved ones? And how long have you consuming communication with a virtual circle of friends? How real are these people to you and are they wasted time?

The more popular you get, the more people want to be friends with you, read your news, comment and... to get answers to your comments. Gradually, the communication in the network starts to take a lot of time and effort. That's when you begin to irritate the need to constantly be in touch, be active, attending all seminars and conferences, then why not give the brakes and good think about where you come from and where to go further.

Maybe we should look at it from a slightly different angle? Look no wider and deeper. And to add to his busy schedule, "Call the real friend." When you last met with his friends, you hear their voices and see the smiles? What is more important to you?

Saying "No" money, I can say "Yes" to the influence of

We are constantly torn between the desire to have on your card consistently twice a month a decent amount, but the work is clearly not in their dream job, and in the meantime, from what you actually burn the eyes, but that barely covers your spending rent.

Clock is ticking and your calendar does not lie to you and show you what it is you spend your precious time - day, week, month, year ???

Good work simply allows you to live a comfortable and relatively comfortable physically mentally and really great thing forces you to be on the verge, and understand that you are doing something that is changing world for the better.

You could exchange money and comfort (and standard operation) on something really important?

Saying "No" to the plans, I can say "Yes" PRESENTS

When we plan, we look to the future. Of course, plans to help us to put specific goals and somehow monitor their implementation. But apart from that, they also take up our time and attention from the "here and now". Nobody calls to completely abandon the plan. In one of the posts I have already touched on the subject of life with no plans at least for a while based on a post by Leo Babauta. The main thing is for the plan to seize new opportunities that these same plans are not included.

Also, when you compose a plan of something important and you live it, you can miss a lot. Michael leads a wonderful example of that as he waited for the publication of his book, he did not notice the summer has flown by. Do not feel it in his memory remained highlights of which will be remember in the winter.

For plans and expectations can fly our life (which we have one), and we do not notice. We must understand that the plan has a price to pay.

Your price corresponds to the real possibilities and desires? How much are you willing to pay?

I'm not saying that Michael is right on all counts 100%. But he asks the right questions, over which should think at least sometimes, in order not to lose a landmark and remember what we have been given our lives and our talents.

What do you think?