How to stop comparing yourself to others

Typically, when entrusted with some important task, you feel lost, confused, frightened and lonely. Whether it is a big project or a new relationship - a step into the unknown can scare the hell out.

Especially highly experienced in such situations, the one who used to lay out all on shelves, separate flies from cutlets, to share the life of the white and black stripes. On the one hand, I feel vulnerability. On the other, - a willingness to fight.

At first, the feeling that "all is lost, the boss," but at the same moment there is a positive attitude, and a minute later again hopelessness. However, after a while it becomes clear that the whole waterfall of emotions unfounded.

It's just a habit of constantly compare themselves and their own achievements with others. And it is no good to you does not promise. What to do to succeed? It is necessary to take a single lane, and to build it, it will take a lot of work, time and courage.

You compare yourself with your same feelings

When we compare ourselves with others - your career, personal life, or specific actions - we relate ourselves only with their own perception of that person. We will never know his true nature.

Admire certain things - work ethic, sense of humor, style of clothing - completely normal, but they are only a part of something bigger. But you never really know for sure whether everything is as it is described. And sometimes these introverts confused with extroverts.

Ignore the bluster

It's difficult. Uproot themselves from this habit completely, perhaps, impossible. Sometimes still feel resentment or envy of other people's success. But enough about us to success for everyone.

Rejoice in others' achievements when their wildly wants - is extremely difficult. But, frankly, it is an achievement it is necessary to you?! Find out exactly what you want, independent of the other.

On the other side of digits

Their sense of failure, resulting from a comparison of yourself to others, compounded by social media: Twitter, Facebook, Vkontaktikom, Instagrammom. It might seem that we all have something to show off to others except you.

However, the numbers are naked figures - be it the number of followers, balloons, husky. Just numbers. Maybe your achievement is not so tangible, but the fact that his accomplishments are extremely important to you, whether you share it with others or not.

Sometimes the most favorite things - videos, photos, projects - which are extremely valuable for you, receive the minimum ball. And that's how success is measured??? Create your own definition of success, your achievements bar. And is measured only by her only themselves!

Alone with a

It sounds a little crazy, but there is only you. You are unique. So your experience, your perception of the world is unique. That's what makes you special and amazing.

But you can just be yourself, but you can be a better version of yourself as much as possible. And no matter how you try, but you will still not be able to become someone else. Always someone smarter, higher, slimmer, stronger or richer. The game of king of the hill - in this case, a failure and physically impossible.

adequate comparison

Rightly say that you are so good, how good your opponent.

Sometimes the competition is very useful. It pushes you to expand your consciousness.

However, it is equally important - do not let your opponent to destroy his plans to build what is love and what you believe. Comparing yourself to others can be a very exhausting task.

Permanent hvastunchikov stream on the Internet, magazines, in our world, full of self-promotion, where everything revolves around your own "I", can have a very, very negative impact. If you are, of course, allow it. You want to succeed? Then you have to be the best is.

And once he said the famous English poet, novelist and essayist, Oscar Wilde:

Be yourself, other roles are already occupied.

illustrations: Stanislav Korobkov